A quote for those blessed with a spouse:

I know what you mean Doodle, its just over 19 weeks I am still crying on and off every hour of the day,and night, cant eat, sleep or anything. I miss his smile his humour his friendly pat on the butt as goes past his very being in the house its just a big empty space all the familiarity left with him. He wasnt a forgetful guy we went and did everything together but this time he left and forgot to take me with him and now im heartbroken and totally lost. I miss him so very much it hurts, i think i will probably flounder for as long as it takes to re unite me with my Mr Wonderful. I doubt time will heal how I feel. Thinking of all those muddling through this, take care xxx

I rarely post but just had to do so on reading of your sudden loss Basgetti, I am so sorry, may your beloved husband rest in peace

BlueBelle

I m grateful I got rid of both my spouses 🤣

My sentiments exactly!

Absolutely.

That was to kitty not bluebelle.

every day I wake up and expect him to be gone because I cannot believe how lucky I am, and why on earth does he want to be married to me? so I thank my lucky stars for each day that he sticks around, I have more baggage than Gatwick airport but he supports me through all my physical and mental incapacities, and I know I would actually be dead if it was not for him, not just a figure of speech but the actual truth, so I am forever grateful that I met him.

My DH is a saint he is 87yrs old ..and I have bad painful knees so can't do much but he vacuum shops cooks for me don't know what would do without him xxx

Very very true, I always thought I cherished my DH especially during an extremely difficult last two years, but after loosing him in October I do question whether I truly realised how special he was. Obviously not all spouses deserve to be cherished! But live your life for the present because no one can foresee the future 🌹

I’m terrified of my husband dying. He’s 11 years older than me tho thankfully still fit. Regularly tell him “don’t you dare die!!!”

I met my Mr Wonderful when I was 14 and he was a young Fleet Air Arm sailor. Married when I was 18 and he was 21. Adored by both my parents - often said that had we ever broken up, he would be the one taken in by my parents!! Sadly lost him , unexpectedly, to a DVT in the pelvis which didn't show up. Had it happened today he would still have been here - medical science moves on. He was only 66 and now aged 91 I miss him as if it was yesterday.

Thank you so much everyone for your very kind words.

To all who have recently lost love ones my heart goes out to you.❤️

One’s just out of hospital and it was a bit touch and go for a while. Very scary. We’ve been married 59 years ( of course I was only 12 when we got married ) 😉

Ones = mine’s

Good to hear your husband is recovering well nanna8 after a scary hospital admission. Such a relief for you all, it brings into sharp focus what is truly important in life doesn’t it?

Macaydia only just found this quote. It is so true. I was lucky enough to find the other half of me when I was 16 and he was 18. My brother took until he found his third wife to find the other half of themselves.

The biggest compliment my brother gave me after dating my sister in law was he finally understood what my husband had. I told him finally someone else for
me to love. I have said the same thing many times without love you don't grieve. For all grief gets worse as the years go by I am so happy I had the other half of myself. But the moment he took his last breathe half of me died to and haven't been whole since. But because of that love and him knowing the real me and I the real him I can face everyday . My husband had to die he couldn't be saved . He was given 5 years to live he lived 3 . He wanted to reach his 47th birthday and promised to get him there . He died 4 days later at home in our bed with the children. I had to tell him to stop struggle we would be ok he died few minutes later.

For all it hurts after 22 years I am so glad we had the 29 years and married 22 years . Some people live their whole life and never find the other half of themselves. Grief is the heavy price we pay for that love but I am glad to pay it.

Would have been our 45th wedding anniversary last month but I wasn't sad . I remember all the things that went wrong that day but also remember our first dance and my husband singing to me . It was once ,twice three times a lady by Lionel Richie .

Can't remember why we picked that song as our song was Send in the clowns by Judy Covington.

Macaydia thank you for bringing that memory back. 🫂

I was hoping to share positivity in the gift of two souls sharing a life, currently. Didnt mean for the post to take a turn down the Bereavement Avenue but conversation on GN just flows the way it must. I send my condolences to those who stand alone but now, those who stand together, reflect on the gift which you will find memorialised in the grieving comments, that are sincerely shared.

I understand your wanting to share your joy and positivity here Macaydia, though I'm also sympathetic to others who have lost. The thread is probably best suited to the bereavement heading now.

This is purely an observation, that on GN and in life generally, people are good at commiserating over sad or bad things, but often find collectively rejoicing joyfully over happy, positive things much harder to do.

rejoicing joyfully !!
Silly me. It's the heat! 42 degrees here today. My brain is a melting mess.

One thing to note, though is that I am not sharing MY joy because I have none. My DH just died recently and my DC is terminally ill. I am sending joy, reminding those who are blessed with a spouse to en-Joy. Because I have lost mine - no sympathy needed. It is life.

You are so very generous Macaydia. 💐

kittylester

I am thankful for my spouse - he is collecting fish and chips as I type.

I have read through all of the posts and reflections more than once and I like KittyLester's the best. That is full of joy.

MartavTaurus

You are so very generous Macaydia. 💐

Thank you.

Wasnt there a saying about misery knows no company or something like that?

I lost my Wonderful Man in february I am truly heaetbroken he was an amazing man. So thosw who can love your spouses like theres no tomorrow dont put off till tom do it today, now as tomorrow maybe too late, and you will be devastated. I lived by that and had 57 glorious years it was advice given to me in the early years along with "dont go to bed on an argument". It works xxx

Thank you Macaydia. Obviously, i sain that 'tongue in cheek' as i really do appreciate him - most of the time.

I am so sorry to hear your circumsrances and hope you are ok. Thank you for starting this thread.