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Are you keeping a secret?

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Daddima Sun 18-Oct-26 14:39:15

I heard last week of the death of a lady in our village, and remembered that I knew about something that had happened to her years ago that she would have wanted kept secret. Nothing earth shattering, but it would probably have been a good piece of gossip! I realised that I have never told a soul.
Apart from family stuff, are you keeping someone’s secret, or how good are you at keeping them?

Aveline Sun 18-Oct-26 14:43:33

As an ex NHS employee I hold a lot of secrets. Confidentiality is vital.

Fallingstar Sun 18-Oct-26 14:45:40

I have kept secrets for years but forgotten some of them I’m sure. Most of the people who swore me to secrecy are now dead or have not been in contact with me for years.

Joanofarc99 Sun 18-Oct-26 14:54:05

Yes. Ive got things in my head I've never told another soul ! If someone tells me something in secret I do out of respect and friendship always keep it to myself. Sometimes it is tempting to tell someone else but I never have and hope its the same vice versa with friends 🧡

crazyH Sun 18-Oct-26 15:05:09

Yes - I have one or two secrets of my own ……..

Jaxjacky Sun 18-Oct-26 15:11:39

Same crazyH.

AGAA4 Sun 18-Oct-26 15:21:32

I don't share my own secrets and I wouldn't share anyone else's.

PamelaJ1 Sun 18-Oct-26 15:25:22

I have one at the moment but in my past I have been the recipient of many. All told to me in the confines of my treatment room.
I never divulged any of them and wouldn’t now even though some of the subjects are dead.

HowVeryDareYou2 Sun 18-Oct-26 15:26:53

As a former care worker, I kept a lot of secrets. These days, I keep a few secrets. I don't like gossip.

JamesandJon33 Sun 18-Oct-26 15:36:00

One big long standing one of my own

Emeraldforest Sun 18-Oct-26 15:56:10

I'm good at keeping secrets. I've had a few of my own over the years, nothing earth shattering but things I am a bit ashamed of.

Luckygirl3 Sun 18-Oct-26 16:04:41

Oh yes - my family will never ever know the things my late OH's illness caused him to do.

I let them keep their happy memories.

Cossy Sun 18-Oct-26 16:09:20

I have a very big secret of my own and a few others whom individuals have chosen to share with only me (so they say)

They’ll come to the grave with me.

SpinDriftCoastal Sun 18-Oct-26 16:49:21

Secrets are just that secrets. They are not to be divulged for entertainment as they werd never yours in the first place to share.

Calendargirl Sun 18-Oct-26 16:52:07

‘It takes two to keep a secret, and one of them should know nothing about it’.

valdali Sun 18-Oct-26 16:59:33

When my MiL was very unwell, she told me she knew a big secret relating to a tragedy in the family.

She'd never said anything for years previously and I couldn't think of any "need to know" that might apply, so I said that unless it was something she wanted to unburden herself of, I'd rather not know (as she was obviously told whatever it was in confidence).

I think I'd do the same again. I do sometimes wonder what she was going to say.

Oreo Sun 18-Oct-26 17:17:24

Yes, two secrets.It wouldn’t benefit anyone to know what they are so I will never tell.

monk08 Sun 18-Oct-26 17:17:59

If told to keep it a secret then my lips are sealed.
Like Aveline ex NHS in the records dept so confidentiality a must.

Georgesgran Sun 18-Oct-26 17:21:19

A friend’s secret that I’ll take to my grave.

TwiceAsNice Sun 18-Oct-26 17:48:34

As a therapist of many years I have many many secrets in my head . Confidentiality and trust is essential in my line of work

HelterSkelter1 Sun 18-Oct-26 18:04:05

Yes I have quite a few which I would never pass on. They will remain secret.
I have a "friend" who delights in quite personal gossip about others. So I never tell her anything she shouldn't know. I expect she gossips about me. I no longer care.

Beechnut Sun 18-Oct-26 18:14:43

My auntie once (reluctantly at first) told me a secret. I’ve never mentioned it to family but on receiving family ancestry it’s all there for anyone to see.

M0nica Sun 18-Oct-26 19:02:47

AGAA4

I don't share my own secrets and I wouldn't share anyone else's.

Likewise

Tenko Sun 18-Oct-26 19:26:06

I’ve a few secrets that I’d never reveal . If I’ve been the recipient of a secret , I keep my lips sealed .

fancythat Sun 18-Oct-26 19:27:26

Several. Hate them, but I dont have a choice.