What are the rules for gender reveal?

I don’t agree with either as my sister sadly had 2 stillborn babies at 7 months, yes thankfully it’s rare but does happen .
I went to my first baby shower recently as the mum to be is the dd of a very good friend. Mum to be commented that the reveal would be at the birth .

Callistemon one of the most memorable episodes, had me laughing one minute and crying the next.

It reminded me of that episode of Only Fools and Horses where Raquel has just given birth and Rodney asks excitedly "What is it Del?".
Del replies in wonderment "It's a little baby, Rodney!"

I have no time for gender reveal parties - self indulgent and attention grabbing. It's a baby for goodness sake , of course a new baby is cause for celebration but I feel parents should wait till their child is born before they start inviting people . Why on earth should their friends and neighbours be expected to revel in the gender of their unborn child !?

Never been to one never want to, thankfully none of my children had gender reveals or showers just ordinary pregnancies and births
Hate this tacky stuff trended over from US

Thank Heavens my family and friends don't do these reveals and showers. Instead, we wait for the birth to find out - and celebrate - much nicer.

If I were invited to one, I'd take a small gift (as I never go empty handed) like some cotton baby hats or bibs, something plain but useful.

Surely it should be a sex reveal as the baby will choose its 'gender' later or have one 'assigned' by a midwife?

I haven't been to one, although a niece was talking about doing it. I said I wouldn't be bringing anything if I came, as I was making a cross stitch picture for the nursery that wouldn't be finished in time, and was costing a fortune by the time the kit and the frame were paid for. I have a lot of nieces and nephews, so am not getting into reveals, showers and so on. They all get a present for the baby when he or she arrives - the firstborn in each family gets a cross stitch picture (although I'm beginning to regret starting that tradition as my eyes aren't as good as they were!) and subsequent ones get clothes or toys with small gifts for any toddler siblings to fight off jealousy.

I’ve never been to a gender reveal and I think it’s all rather tacky. Thankfully I’ve never been invited to one either. I’ve never been to a baby shower either except when we did one for a colleague who was going on maternity leave at the school where I worked. I did buy a small gift and then give another proper gift when the baby actually arrived.

Daddima

So, we now have ‘gender reveal’, baby shower, then maybe christening or ‘naming ceremony’. How long before we’re invited to attend the birth, or, God forbid, the conception?

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Don’t speak too soon!
For some couples a gender reveal is where they tell you what gender they’re going to use for their child, regardless of what sex it turns out to be.

Daddima 😂

Its all a bit tacky though. Much better to wait and celebrate a healthy birth.

Ps I was drinking my tea 😂

Daddima

So, we now have ‘gender reveal’, baby shower, then maybe christening or ‘naming ceremony’. How long before we’re invited to attend the birth, or, God forbid, the conception?

Daddima !!

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lixy

Never been to one but I think I'd take something small and neutral - a set of spoons for example - wrapped up in my handbag so I was ready to produce a gift if it was expected.

Baby showers seem to be much closer to the date of expected birth - two days before in my DD case!

Tommee Tippee spoons?

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I’m very pleased not to have been invited to such an occasion, nor a baby shower. Tacky American ideas.

Nope, if there is going to be a baby shower later, take a gift to that. Frankly, I would avoid both (and there will be both, anyone who is tacky enough to have a gender reveal, will have a grabby baby shower too). Sorry, but I dislike both 'events', and prefer to give a gift when the baby is here, and when I can ask what the parents would like or need. Apologies to anyone whose children have had one!

GrandmaKT had such a laugh at your post 😂
No you don't need a gift at gender reveal though I would probably take some eatables.

Think people are already invited to the birth , though usually it’s family not friends or neighbours

So, we now have ‘gender reveal’, baby shower, then maybe christening or ‘naming ceremony’. How long before we’re invited to attend the birth, or, God forbid, the conception?

I have never been to one but, I would assume there is going to be food and things, so maybe you could ask if you can bring something to contribute to that? Then you won't arrive empty handed?

nanna8

Is that the same as a baby shower? Quite a few mums to be have them these days for friends and family. They can collect baby clothes etc and these days,for young ones, it is probably a way of saving money. Don’t forget many have massive mortgages, much bigger than anything we had and they need all the help they can get.

No, quite different from a baby shower. A gender reveal party is held to announce the gender of the baby. Baby showers are when most people would take along a gift.

nanna8

Is that the same as a baby shower? Quite a few mums to be have them these days for friends and family. They can collect baby clothes etc and these days,for young ones, it is probably a way of saving money. Don’t forget many have massive mortgages, much bigger than anything we had and they need all the help they can get.

No, not the same, nanna8 - it’s where they “reveal” if it’s to be a boy or girl.
Baby shower later!

Never been to one but I think I'd take something small and neutral - a set of spoons for example - wrapped up in my handbag so I was ready to produce a gift if it was expected.

Baby showers seem to be much closer to the date of expected birth - two days before in my DD case!

I really struggle with this sort of stuff and nonsense brought to us from across the pond as most of our new ‘traditions’ are.
Reveals? baby showers? Oh dear. Good excuses for more gifts. Call me bah humbug if you like

Is that the same as a baby shower? Quite a few mums to be have them these days for friends and family. They can collect baby clothes etc and these days,for young ones, it is probably a way of saving money. Don’t forget many have massive mortgages, much bigger than anything we had and they need all the help they can get.

Chocolatelovinggran

I think that for me, the rule would be that I am unable to attend due to a previous engagement.

I think I would also have one too!