Love Languages

Which page are you on, is it the words of affirmation, quality time etc or something completely opposite?

It sounds potentially very interesting but I don't have a sufficient grasp of the language to understand what you are on about fancythat please explain further.

Oh, I thought I was about to compare the merits of Duolingo and Babbel.

Further explanation, as I understand things

People show they love each other, using different ways, shown above.
And people prioritise those ways differently too.

Wasnt particularly going to go into detail about DH and I but here goes!

I go by words.
I will say, I love you, thank you for what you are doing etc etc.

DH prefers physical touch. Cuddles etc.
And if he apologises, he doesnt say sorry. He will do an act of service instead.
Such as a chore or diy, that I have been asking him to do for a while.

So between you there are words of affirmation, physical touch and acts of service. Not really sure what the problem is.

There isnt one.

I am on Chat. For Chatting.

I have just finished reading the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman recommended by my therapist. I found it really helpful in understanding why my marriage came to a catastrophic ending. My needs are definitely quality time, acts of service and words of affirmation. Very difficult for my “ love tank” to be filled when my wife decided to move to a Canary Island for months at a time.
I’m now in a wonderful relationship with someone who can give me what I need in my life and who makes me happy and I can do the same for her.
I’m not really one for self help books but I really recommend this book for understanding relationships and what our own and our partner’s needs are.

Yes. It took me ages to realise quite how different DH and I were on this subject.
Once you know, it makes things easier.

I don't think I have one which is why I finished up on my own.

If I had one it would be this:

Don't treat me like an idiot

It's an interesting concept, isn't it, about people being at odds with each other and not understanding why.
My late- forties son cannot apologise, but acknowledges his mistakes by actions to make reparation.
I don't have any problem saying " sorry, I messed up", but I am aware of others for whom this is a real problem.