What would you say if your husband told you to stop squawking?

You're right! It is "plain rude and disrespectful".

I would have said, don’t be so bloody rude! then gone out for
the day and spoilt my self with a very expensive present.

I'd have done a chicken-laying-an-egg impersonation right in his ear, very loud, and then said. "That was squawking. If that is what you don't want me to do, I am very happy to stop it, but if I am just pointing out that you are wrong, in a normal voice, I shall keep on doing it."

I would have probably told him he was being rude and disrespectful and then gone shopping with the credit card that he pays 🛍️🛍️🛍️

totally unacceptable...

Laid an egg on his head.

Snap, eazybee

I would have told him ladies don't squawk and not spoken to him for a few hours. In our house that would be really frustrating for"Where's me". my Rohan man.
Or got him after DD had left and told him that he did it again you would accuse him of something similar in front of her and see how he felt. I get accused of using a teacher's voice,but he uses his persuasive 'Calming the patient voice" when he wants a favour and I point it out.

Its only a word ,ignore it .I dont let stuff like that bother me.Life is too short .If you cant ignore it LAUGH at it .

Buy him a cockatiel for Christmas. Or a large bad-tempered parrot. He will get plenty of squawking then.

I an remember having a difference of opinion with a male colleague when I was a research assistant at uni and he used a similar expression, plus a couple of others. They were the kinds of expressions he would not have used to a man. I gave him an opportunity to apologise or be reported for "sexist terminology" and he laughed. He ended up being made to attend an awareness course so he kept his distance from me after that.

All too often men will attempt to excuse themselves by saying:

Its just banter
Its just a joke

and so on.

I would have said "hello my husband has just dropped dead can you come and uplift the corpse ! "

If is was my husband he would have sore ears and a headache for the rest of the day. I would be out getting retail therapy and loving every minute.

It wouldn’t bother me, its a fair word to use if somebody is going on in a certain way during a disagreement.

Maybe ask him not to use that expression instead of telling him.

I'd tell him I'll stop squawking when he stops being an a... hole.

This is a phrase my paternal family used a lot. They were East Enders. My mother and I found it incredibly rude but 50 years ago it seemed to be used a lot in our family as part of a superiority campaign. I am really sorry that it has been used again as it is degrading, offensive and quite honestly archaic. Please find a way to retaliate and put him in his place. Good luck.

How extremely rude. I too would have a spending spree - on his credit card!

I would have said “That wasn’t squawking, THIS is squawking” and given him a demo.

Very rude and meant to demean you. I would be off out for the day before I said anything which would make things worse. If you previously said that you dislike this expression, it is even worse.

He was trying to defend himself. It's very hard to talk to an defensive -aggressive person who thinks he is being blamed.

I had to train my adopted Jack Russel not to be defensive-aggressive. The dog was a quick learner and training sorted his problem. I don't know the method for teaching an adult human not to show his teeth and growl. Punishment probably does not work.

paddyann54

Its only a word ,ignore it .I dont let stuff like that bother me.Life is too short .If you cant ignore it LAUGH at it .

This. I don’t know how I would survive life if I took things like this to heart.

Nobody would be allowed to treat me like that.

I believe I might tell him that it was time he signed up to memory testing as I knew what I did and didn't say - and he apparently had no notion to what he'd said. Further, disagreeing in front of an adult child is normal, nothing to complain of, imo. He's being ridiculous.

However, I'd not lower myself to his level of rude by making up silly ways of "punishment" - he, too, is not a child, I assume.

I don’t know how long your marriage has been but to be honest if that was the worst you ve had to complain about
you ve had a pretty good time
It’s just an expression I d have retaliated with something but not get that upset about it