What are the rules for gender reveal?

Same here flutERBY considered bad luck to have an empty pram in the house.
I did have a "layette" ready including an embroidered nightdress made by myself which looked adorable on my baby boy.

Mollygo

fluttERBY123

I remember a time when nothing was ever bought for a baby before the birth in case something went wrong. Does anyone else remember that or is it just me disremembering?

No that was the idea when mine were due. In-laws wanted to buy us a pram, but it was held on a refundable deposit at the shop till the baby was safely home.

Exactly, the cot and pram would be delivered once you (or the father) informed the shop that the baby had arrived safely.

I wonder what the folks who go on about pronouns would think of gender reveals. You know, the ones who refer to themselves as CIS etc

I gave a cheque for £200.00 for a cot but was told the cot they wanted was £600.00, said "Tough luck" and I did not have any thank you in any form. I was the great-grandmother of the new baby to be.

I also think that baby showers and gender reveals are tacky. I wouldn't go to either

Wow, that’s a big baby, Mallin !

Mollygo. My 2nd pregnancy was stated as being twins by 2 separate doctors. Ordered a twin pram ( getting on for 60 yrs ago ). Shop assistant insisted I used their “put by “ scheme incase at was just a single.
Good job she did as it turned out to be one rather big baby. 14 lb 11o z

GrandmaKT. Still laughing.

fluttERBY123

I remember a time when nothing was ever bought for a baby before the birth in case something went wrong. Does anyone else remember that or is it just me disremembering?

No that was the idea when mine were due. In-laws wanted to buy us a pram, but it was held on a refundable deposit at the shop till the baby was safely home.

Where has all this 'gender reveal' mania come from? Baby showers I can understand because the happy parent-to-be can get nice things for the baby.

I think it's just another excuse for companies to make profits from people but if people enjoy it, I suppose it's harmless. I would take a food/drink contribution to the party.

I had a baby shower ( in England) before my daughter was born. 35 years ago.. It was arranged by the girls at work and held just before I left for maternity leave. They are hardly a new thing over from America. My daughter and her friends have had gender reveal parties after their 20 week scans. I haven’t ever been invited to a gender reveal party but I think a present would be unnecessary.

I remember a time when nothing was ever bought for a baby before the birth in case something went wrong. Does anyone else remember that or is it just me disremembering?

I'm definitely not a fan of these reveals, very American & usually quite grasping from what I've heard from family & friends. Fortunately DS & DIL didn't go down this route - they had to go through a late termination due to extreme deformities of the baby. It was a harrowing time for them & all concerned, I'm so glad they hadn't had a party beforehand.

If invited to one, I would definitely have a prior engagement.

What is the purpose of gender reveal - we are all supposed to be 'its' these days?

Personally, I wouldn't take a gift - prefer to know the gender of the baby and buy accordingly.

When I first came across 'gender reveal' events, I thought they must be where someone decides to identify as another gender....

Never been to one,never had them in my day,the sex of the baby was revealed the day he/she was born,

lyleLyle

I find that gender reveals are nothing more than an attention grab. Personally, I haven’t waisted any time attending one despite several invites.

I agree, just a present grabbing excuse.

What a lot of moaning grans on here!
Enjoy the celebration of a new life and take a small neutral gift 😀

I've never heard of this. From the title of the thread, I thought it would be about the etiquette of letting people know that a person is transgender.
How can a foetus have a gender? It can only be of one sex or another in almost all cases.

When DDiL was expecting DGD#2 she announced that she'd had a 20week scan..
I asked if they knew the sex but said they could keep it secret.
Don't you want to know? I was asked. "everyone in the office knows!"

Only been to one baby shower and that was DDs. Been invited to a few others but didn't go. Nobody I know has had a gender reveal so far

My DS and DIL had a gender reveal do. I went but did not take a gift. I don't think anyone did. The baby shower followed and gifts were given then. And at the birth. And as it is my Son I bought the pram and other bits and pieces.
Never had all that in my day lol

I didn’t want to know beforehand, much more exciting at the time of birth! A couple of my kids were the same and asked not to be told.