A plea for tact....

Christmas is an added sadness to a rawness you feel when you have been recently bereaved. All I can say Luckygirl is that you won't always feel this way. It is hard hearing about others spending time with their DHs but as time goes on it gets easier.

I’ve never liked Christmas as both my parents died around then, so as soon as dependant auntie went to her ‘eternal reward’, we were off to the sun!
Sadly that’s not happening, and my plan was to meet my friend in Tenerife whose husband died a couple of weeks after the Bodach, so I’ll probably be about, as I’m going to son 2’s for dinner, but won’t be lingering there.

I’m sorry, I seem to have unintentionally upset people, and I really didn’t mean to.

Yes, I did read the thread, and fully understood it was about being alone at Christmas, but the OP did say Enjoy having your partners with you at Christmas, and bite the bullet on not being able to be with all the family.

That was what I was getting at, but obviously came across as insensitive, for which I apologise.

I quite enjoyed the festivities. I have no special person and that is the way it has been since I left my marriage in 1995. No serious relationship in that time. Most sincerely I extend my sympathies to those who find themselves spending the holiday alone where once it was shared. That said it does kind of get to me that there tends to be an assumption on here that one has a DH or has become bereft of one in whatever circumstances. I wish Gransnet was not like that but it is! I'm a gran too, of 5 children. But anyway I still get something from the Forum and I wish you all all the best for the incoming year.

I don't think there is an underlying assumption about that on here Thistlelass. Some of the Grans just do have husbands so are inevitably mentioned from time to time.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

I started to read this then realised it was a resurrected thread from December 2020! I thought ‘ooh there’s .... posting again!’. Wrong sadly.

Urmstongran

I started to read this then realised it was a resurrected thread from December 2020! I thought ‘ooh there’s .... posting again!’. Wrong sadly.

I did the same thing Urmstongran!

Me too, got my hopes up for a minute

I think HQ revive some of these old threads to get a bit of
conversation going. The site is very slow lately.

I only just realised it’s an old thread! I thought something had happened overnight to put Christmas at risk again!

Yes, I'm starting to automatically check the original date of posting nowadays. So many contributors' circumstances may have changed dramatically that it 's better to be careful than to plunge right in as we sometimes do.

Same here Kim19 so many old threads popping up now.

I got quite excited when I saw a certain poster too, such a shame that yet another old thread has been resurrected.
Please start new threads!
Although I found an old thread recently that had such a lot of good Health info on it that I thought it was well worth adding to this year.

It's been interesting, for me, to see this resurrected thread - and my thoughts from last year.

I actually enjoyed my first Christmas alone. There are many compensations, after all.

I didn't miss all the frantic cooking and organising, the noise and disruption. I could eat what I liked, when I liked. I could choose to watch my favourite films, uninterrupted, cuddled up with the dog and cat.

I took a leisurely stroll around the neighbourhood, saw family on Zoom, lazed in a hot bubble bath - and ate all the chocolates. Quite a treat of a day!