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Do you wear a wedding ring?

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Macaydia Fri 15-May-26 05:29:40

I am widowed buy I wear my wedding ring so interested strangers think I am claimed. When I lost my husband, I put his wedding ring on a necklace aroynd my neck as I cried. I dont like jewelry so I have put it all away, now. If you are not married, do you wear special jewelry for comfort or strength? Did you wear a ring every day, if you were married? If widowed, did it change fingers, other hand, or get put in a drawer? Was it sold or given to a relative? (Just bored and wanting some stories).

NanKate Thu 28-May-26 20:15:45

Not in the hot weather.

MissAdventure Thu 28-May-26 18:00:01

I love rings, and earrings, even though I don't wear any really.
To me, as a child, tey were "treasure" that featured in books.

absent Wed 27-May-26 05:28:36

I was obsessed with rings of all kinds when I was a child, even the tacky Woolworth ones. Nowadays I wear a plain gold wedding ring that belonged to my grandmother and a selection of other inherited rings with various different precious stones. Today's choice is neat little ring with alternate diamonds and emeralds on my left hand and a sapphire and with two smaller diamonds on my right hand.

Macaydia Wed 27-May-26 05:13:11

Maybe have a jeweler cut the ring and intwine it with the other permanently then creatively add the art to the borders of a picture frame that holds a dear photo. Other small random items can be added around the frame throughout the days - miniature things of the memories that make you feel blessed in knowing him.

Macaydia Sat 23-May-26 13:44:28

KathrynP

I wear my wedding ring on my left hand and my late husband’s ring on a chain around my neck at the moment. My ring is engraved all around with flowers but they are worn now. I’m hoping to be able to have the rings combined and engraved again. My husband died this year on Valentine’s Day so it’s early days. Have you creative ladies any other ideas what to do with the ring I don’t want to consign it to a box in the drawer?

KathrynP, I will give this a creative think but havent any ideas yet. Mainly, I just would like to say I am sorry for your loss. I am so sorry. flowers

HowVeryDareYou2 Sat 23-May-26 10:35:27

I've been married for 46 years but haven't worn a ring for about 42..... I'm quite a bit heavier than before I had my sons, but I also have an allergy to nickel.

Westcoaster Fri 22-May-26 22:52:22

DH died 5 years ago and I still wear my wedding ring. He’s not with me but he’s still my husband and always will be.

posset Fri 22-May-26 22:30:08

Stopped wearing my ring after my divorce in 1987. Now, after marrying my lovely H 3 years ago I have remained ring-free, I just don't want to wear one. Also haven't changed my name!

gentleshores Tue 19-May-26 03:33:25

I empathise with those who posted who would like to wear them and can't any more for health reasons. Maybe it could be worn on a chain round the neck instead?

I don't wear one as I'm not married to OH. Prior to that I was married twice. First time I wore my wedding and engagement rings but regularly had problems with swollen fingers - had to have it cut off and made larger, Then smaller, then it snapped after being made larger and smaller. By then we were about to get divorced anyway!

Second marriage I just skipped it. Had an engagement ring as a wedding ring, which I didn't wear very often and it was a bad marriage. Since then I've never worn rings and I don't miss it. My fingers just don't seem the right size and shape for rings! I had too many injuries from catching my first wedding ring on things! I actually feel more free for not wearing jewellery. On rare occasions I'll wear a necklace or a bracelet grandson made out of beads.

Estrellita Mon 18-May-26 12:54:37

I wear mine all the time night and day. In and out of water. I used to wear my late mum's wedding ring too but sold it to get some much needed cash which I regret to this day.

MickyD Mon 18-May-26 10:20:20

I always wear both. They’re only taken off for cleaning or being redipped then they’re straight back on. I’ve lost a little bit of weight and the engagement ring is swinging a little so I took it off recently for gardening then straight back on. My husband wears his all the time too.

KathrynP Mon 18-May-26 02:29:46

I wear my wedding ring on my left hand and my late husband’s ring on a chain around my neck at the moment. My ring is engraved all around with flowers but they are worn now. I’m hoping to be able to have the rings combined and engraved again. My husband died this year on Valentine’s Day so it’s early days. Have you creative ladies any other ideas what to do with the ring I don’t want to consign it to a box in the drawer?

Kartush Sun 17-May-26 23:42:56

I wore a wedding ring for probably the first 10 years of my married life, then we bought a working farm and jewellery was too dangerous to wear around moving machinery so I stopped. My husband never wore rings so he didn’t care we are both of the opinion that you don’t need a piece of metal wrapped around your finger to feel married, but that is just us.

FranP Sun 17-May-26 23:39:48

Cannot get mine off.

lizzypopbottle Sun 17-May-26 23:36:24

I stopped wearing any rings when I took up karate thirty years ago. We're not allowed jewellery for safety when sparring and also because we don't allow personal adornment. We're supposed to practise humility! 😎 It became too much faff to keep taking rings off and putting them back on. It's academic now because I can't get my rings on, let alone get them off!

Lesley60 Sun 17-May-26 23:00:59

I was sentimental with my wedding ring in my first marriage it was very wide 22ct gold and I remember how he had to save so hard for it, and we were teenagers
My second marriage I’m not at all sentimental although I always wear a wedding ring this one a narrower yellow gold band.
When I mentioned to my husband on a special wedding anniversary that I wished L had chosen white gold he bought it for me along with a new white gold engagement ring and I wear whichever I feel like on the day
I know very spoilt and fickle

Fradders Sun 17-May-26 22:15:02

I wear my late husbands wedding ring,I have been a widow 28years.I had another relationship with a widower for 10years,I still wore my wedding ring,I will never remove it.

Grandmama Sun 17-May-26 21:35:14

Always. Years ago before I was married someone told it was unlucky to take a wedding ring off so it's been taken off twice.
Once when DD1 was born and my fingers swelled with the epidural and second time when it was cut off at A&E when I broke my wrist. Still wearing it in widowhood.

Eternaloptimist Sun 17-May-26 20:57:29

I never wore my wedding ring much during my marriage as I never really liked it. However, since I have been widowed I had his signet ring melted down and remodelled into a beautiful ring by a young jewellery designer. I wear this ring all the time on my wedding finger.

Nansypansy Sun 17-May-26 20:52:27

I was married in 1972 …. The ring was my birthday present that year. I have been separated for 14 years and I do wear it simply because I really like the ring.

Grandma2002 Sun 17-May-26 20:36:33

Yes I wear my wedding ring I have never bothered taking it off.

Salh Sun 17-May-26 19:35:24

I have been widowed for almost seven years and still wear my wedding ring. I wear my husbands wedding ring on my right hand

valdali Sun 17-May-26 18:28:13

I never notice if people are wearing a wedding ring or not, I was surprised though when my first one wore out (think it was Woolies) how many people asked if I was single, or people who knew us asked if we were divorced. Found it annoying, so I was pleased when DH got round to buying me a new one 18 months later.

PaperMonster2 Sun 17-May-26 18:21:04

Getting married soon but won’t be having a ring.

62Granny Sun 17-May-26 17:54:47

I had to have my original wedding ring cut off as it was digging in to my finger it was a 70s wide one, I had it re -modelled into two rings, one for my DD with a amethyst stone in it , I have had two more rings that I wore as wedding rings, only one DH 😂 I currently wear one like an eternal knot which I like but it has got a bit miss shaped as I have caught it and buckled the band underneath, not sure how. Perhaps another one for our golden wedding in 2 years😍