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People Pleasers

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Cossy Wed 12-Feb-25 14:31:29

I was a people pleasure since a very young child, until about 6 years ago, at 60, when I thought “life is too short”.

I very politely decline ANYTHING now, I don’t really want to do, unless it’s an emergency for close friends or family.

It’s a relief!

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Fartooold Fri 14-Feb-25 07:50:38

I am pathetic I cannot say no, that’s why I adopted 6 children! Glad I did though.
Seriously I cannot say no it does come across that I am weak. I do wonder if it is anything to do with the job you had!

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Millie22 Fri 14-Feb-25 08:28:31

The problem is so much more difficult with a family member as I have found in the past.

It is such a relief to be able to step back and say 'sorry can't manage that'.

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Oreo Fri 14-Feb-25 11:44:47

A good technique is to say ‘ I’ll get back to you on that’ which takes away the immediacy from something and gives you time to think, easier than an outright no.

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Warmglovesandsocks Fri 14-Feb-25 13:55:41

I was a people pleaser Cossy when I was small. My Mother left me twice so I became a pleaser in case she left me again! I think she felt I was very boring after that!

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