FOMO

But that’s the people, not the group itself. The meetings are for everyone. Nobody can expect to be included in everything that every friend does with her other friends, and although this particular person doesn’t sound very nice she doesn’t represent the group as a whole. I’m not in the U3A, but know people who are, and they have a great time. There will be separate friendship groups within that, but over time any member is likely to join or form some of those, and in the meantime there are lots of classes and clubs to attend.

MarathonRunner

It doesn't matter how old you get , cliques and groups always form and their behaviour will always take one straight back to the school playground .
I can see why you're feeling sensitive about this , it stings to be excluded , why do people have to be so horrible .

This.

Let them get on with it. I do if it happens to me. Do something nice for yourself, then enjoy telling them about it, next time you see them.

I decided from school age I didnt want to be going around with any in crowd. I dont like their attitude in general, and concluded that any group of people that did that even in later life, would not be people that I wanted to be good friends with long term.

This thread has made me think. I live very rural, and if there is an in crowd around here, I do not even know of it's existence!

People here of different ages tend to rub along. As all the groups never have enough people. So if people did not get on, the activity would soon cease to exist.

As for acronyms - they are easily googled, so nobody need feel excluded by them
Doodlebug these initials are not in the list given on here and no one should have to google to have a conversation for goodness sake, is it lazy speak or maybe trying to be trendy but then we decry the young for using txt speak !!! 😂 takes two seconds to write ‘Fear of missing out’ and can be understood by all

I don't decry the young for text speak, although I don't think many use it now that texts can be as long as we like.

Each to her own, but you could equally say that 'DH' is lazy speak or trying to fit in. Dear Husband takes less time to type out than 'fear of missing out', yet it is in widespread use. Why should no-one have to google something they don't understand, if doing so allows them to make sense of a post and will help them to understand another that uses that terminology? It's no different from using a dictionary to expand your vocabulary, and FOMO is a widely-used acronym.

This was a serious question from a concerned poster, and it feels (to me) that picking on the way she expressed it is unkind.

Cid24

I’m really struggling with this at the moment! Activities of groups of people I know that I’ve not been included in. I’m jealous and it’s not a nice feeling!
What can I do to to get over this?

I've no advice, but I'm sorry you're jealous and struggling.

We're all different, some do care what others think. You say "Might go for counselling to sort this out." - Good idea, I'd think.

Thank you for your thoughts everyone , I appreciate you taking the time to reply. 😊