Instant dislike

I think three is a difficult number of people for a social event. I realised that when I tried to do things with my two best friends and it didn't work at all. I did dislike someone once only to find that, when I spent time with just them they were really lovely. Which changed my mind about my gut feelings. However I did join a U3A group and had to stop going as they made me feel so unwelcome.

I hate to say that my older sister can be difficult to take in large doses. I love her to bits but have to admit that I find her abrasive manner bordering on rude highly irritating and have told her so, but she never listens. However a group she joined lately sent a couple of the group to talk with her privately and the upshot is she was told that they didn’t think she was a good fit for the group. She has been in high dudgeon ever since.

Esmay

I feel guilty as I'm supposed to be a Christian ,but I find some of our church ladies really cliquey and some of them are unpleasant.
One of them comes to our exercise class and she's rude and argumentative with the teacher .
My old teacher would have asked her to leave after one session .
I saw her at church last week and after three years my opinion hasn't changed .

Christians are human! - or so I find ....

Have just been invited for coffee at a friend's house- just me and another friend from the group. The other lady not invited. Gosh.

Enjoy the old guard Aveline.😀

Our yarn group has grown from 3 of us to about 15 now if everyone comes.
It has changed quite a lot over the 10 years since I joined.
You can only really speak to people who sit next to you.
A new young woman has recently joined. She has some health problems so doesn't go out to work and is hard to chat to because she never instigates a conversation.

I think we've all become less cliquey and more inclusive thanks to her.

An abrasive personality joined my old book group, boastful and annoying. It was generally agreed she was a coughdrop, so the unofficial organiser sacked her! Rather him than me and took some courage.
I sometimes see (and hear) her at church bazaars etc. and quickly hide😁

There's a woman who's joined a group I'm in and I find her very hard work. She's new to the area, and seems to think she's come to the sticks to show us all how things should be done. For years we've had a Facebook page that we use to announce things - nothing earth-shattering, just whether we can attend or not, news about the purpose of the group etc, and she's told us that we aren't being inclusive as she doesn't use FB. Fair enough, it's not compulsory, but it's free and easy to use, so if she doesn't want to use it it's up to her, but we aren't going to close our little group page for her.

She's also objected to the way we collect our subs, and various other things, although she's only been to two or three meetings. We are a happy and informal group, and weren't looking for her 'advice'. I'm always happy for new members to join us, but I rather hope she decides we're not for her.

I was recently told by another member of a quite large group that they really didn’t like me at first but have decided now - after several years - I’m all right. Oh good. 🤣. I’m not sure what she thought when I laughed.

This person has a reputation for plain speaking. I rarely spend much time with her. I don't dislike her, just little in common. It takes all sorts.

cornergran

I was recently told by another member of a quite large group that they really didn’t like me at first but have decided now - after several years - I’m all right. Oh good. 🤣. I’m not sure what she thought when I laughed.

This person has a reputation for plain speaking. I rarely spend much time with her. I don't dislike her, just little in common. It takes all sorts.

This reminds me a woman from our church craft group. She won a bunch of flowers in a competition on FB and I congratulated her and said how lovely they were. She blocked me. Charming!

In 1976 I went up to Aberdeen with my then boyfriend to stay with a university couple he was close friends with. She and I hated each other on first sight.
We later became the best of friends until her death 7 years ago. It turned out that I was jealous of her because she was married and she was jealous of me because I was (apparently then) beautiful. It took us a few years to realise how close we were and losing her was devastating.

Someone new joined a group I was in, a few years ago. Later that evening, I fell down a step in the host’s house - other people came over to make sure I was ok but she just laughed at me and said it was funny.

At another meeting, just after my sister died of a brain tumour, people were being very kind to me. This person asked how old my sister had been. When I told her, she said she knew someone who had a brain tumour as well, but he’d been younger than my sister when he’d died so it was worse for her to lose a friend than me losing my sister. I was speechless!

I avoided her after that and then we moved anyway. Curiously, a very old friend of mine later met her and they struck up a great friendship - I could never quite get my head round that.