Am I asking too much

... the fact that he still felt put-out later in the day implies that he really begrudged having to do this for you.

I think you should tell him (when you feel a bit better) that you're really sorry you wasted his precious time and that in future you will ask a friend or neighbour to help out, should the need arise, as you don't want to inconvenience him again.

Make him feel guilty. Because that is what he is doing to you - making you feel guilty for him losing his lunch break.

I suspect the prescription was for an antibiotic? If so, the sooner you take it, the better, because it takes a while for it to reach a critical level in your system, before which it won't be effective.

Be well .

So sorry you're not well and he made you feel worse by making a fuss about a little thing that he should have been happy to do and grabbed a sandwich at the same time. It's not like you were asking him to take a week off work to look after you.

I can relate to this at the moment as I am getting similar. Even to the point he complained I spent so much time in the bedroom. Well yes I couldn't get up for four weeks! But somehow it's my fault for making his life different.

Yes some men are selfish. I'm getting the thing now having done everything for years, and not being able to do as much, of him being grumpy.

@GrannyIvy - I hear you. I have to say I have given up now. I couldn't stand the mess, untidiness and everything in the wrong place but I've given up and accepted it is what it is!

Thank you all for your support and kind wishes, it helps xx

The tit for tat response I personally would find mentally exhausting.
Not to mention sad 😔

No you are not asking too much at all. Just ask him and ignore the complaints. And remember not to be too available when he needs something done or is ill. Hope you feel a lot better soon. I think you need a change of attitude...if you can't change the husband!

Have faith in Karma.

Of course you are not being unreasonable! He is a misery .

In my personal experience these men (it is more often men) have a deep need to be noticed and appreciated by “others” outside of the home/family unit.
It’s a bit fashionable to call it narcissism- I’m not qualified to say as such, but, they really do seem to care more about what others think of them, hence coming over as charming and genial etc etc to these others.
What is to be done though?

Another thought. It’s time other people saw this side of your husband. When they say what a nice guy he is reply ‘Actually, he’s not. It’s all a facade’ and tell them!

To be honest, I’d be thinking about leaving him, unless he has some wonderful attributes you haven’t told us about.

Is it too late to leave the bastard after 35 years 🤷‍♀️

No you are not wrong to be upset .
You don't feel well and you're disappointed with his reaction .
When he is sick - do you nurse him ?
Maybe , ask a friend or neighbour to get your prescription should you need medication .
I'm sure that there are unselfish loving husbands , but I don't know any .
One of my friends was rushed into A and E in heart failure .
The surgery was dangerous.
It was touch and go as she didn't come out of the anaesthetic for some time.
When she woke up her husband wasn't there .
She waited and waited for him to visit .
Apart from the terrible health scare that she had -her greatest pain was to find out that whilst she was in surgery her husband was enjoying a long lunch with an attractive colleague .
I have never liked nor respected him .
Now he is possibly very ill .
No doubt , he'll expect tender loving care from her .

Get well soon .

TheWeirdo

I don't know how you've been brave enough to put up with that p***k for a whopping 35 years.

I'd have done that time for his brutal murder!

What a horrible selfish me-myself-and-I idiot he is.

I wish you well.

I think he’s being a selfish grump!

Wishing you a speedy recovery

At least he remembered, mine wouldn't have!

I had a husband like that. Never came to hospital appointments, etc. It's so hurtful. I don't blame you for being upset.

It's just selfish behaviour.. has he ever been any different?

I don't know how you've been brave enough to put up with that p***k for a whopping 35 years.

I'd have done that time for his brutal murder!

What a horrible selfish me-myself-and-I idiot he is.

I wish you well.

Yes, he’s being unreasonable, no wonder you feel upset. It wasn’t a big ask on your part, he should have done it willingly, not grudgingly. If the boot had been on the other foot I bet you’d have done it for him without any complaint.
I hope you feel better very soon, then show him this thread 💐.

Men are much more selfish than women. They put their needs first and foremost, even before their own children. Of course, there are varying degrees but at the end of the day they are all fundamentally self preservationists on some level. I don't think it's just socialisation either. I really believe that it's an innate part of their make up, their psyche.

Get well soon Rainbow💐

Smileless2012

I'd have asked him if he wanted a medal. Hope you're feeling a little better Rainbow and sending you because if you've been poorly for over a week, he should have got you some to cheer you up.

😂
That medal thing is what my Dad used to say if ever us kids used to moan about something.

He sounds unreasonable but is there more to it? Was he just having a bad day and you bore the brunt?

MissAdventure

Yep.
He's a miserable sod!

He sure is!

I'd have asked him if he wanted a medal. Hope you're feeling a little better Rainbow and sending you because if you've been poorly for over a week, he should have got you some to cheer you up.

He was being a grumpy sod and trying to make you feel guilty. Don't.

I'd tell my husband straight out not to be such a grump in circumstances like that.