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Lathyrus3

Perception seems to be very much a one way thing when it comes to hurtful or damaging remarks.

I am reporting all the parts of this exchange between Labyrus and myself because I do not believe I said that.

It may be as I said after a reference to getting about more and seeing more multi- cultural life but I dont recall it at all.

she brings no proof just a memory and thinks that good enough to attack head on.

and furthermore we should not name names. On this thread several including me have made references to a past remark that hurt us, but this is the only head on attack, and one she cannot prove.

but did not attribute it to anyone.

this is straightforward bullying and I would like you to delete the whole of the exchange between the two of us please.

Noticed it's the same people who are unkind but I do think some clearly have MH issues, best to just not answer them.
On the whole people are genuine I think but I don't ever forget it's a public forum and anyone can see. I don't do Twitter or Facebook as I value my annonominity but I have received much support on here and after about twelve years I feel I know the ones who are genuinely nice people although never met.
Sago the peope that pick anyone up for a grammatical error or typo best avoided. This machine continuously alters what I write even though I check as I go!

Ah yes. Get HQ to delete it. It doesn’t fit the image.

Nevertheless your previous post is verifiable.

Report, report, report. It’s a modus operandi Vioketsky.

she brings no proof just a memory and thinks that good enough to attack head on

But that’s exactly what you did to me Wyllow3 a few months back. Do you remember? Because I do.

HelterSkelter1

Yes the best idea is to ignore any post that is unpleasant. Don't comment. Just ignore. As if it were not there. Don't give the person any credence. Don't encourage by commenting.

There are horrid people in life and horrid posters on social media.

Agree with this. I don’t let some anonymous poster who I ‘ll never see or speak to upset me. Also I rarely see that sort of behavior . Maybe I don’t spend enough time on here.

Kandinsky

*she brings no proof just a memory and thinks that good enough to attack head on*

But that’s exactly what you did to me Wyllow3 a few months back. Do you remember? Because I do.

Did you report at the time? If not why are you bringing it up now? I think this whole thread is utterly vile

Not as vile as the nasty poster in the background who is seeking to pick some of us off one by one for NO reason.

Thank you to those who wrote on here, or messaged and emailed me with kind words. I too could have done without that lark in one of the most traumatic weeks of my life. I am never rude to posters on here, but it seems some want to rule the boards with animosity and aggression giving no thought to others' feelings.

Yes I did report at the time.
HQ will have a record of it.
I had to report ( something I rarely do )! as she came on a thread & literally accused me in front of everyone.
She had absolutely no proof ( I obviously asked for it )
It was awful actually as I know I hadn’t said it.
Which is why I had to say something about her reaction to Lathyrus3

These threads always end up like this, Tuliptree…

Kandinsky

Yes I did report at the time.
HQ will have a record of it.
I had to report ( something I rarely do )! as she came on a thread & literally accused me in front of everyone.
She had absolutely no proof ( I obviously asked for it )
It was awful actually as I know I hadn’t said it.
Which is why I had to say something about her reaction to Lathyrus3

I still don’t think you should be dealing with the issue in this way but should report the posts. But I still think this thread is vile - encouraging the dredging up of grievances, accusations of covens and bullying and now individual attacks.

MaizieD

These threads always end up like this, Tuliptree…

Which makes me wonder why they are started in the first place.

MartavTaurus

Not as vile as the nasty poster in the background who is seeking to pick some of us off one by one for NO reason.

Thank you to those who wrote on here, or messaged and emailed me with kind words. I too could have done without that lark in one of the most traumatic weeks of my life. I am never rude to posters on here, but it seems some want to rule the boards with animosity and aggression giving no thought to others' feelings.

Same here MartavTaurus. I am never knowingly rude to posters but someone on here accused me of that. I asked her to provide evidence and she couldn’t because there was none. I asked her for an apology but it never came.

We all have different views on many things and we should be allowed to voice them without being called names or being ridiculed and sneered at by people who think they are superior.

I have had countless private messages from people who say they agree with me on certain subjects but who don’t feel able to share their views online because they have serious matters going on in their private lives and being wrongly labelled racists, nazis, stupid or ignorant is more than they can cope with.

For the record, I am dredging up nothing here. It was only this last week.

I am reminded of the Disappearing Contributors part 2 thread Tuliptree.

MartavTaurus

For the record, I am dredging up nothing here. It was only this last week.

Well threads like this inevitably result in misunderstandings - various accusations flying around and comments about covens, bullying. behind the scenes plotting. Just deal directly with HQ and if you don’t like their response then you’ll just have to accept it, ignore posters who upset you or just leave if it all gets too much.

Thank you all for responding.

It’s good to hear I am not the only who has felt this way.

If it makes one or two posters think twice before hitting the keys then that’s a good thing.

For those asking what had happened, it was nothing to do with the estrangement thread as suggested, there was another thread where posters jumped on a certain word I used and kept quoting it with laughing emojis.
Also one particularly nasty poster said something totally out of order to another poster, it was rude and condescending, I did call her out on it but it went unnoticed.

Have a happy and peaceful Sunday everyone.

nanna8

Do you seriously think we would be allowed to name names ? You must be joking and if you don’t know it is good because it means you have missed the nastiness.

That’s fair - I didn’t mean I thought someone should post a bulleted list of coven members, more that I wanted to be pointed in the direction of the relevant thread(s).

I do struggle with’Some People’ accusations as they just cause hurt and unnecessary nastiness without moving the discussion forward.

Good post at 5.36 Dickens.

Sago
Starting a thread like this never ends well, just as you remember times when posters got at you then others remember times when you got at them.Besides that do you realise that your post complaining about Lathyrus wasn’t sent to the mods, you put it on here by mistake.😬
Why not just ask the mods to delete a thread that would have been better never to have been started.

I have noticed that it is at the end of a long running thread that accusatory and often personal remarks are made.
As with this one.
Perhaps once a thread descends into this it is better for the OP to remove it, despite agreeing with you Sago and posting as much.

Sago

"Gransnet an online community to support, chat and discuss."

Overall, do you not think it is? Supportive - I've seen many, many kind, informative and supportive posts on various threads recently. On 'Chat' there are posts veering off in all directions - often amusing - with smiley emojis... just humdrum chit-chat about nothing in particular, just like the conversations in real life.

On the more serious threads, one poster will perhaps support another's observations, or defend their way of expressing their POV - I don't think this means a clique is being or has been formed.

On N&P topics, there are frequently factual and informative posts made by those who possibly have experience in that particular field. You'll also get those that are more a POV from someone who feels strongly about a particular issue, and then another will appear to counter strongly held beliefs with their own. Inevitably - and it is inevitable - the debate will become more intense, and one 'side' will argue with the other. Does this mean that covens or cliques have been established? Or could it just be a poster agreeing with another poster?

There are a few nasty comments, and those that pick up on spelling and grammar, but I believe they really are a minority. As I type, I'm well aware that I'm being ungrammatical, and I don't care because I know the majority of posters won't care either and those that do and insist that you know they do can probably be safely ignored, by you, me and anyone else!

I'll say it again - I think GN overall is one of the best, most informative and supportive (and interesting) social media sites. You only have to look at the Bereavement and Health threads to see just how kind and wise so many posters can be.

Dickens I agree. I have learned a lot on Gransnet and some practical ideas from other posters.
Most on here are supportive of posters who ask for help and advice.

There are no 'covens of witches' just people who may disagree with anothers viewpoint and if a few others disagree then that is not a coven.
I started a thread once "In praise of Gransnet" and had many in agreement.

This thread has been Gransnet at it's worst.

Oreo

Sago
Starting a thread like this never ends well, just as you remember times when posters got at you then others remember times when you got at them.Besides that do you realise that your post complaining about Lathyrus wasn’t sent to the mods, you put it on here by mistake.😬
Why not just ask the mods to delete a thread that would have been better never to have been started.

Please evidence this.

I agree with Dickens (today, 11.21).

Dickens

Sago

"Gransnet an online community to support, chat and discuss."

Overall, do you not think it is? Supportive - I've seen many, many kind, informative and supportive posts on various threads recently. On 'Chat' there are posts veering off in all directions - often amusing - with smiley emojis... just humdrum chit-chat about nothing in particular, just like the conversations in real life.

On the more serious threads, one poster will perhaps support another's observations, or defend their way of expressing their POV - I don't think this means a clique is being or has been formed.

On N&P topics, there are frequently factual and informative posts made by those who possibly have experience in that particular field. You'll also get those that are more a POV from someone who feels strongly about a particular issue, and then another will appear to counter strongly held beliefs with their own. Inevitably - and it is inevitable - the debate will become more intense, and one 'side' will argue with the other. Does this mean that covens or cliques have been established? Or could it just be a poster agreeing with another poster?

There are a few nasty comments, and those that pick up on spelling and grammar, but I believe they really are a minority. As I type, I'm well aware that I'm being ungrammatical, and I don't care because I know the majority of posters won't care either and those that do and insist that you know they do can probably be safely ignored, by you, me and anyone else!

I'll say it again - I think GN overall is one of the best, most informative and supportive (and interesting) social media sites. You only have to look at the Bereavement and Health threads to see just how kind and wise so many posters can be.

I agree. GN is very informative.

Though I dislike my spelling and grammar commented on, I do know -- best ignored. I laugh to myself, consider source of the comment. Moo.

Maybe it is time to get rid of this thread in a puff of smoke now ? I think the best policy is to avoid and never answer those that make hurtful comments because they are certainly in the minority.