Christmas day

Totally confused.com
But sympathies for your health issues OP

Right , I got the wrong end of the stick, you will be alone for Christmas as your ‘Inviters’ got the message that you didn’t want to be with them after a number of years.

So that’s ok then, see your sister?

Many thanks witzend. This old thing is not so old. More an independent pensioner who revels in having a mind of her own. Not my fault I have those around me who like to disguise caring for the one who lives alone, and loves solitude. Their offerings mainly more about them and control of another. Even if I was 95, I would still reject being managed by others

Must say I’ve heard of people being very persistent - ‘Oh, you can’t possibly be all on your own at Christmas!* despite the person’s protests that they’ll be quite happy, and in fact would prefer it.
I can imagine feelings of being very nobly kind to the poor old thing, but that’s probably my nasty inner cynic (maybe not all that inner, either ?) coming out.

Fuschiarose, just who are all these people you don’t like but try to have your company anyway. If you don’t like them, just say you prefer to be on your own. Say please do not ask again as you dread Christmas because of it. No doubt you won’t hear from them again but as you don’t like them it won’t matter. It’s best to be straight with people I think they must be very kind to keep trying.

My apologies I took it as still trying to get out of this get-together.

I could spend Christmas with my sister, but she is like an escapologist with her family. She dreams of the day, that her and I can disappear xmas and new year in a campervan or travelling abroad. I told her we would be to old and ill when that day arrives.lol

How awful for you, as if life is not hard enough just now.

Could you not spend Christmas with your sister?

Yes. I am on my own. Did have amputation, been at hospital again today. Sister picked me up. Taxi there. My sister and I were both saying today that the only thing our parents gave us was resilience. We still put flowers on our mothers grave. We cannot condemn her for her Learning Difficulty. Which we did not know about until our twenties. Also, I will only worry about things when I am dead. Our mother did her best with the limited skill set she had

I agree with Marydoll if it is true how on earth are you coping? That is really awful. I would forget about Christmas unless of course you would need a friend to help- it rather changes things I think.

Fuchsiarose, have you had an amputation? I hope it was one of those predictive texts error and not for real!
That's awful! I hope you are not on your own.

Oopsadaisy. Urggh! It's just too far from my mind ,one day, even one minute would be too long.

Stop hinting and tell them straight that you don’t want to be with them.

However, it’s only 1 day, make it your Christmas present to them.

Fuchsiarose

Not really.... I spent last five years finding excuses not to go.... even illness. But they came round Christmas to try and pick me up anyway..... the invites for this Christmas are already coming in.... these people as well. Do they never take the hint. Covid sropping me from going elsewhere.... plus the amputation I just had which will surely bring them out of the woodwork in December.lol

Can you not just tell them you are uncomfortable visiting this year?

MawB2

Do you remember the Just Say No campaign?

Just say no! (Thank you)

Hi Maw, it's quite a confusing thread.
But op isn't going anywhere for Christmas, and I think that she regrets making excuses in the past.

M0nica

FannyCornforth Fuchsia is looking for a reason not to socialise with an undefined group at Christmas. What better excuse than saying she has COVID or is in quarantine because she was in the company of someone who has it?

Sorry to reiterate this.
No she isn't. She hasn't spent Christmas with them for five years.
Please read her posts

Do you remember the Just Say No campaign?

Just say no! (Thank you)

FannyCornforth Fuchsia is looking for a reason not to socialise with an undefined group at Christmas. What better excuse than saying she has COVID or is in quarantine because she was in the company of someone who has it?

I have to ask, Fuchsiarose, have you really just had an amputation?

That's true. But where would I find such a person. Anyone know of meet a xmas dinner buddy

Fucshiarose you could enjoy Christmas 2020 if you choose a person whose company you enjoy - who is also on their own - and invite them to share a meal, socially distanced at all times, in your home on the day.
NB It does depend where you live if this is allowed.
It could be your best Christmas Day for a long time. ?

If you are now out of some social thing you didn’t like at Christmas, then what’s the problem? Better to be home on your own isn’t it?

M0nica you've got the wrong end of the stick.
OP has said that she is not going anywhere.
Therefore, she doesn't need an excuse.
None the less, it would be a bit mad (to say the least) to say that you've got long Covid when you haven't.

Ooh Monica. As my mum used to say, never tempt fate.