Do some of you share this thought about the future?

I don’t have a Mr Blue he went (by my choice) a long time ago and I have been alone so long it is my normal
My only concern is to not being a burden and not having a painful or dementia dominated older age

I was widowed young, many years ago. I coped well, I think, and have never wanted to remarry, The only things I fear for myself are painful illness, or dementia. I have many fears for my children, though. illness, accidents, losing their partners.

I am very grateful for my children and my grandchildren. I’ve never taken them for granted. I’m also very relieved that we all - so far! - have no financial worries..

As time goes on, I realise that we are both lucky to be here - me at 73, DH 76. We have lost far younger people in our family and I have friends who have lost their partners as I know many Gransnetters have. My DH was diagnosed with prostate cancer 8 years ago and, after treatment, is in remission so far. 🤞

I dread the thought of losing Mr. B but it doesn’t prey on my mind. He has a better life expectancy than me so I have made sure he will be OK financially if I die. Not being morbid, but I’ve had a few life threatening moments.

I used to work for a market research company. The greatest fear older people expressed as "losing their independence" followed by "my health breaking down." I dont ever recall anyone giving losing their partner as their top fear/dread.

I dont have a partner so its not something I need to think about. I have always felt complete in myself.

Applegran What do others remind them selves to be grateful for right now?

Our marriage, our health, our children and theirs, our modest home and lifestyle - a wonderful place to grow older, our faith.