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Babs03 Tue 27-Aug-24 15:25:27

When I was growing up in a small mill town in Lancashire we called lunch ‘dinner’ and we called dinner ‘tea’. We didn’t have supper and can’t remember anyone using the word supper at all.
What did you call it?

Babs03 Wed 28-Aug-24 12:59:52

Busybeejay1

Greetings from a fellow Boltonian.I would say Ginnel.Had to put a capital G otherwise it wouldn’t recognise it!
Barbara
I grew up in Smithills area..How about you.

From Accrington originally.
We say ginnel.
Some call it a snicket. Am sure there are other words for a narrow alley.

DianaLouise Wed 28-Aug-24 13:05:30

I remember when my son started school inviting a friend back for tea -( a drink, sandwich and a cake) the embarrassment when the mum turned up and thought her son had had his dinner.
As Londoners we grew up having breakfast, lunch and dinner but on Sunday at about 6 we would have a lighter meal known as supper

Wyllow3 Wed 28-Aug-24 13:11:45

Northern England - Breakfast, dinner, and tea as a child, hot choc at bedtime.

In Hull, where I grew up, a narrow alley was a "tenfoot" and I have never heard it anywhere but Hull.

Willjac123 Wed 28-Aug-24 13:11:55

valdavi

Lunch called dinner & dinner called tea. I have largely mastered calling the midday meal lunch, but I cannot call our evening meal dinner - it's our tea.

I'm exactly the same!

missdeke Wed 28-Aug-24 13:18:22

Breakfast dinner and tea. Supper was a glass of milk and a biscuit before bed.

eazybee Wed 28-Aug-24 13:27:14

There are the complexities of 'afternoon tea', tea served in bone china cups with a selection of cakes and biscuits (as served at Downton Abbey) to tide you though until dinner, or 'high tea', usually something cooked, followed by a pudding or cake and eaten by people who worked outside, and worked up an appetite. Then of course, a 'kitchen supper' for those with a kitchen large, and smart enough, in which to entertain.
None of the above applies to me; I have lunch and an evening meal!

HelterSkelter1 Wed 28-Aug-24 13:38:22

Evening meal. Perfect term. Thank you eazybee

MissAdventure Wed 28-Aug-24 13:40:31

People who had dinner at around midday, when did the dads get theirs?
Or the mums, come to think of it?

Who cooked it?

grandtanteJE65 Wed 28-Aug-24 13:41:42

We have had similar threads before.

In my experience what meals are called and when they are eaten depends on the following factors:

where and when you were born, and what the mealconsisted of and when it was eaten.

My grandparents who grew up in Edinburgh and spent most of their working lives in Bradford ate their main meal at middday and called it dinner. They had tea after Grandpa came home from work at night.

This was common practice amongst their generation in Scotland and a great deal of the north of England.

My parents' generation ate lunch - quick, cooked meal, in the middle of the day. It's main function was a stop-gap between breakfast and dinner, eaten about 6 p.m. Some families still ate dinner at midday, but most men did not come home from work during a dinner-break at midday, so the main meal tended to be eaten in the evening.

My Danish relatives who lived in Copenhagen, ate a cold lunch either at home or at work /school in the middle of the day, and a cooked dinner at night. Those who lived in the country still ate dinner at midday, and a cold meal in the evening.

I have heard the word "supper" as a child, but only used in other regions of the UK to where we lived. In the Glasgow area, some families had afternoon tea - mainly something enjoyed by ladies visiting friends in the afternoon, and some called their evening meal High Tea, where a cooked dish was eaten. It resembled lunch as far as the cooked, often fried food went, but tea was drunk at it, which was not usual at lunch.

Cossy Wed 28-Aug-24 13:44:21

We use breakfast (early) brunch (later breakfast) lunch (middle of the day meal) tea (about 4pm with a scone or slice of cake) dinner (evening meal) supper (something very light instead of dinner about dinner time)

I need to add we absolutely do NOT have all the above meals every day grin

keepingquiet Wed 28-Aug-24 13:49:25

Breakfast as a child was porridge in winter, cereal in summer. Occasionally bacon and egg which my dad called a 'proper' breakfast.'

Dinner was a hot meal at mid-day which was why we had 'dinner ladies' at school.

Tea could be a hot snack like beans on toast, or a sandwich with cake. Sometimes we had cheese and egg done under the grill.

Supper could be toasted crumpets, toasted bread or another bowl of cereal before bed.

When I married my husband hated me calling a bedtime snack 'supper' because he said only posh peope called it that!

SueinEspana Wed 28-Aug-24 15:09:00

As a Southerner, now living in the North (via Spain), lunch 1.30-2.30pm, dinner 7-7.30pm. Tea...a drink. However, I have noticed everyone 'up North' calls lunch, dinner and dinner, tea. Cup of tea they call 'a brew' ??

cc Wed 28-Aug-24 15:17:46

I come from the north and was often criticised by posher southerners for calling the evening meal "tea". Now we call it supper, even if we have it at tea time to suit the grandchildren. However I think that a roast at any time is often called a "roast dinner".
It's quite noticeable that the phrase "school dinner" has gradually disappeared, though "dinner money" was in general use when my own children were at school. Recent press discussions of free meals always seem to call it "free school meals" or "lunch". Maybe it is the word "dinner" that is dying out, except for "going out for dinner".

Minibookworm Wed 28-Aug-24 15:44:42

I’m from Devon and Mr MBW is from County Durham. We were both brought up having breakfast, dinner and tea and we still refer to them as such.

Spencer2009 Wed 28-Aug-24 16:00:22

As a child it was dinner and tea at 5.30

Missiseff Wed 28-Aug-24 16:07:05

Dinner & tea in Yorkshire

sweetcakes Wed 28-Aug-24 17:11:06

Breakfast, Lunch, Tea, Dinner, maybe supper if we skipped Dinner but it would be something light.

Freya5 Wed 28-Aug-24 17:18:50

Breakfast, dinner, main meal, tea,sandwiches, beans on toast, then milk and couple of biscuits at supper time, which was about 8 pm.
Wasn't until I went south it became the posh lunch.

Juicylucy Wed 28-Aug-24 17:35:31

It’s definitely a north south divide I’m from south and had my dinner at 6oc. My partner is from Durham and has tea at 6oc.
We’ve had many a discussion over it so we all agree to disagree now.

M0nica Wed 28-Aug-24 17:58:15

As a southerner, in the evening it was tea, if it was a tea meal( bread etc) and dinner if it was the main meal.

tattygran14 Wed 28-Aug-24 18:51:39

Breakfast, lunch, tea or dinner interchangeable.
I really dislike the word supper.

Oreo Wed 28-Aug-24 19:14:50

Breakfast, dinner, tea, supper if you were lucky.
Just to further confuse, any wedding spread is called breakfast no matter at what time of day.

Oreo Wed 28-Aug-24 19:15:30

tattygran14

Breakfast, lunch, tea or dinner interchangeable.
I really dislike the word supper.

Sing for your supper?😄

Babs03 Wed 28-Aug-24 19:26:42

Oreo

Breakfast, dinner, tea, supper if you were lucky.
Just to further confuse, any wedding spread is called breakfast no matter at what time of day.

Apparently couples back before the 17th century, pre-reformation, would fast before getting married because the wedding service was seen as a form of holy communion and they wanted to receive the sacrament. Therefore after the wedding they could break their fast.

Oreo Wed 28-Aug-24 19:28:41

👍🏻 good info