Have you even unknowingly put your foot in it?

One of my DCs had a little boy over to play once and I spent the whole afternoon calling him Phoenix. When his parents came to pick him up and I said I hoped Phoenix had had a good time, they went a bit quiet and one of them said rather frostily "His name is Felix actually."

Join the club. Foot in mouth is my default setting. I was once talking to another mum at a PTA meeting and she was telling me the names of the headmaster’s children, joking that they were very posh names (can’t remember what). I said !well at least they are better than (two other names)’ to which she replied “they’re my son’s names!”

Castle25

Years ago when being shown round a relatives new home they were discussing all the decor changes they had to make. I mentioned they would be keen to get rid of the wallpaper in the master bedroom. Yes dear reader it was the only room they had completed
I have put my foot in it so many times I now try to say as little as possible

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Years ago when being shown round a relatives new home they were discussing all the decor changes they had to make. I mentioned they would be keen to get rid of the wallpaper in the master bedroom. Yes dear reader it was the only room they had completed
I have put my foot in it so many times I now try to say as little as possible

I do it too. But one of the worst occasions is when I once met the head of the geography department at the school I taught in whilst dining in a restaurant with my DH. On Monday morning at school I passed him in the corridor and said how nice it had been to bump into him at the restaurant with his mother. At this he bristled and said that actually it was his wife before striding off. Fact is we hadn’t done introductions it was just a fleeting ‘hey fancy seeing you here’ when I saw them in the restaurant.
I tried very hard to avoid him from that time onwards.

I don’t know ……

Almost all the time!

I asked a dear friend how his Mum was, I’d forgotten she’d died a few months before!

I’m always doing it and it’s a nightmare, I simply need to lear to keep my mouth shut sometimes. It’s never deliberate not malicious.

I was on a computer training course & knew one of the male trainers, I asked him how his girlfriend was as I knew her on a general chit chat basis at work and she was always talking about him & I'd see them around arm in arm. He went red and said "she's just a friend"! I said "Oh! She's always speaking about you fondly". He insisted she was a friend. The female trainer with him burst into tears and ran off. Turns out they were engaged, I was completely unaware of his fiance.

Bazza I did something similar. I asked someone, "when baby number 3 was due" She replied, " I haven't lost my baby weight." It's amazing how fast the group of people with me disappeared.

I’ve just remembered asking the young and very attractive doctor who was poised to give me a lumbar puncture when her baby was due and she said he’s six months old now. She was very trim but still had a tummy and was probably very conscious of it and I felt dreadful. Fortunately she didn’t take it out on me!

I did for years. As a child I used to be taken on outings to see Father Christmas, zoos, shopping with a very nice blonde lady. I would have been about 3.

Over the years I would ask my parents who this lady was. She had been kind and I still had a Wade ornament she'd given me. She just disappeared from my life but I never forgot her. Much to my parent's dismay I expect.

So until I was about 60 I would occasionally try to jog my parent's memory about her. She'd been a memory I had never forgotten. My parents would just look at me and shrug, saying they had no idea what I was talking about.

I was sat with my gorgeous Mum one day and she told me who she'd been. Mum was about 86 at this time and had decided to tell me what had happened

Apparently my father had had an affair. Blonde lady had been his mistress and for some reason they thought I was too young to remember so she'd take me out.

So yes, inadvertently putting my feet in it for decades!

I’d say I do it frequently!

Helped by the foot in it 😂

Oreo

It’s more unthinkingly than unknowingly isn’t it?

Yes. The words seem to come out of your mouth of their own free will!

M0nica

How can you know about something you did unknowingly?

You realise afterwards and go hot and cold and remember it for ever!

Yes, I have.

We all do it at times.

It’s more unthinkingly than unknowingly isn’t it?

M0nica

How can you know about something you did unknowingly?

Because one doesn't realise it until the other person responds or reacts.

My speciality used to be asking people I didn't see regularly how their partner was, only to be told they had split up some time ago.

Asked a Bank clerk whether she was pregnant 😫- glad we’ve got internet banking

How can you know about something you did unknowingly?

On mumsnet there are always lots of complaints from pregnant women not being
offered a seat on the tube, bus or train. But which man or woman would dare to assume a woman is pregnant when in fact they may be just chubby. Unless they are wearing the baby on board type badge of course.

Probably. But if it was unknowingly I wouldn't know.

unfortunately it seems to be my default setting

I have been asked several times by one person ,"How's my father?"
Telling her that he's passed doesn't seem to sink in.
The one question that has filled with dread is wondering if someone is pregnant or fat .
I have made that mistake once .
I felt absolutely terrible over it.
She laughed.

An occasion that sticks in my mind that was very funny .
A few years ago -at a church lunch one of my friends ,who had been sitting chatting to our Vicar suddenly turned to her and asked "What do you do for a living ?"