Feeling guilty

Humbertbear, you should NOT be visiting your mum. The management at the sheltered housing are totally wrong for allowing and encouraging it. Sounds like a cop out on their behalf, they are the ones paid to protect their residents!

Do NOT feel guilty, you are doing the right thing,you are keeping conatct with your Mum by phone and keeping her safe.
Keep safe too.

With your own underlying medical conditions you should not visit your Mum. Do not feel guilty, by staying away you are protecting both her and yourself.

Don’t feel guilty Anne107 we are being told to stay at home, humberbear, it doesn’t sound like self isolating to me, so wrong

Management are wrong too Humbertbear and tbey can get fined for breaking rules too.

Your sister should not be doing what she is - that is not an essential journey; your mother will have a local group of people who can do her shopping, meds, etc. You are doing the right thing!

Humbertbear your Mother is getting lots of visitors ie carer sister and you. Wrong so wrong.!!

Your sister shouldn't be going in the house!! It beggars belief! And to stay with her?? When your sister is clearly out and about. What if she's carrying the virus, then passes it on to your mum?? Unbelievable.
Don't feel guilty, you're the one doing the right thing!

Don't feel guilty. You were doing the right thing. It wasn't as if you weren't keeping in touch.

Humberbear, totally isolating is being at home not popping to visit your mum twice a week. Your mum who had Carers and your sister visiting as well as you.
This is not following Government guidelines. Can’t you see the risk you are putting yourself in and also your husband, you could bring the virus home to him. He being vulnerable could easily catch the virus , then what ? I really cannot get why people cannot just understand what the Government is asking us to do. This virus is killing hundreds daily and people are just flaunting the advice. Stay home Humberbear, we all want to get out of this alive.

My first post. Please don't feel guilty. My mum is 91 and lives alone. She has stopped all visitors including my brother and I. My brother lives 5 minutes from her and does her shopping which he leaves at her door. I let her make the decision about visiting as we were more likely to bring the virus in with us. Must admit I was relieved she decided not to let us come as I would have felt so guilty if she had caught it. We speak everyday ... sometimes two or three times. She's had a few wobbly moments but seems to be coping well. Take care all.

We are in similar situation. Father in law has carers 4 times a day but both sister in laws also visit. We wont go as per government rules but feel so guilty. I feel that they are exposing him to multiple risks.

vickymeldrew She said a carer visits twice a week.

Humbertbear, you say you are “totally isolating” and then say you are visiting your mum twice a week ! With all the comings and goings at your mother’s, you and your sister are putting her and indeed your vulnerable husband at risk. Please stay at home as instructed.

We are totally isolating because my husband is on the vulnerable list but I am visiting my mother aged 99 twice a week. My sister who lives alone pops in on the other days. The management of the sheltered housing have said we can visit and I spend my whole time washing my hands. However, my mother has at least two different carers in her house every day and I am more worried about catching the virus there than I am worried about giving it to her.

The instruction is not to visit anyone so no need to feel guilty.

You’d feel more guilty if you infected her on one of your visits - you’re doing the right thing.

No, Anne107 don't feel guilty, your mother is being well cared for, you are following guidelines and phoning every day.