If you could go back in time….

I don't expect that she saw herself as weak or feeble - that was a PR exercise to get the men onside, and shows she was shrewd.

I think that knowing what happened to her mother, and that if she married her husband would take precedence over her, she was in a difficult position, and I don't blame her for wanting to stay at the top, where fewer people could harm her. Contraception was primitive in those days - rudimentary condoms that would kill all feeling, and lemons used as caps - but I think she'll have found ways of having a sex life. There is no evidence that I know of that suggests she was unhappy with being a woman. Unhappy at the way women were treated, maybe/probably; but that's not the same thing at all.