Wedding Anniversary

Did you buy DH anything? I think if you’ve lived with someone for 47 years, you should be able to say, “Ooh, biscuits, lovely - and next year roses, because I really love roses!” (Of course, you’d probably get a box of Roses chocolates…..

Ah! That’s a shame GrannyIvy. Congratulations on your 42 years together.

The only thing I can say is that if he never buys you flowers and you’ve been married all that time then it is definitely a case of hope triumphing over experience! Have you ever told him you wish he would get you flowers? - Not at the moment he has failed to but when discussing future plans for birthdays or anniversaries?

My husband (no 2) is brilliant at gift buying and very thoughtful and generous but I don’t think you can measure love by that. Your husband may just be obtuse and assume that you are like him and not really bothered, people often take their own preferences and quirks to be the norm and assume other people are the same.

I tried to learn the lesson of my (otherwise lovely) mum being unable to directly ask for things or say what she wanted on the basis that my oblivious dad “should know” or notice and do it spontaneously. Well my dad didn’t but if she or we asked for something he would almost invariably get it. My mum caused herself a lot of unnecessary misery and it didn’t help their marriage. I will ask for things and say what I want: not in a whiney, accusatory or demanding way, just “I was thinking about my birthday next month, - I’d love to do X!”

I hope he is a good and loving husband to you in other ways.

It’s our 54th Anniversary on Thursday. Together we chose a new doormat as a present for us both. (Don’t read anything into this!). Looking nice in the kitchen.

It’s our 53rd anniversary tomorrow. We will give each other a card and Dh will go fishing. I’m going to have a coffee with a friend and a mooch around the market.
We’ll have a meal together in the evening. Probably won’t go out as we’re quite happy not to.
We might eat out somewhere next week when we’re in Suffolk.

We’ve done all the gadding and celebrating , gifts and outings in past years and now simple pleasures are what we enjoy.

GrannyIvy. - just count your blessings . My ex-husband showered me with gifts, red roses, for every occasion, even Valentines Day - all the time he was having an affair , with the ‘love of his life’. We were married for 25 years. So I wouldn’t worry. Give him a big thankyou and an even bigger hug and enjoy those biscuits - happy 47th Wedding Anniversary 🎉🎂

joannapiano

It’s our 54th Anniversary on Thursday. Together we chose a new doormat as a present for us both. (Don’t read anything into this!). Looking nice in the kitchen.

That made me laugh, joannapiano 😁

We just celebrated 24 years. We bought a rather lovely Hydragea shrub. And went for lunch in our fav hotel. Our anniversary fell on the day of a funeral we were going to, and the wake afterwards was at another hotel where we got married 24 years ago. Nit of a happy sad occasion tbh

A posh box of shortbread sounds excellent!

We generally buy a particularly scrumptious wine in the weeks leading up to it - and then forget!

I sent a message to my daughter and son in law in January and a voucher for a fancy meal for their anniversary. They had done the same thing - bought a "special" Primitivo and then forgotten what date it was!

They went for their meal in March!

We had our 50th recently. No presents (never have done presents or flowers), just happy, and lucky to be still alive and happily together.

Be grateful you have a loving husband. Flowers are easy to buy and mean nothing. It’s how your husband treats you every day of the year that matters, not a token on an anniversary. We don’t even bother with cards and I don’t receive, or hope for, flowers. We enjoy a meal out or a takeaway to mark the day. Something we can both enjoy. What’s important is having someone at your side who you can trust. That’s worth more than all the flowers in the world.

Congratulations on your 47th wedding anniversary GrannyIvy. I do hope you enjoy your shortbread together and you do have your roses eventually. We don't always give each other presents, but it is always a special day and marked in some special way.

Neither us is bothered about gifts and cards for any occasion. It used to be more important but not anymore. We have treats when we feel like it. He will buy me tulips from down the road when they are in season occasionally.
I remember once that I had gone to visit mum and dad in HK and my DH ( he was a boyfriend then ) sent me roses. I’d left by the time they arrived but mum liked them! 💐

Happy anniversary.
We celebrate our Ruby wedding anniversary next week.
Husband has bought me a ruby eternity ring. I asked him if he wanted anything and he said, yes as he had bought me a present. I explained an eternity ring is sort of a shared asset like a wedding ring, so actually he hasn’t bought me a present! He can borrow it if he wants.
Enjoy the shortbread biscuits, buy yourself some roses and buy him something you know he will enjoy.

Thank you everyone I am very lucky I have a lovely husband to celebrate with. He is not a romantic. I do tell him frequently I would love flowers but ….. He is cooking me steak salad and chips tonight which I go out and buy. I just do him a card usually never a gift so don’t know why I am saying anything.

My inlaws have just celebrated their 65th wedding anniversary. She received lovely flowers and a card , they also had a small get together with a cake.
Father in law arranged none of it , she did it all herself, even the flowers. A bit sad I thought , but she has always chosen her own gifts etc , he just wraps them up and takes the credit 🤷‍♀️ Maybe next time , drop a few hints before

GrannyIvy...happy anniversary...enjoy the shortbread, if you have a kind and caring husband who loves you that's worth more than all the flowers, it was our anniversary last month, and when I asked him if he knew what date this was ...he didn't remember...he has alzheimers.....but we had an Italian takeaway anyway to celebrate

Those of us with kind and loving husband's wives and partners are truly blessed every day.

I sure I'm hard to live with... but he loves me nevertheless.

to us all.

Congratulations on your anniversary, you must be very compatible, a celebration in itself.
W, like many usually celebrate with cards and a lovely meal.
For special anniversaries we have a holiday, pushing the boat out regarding the hotel and meals.

Since our anniversary is very close to the Christmas Season, we always travel up to a favourite Hotel & Restaurant in Northern Spain.

It's our fiftyoneth in 12 days time. I thought we had been married a long time but quite a few of you have been married longer. I believe Mollygo was married a week after us.

I’m lucky to have a lovely husband and both quite romantic. Usually for me it’s a new handbag or piece of jewellery for him a watch! He has many! But really a card and time together is what matters been married 47 years.

Germanshepherdsmum

Be grateful you have a loving husband. Flowers are easy to buy and mean nothing. It’s how your husband treats you every day of the year that matters, not a token on an anniversary. We don’t even bother with cards and I don’t receive, or hope for, flowers. We enjoy a meal out or a takeaway to mark the day. Something we can both enjoy. What’s important is having someone at your side who you can trust. That’s worth more than all the flowers in the world.

Absolutely this with bells on.

We didn't quite make our 49th anniversary. I think cards would have been exchanged (DD would have got a card for him to give me) but that would be all. If we'd got to the 50th we would probably have had the family round for dinner.

Sensible post again GSM
We made it to 49 years, but I could count the cards and gifts on one hand.