DH is driving me mad because I can’t get his normal coffee brand

Tell him to pop out and buy his own coffee sorry but if you can’t get it usual route then let him find it

Yes go out and get your own or go without

Gosh - living alone is deeply sad and I hate it - but I do not have to deal with these sort of unreasonable demands!!

Honestly? Why oh why do women put up with this nonsense and bullying. Tell him to get his own and leave him to it.

Barmeyoldbat

Yes go out and get your own or go without

Well said Barmeyoldbat!
Alternatively, tip the contents of a similar blend into the empty pack and keep shtum. Chances are, he won't even notice.

Who mentioned bullying.

is he disabled, even if so, can he use internet.
tell him to search online, adding:
what did your last slave die of ?

Ditto everything said.. Mine would never ask that, he would know the answer.

BlueBelle

Tell him to pop out and buy his own coffee sorry but if you can’t get it usual route then let him find it

Exactly.

Odd because it's online on my tesco order now.

Is this for real??

kittylester

Who mentioned bullying.

If your man threatens to be massively unpleasant to a friend, or upset his GD's wedding in revenge for her mother... this is bullying.

And to some extent, if someone goes on and on to his wife about not burying the right coffee- what is it?

Buying, not burying, although tempting!

Waitrose do a French dark roast.

Tell him to find it himself! Why do women put up with this from men!

I am another one who would just tell him to source it himself.

I’m sure there are times DH and me drive each other mad…it’s just an expression not literal.

I have no problem going out of my way to find a treat that DH likes and likewise, neither has he going on the hunt for something special I like. There is no bullying in our marriage of almost 48 years. That wouldn’t work for either of us.

Well yes, just depends on it is said, and how he is 'driving her mad'. But who would do such a thing? If she got the 'wrong' coffee- he could say ' what a pity, I prefer the other one' and then, once she said she could not find it, reply and say 'ah, what a shame. I'll see if I can find it or an alternative more to my taste'.

If he goes on and on, and 'drives' her mad - is rude or unpleasant about it- then it gets close, and closer, to bullying.

The 3rd thread today about unpleasant men doing unpleasant things, with women who seem to put up with it, somehow. And it upsets me and makes me wonder, why?

Annajay

Is this for real??

Nah!

Fleurpepper, what kalu said.

Unkind, yes - bullying, no!

Buy a substitute as close to his favoured one destroy the packet. I think he won't notice the difference. If he does and complains tell him he knows where the shops are.

Just tell him to go and find one he likes.

That’s all you need to do.

If you want to be conciliatory tell him you’ll put it on the shopping list once he’s found it.

Darling husband I haven’t been able to get the coffee you like so I m handing the job back to you if you can’t find it either you’re very welcome to drink mine darling

kittylester

*Fleurpepper*, what kalu said.

Unkind, yes - bullying, no!

We don't know- only OP knows- the words used, and how it was done.

As said, the 3rd thread today on women putting up with really unpleasant stuff from their men. Why do they?