I have just watched a short film where a woman, accompanied by a man, touches the arm of passers by and then displays an open palm which she then closes. This apparently is the universal sign for "Help!" Anyone witnessing this should approach the person and ask if they need help. I am posting this because I think it should be more widely known. Please pass it on.
I thought asking for Angela was asking for sanitary towels? Or is a different girl's name . I didn't know about tapping someone on that arm . If anyone did that to me I would ask them what did they want .
When I was a teen and young woman we would have just shouted help .
It's ok to have codes but unless they are published in places people can regularly see how are we supposed to know . Bus stops ,train stations ,toilets places where people regularly go should have posters explaining the signals and how to help.
That’s the point of the I need help sign, you don’t need to say anything, but Ask for Angela is useful if the woman is seeking refuge because she is being followed, for example.
I agree skydancer. If the woman/girl is up at the bar with the man in question he would hear her asking for Angela and could well know what she is doing.
If the woman is at the bar on her own or in the loo she would easily be able to say I need help. I think I have read that sometimes the asking for Angela doesnt work as the staff havent got a clue.
Yes it’s been around a while and is universally known Because Skydancer if you ask for help the abuser knows you’re asking for help but if you ask for a name it’s just that Trouble is everyone knows the ploy probably by now including the abuser As for the hand signal that’s only useful if everyone knows about it most men and maybe women passing by wouldn’t think twice about it even if they saw it. I ve yet to meet anyone whose tried either let alone be understood
Yes, what is the recommended action for the tapped person. I’d never heard of this and think that occasions when a woman who could make the sign but couldn’t walk away from the man herself must be quite rare.
You don't go up and tap strangers on the shoulder - the idea is to unobtrusively touch them as you pass them (maybe bump into them) to make them turn around and behind your back you do the hand sign - which is palm out, then fold the thumb in and then the fingers on top. Or when whoever you are with is not looking make the sign to someone across the room.
I saw a couple of videos where they tested it out and it seemed to work in a lot of cases, mainly with youngsters.
I’ve never heard of it, so I’ve just Googled. It seems to have been created by a women’s group in Canada in 2020 and spread via TikTok. There’s no mention of tapping strangers on the arm, though, which I think could be dangerous in itself.
At least I’ve learnt something today, so thank you.