Loving the common thread so much thought we should go “POSH”

I've had to think long and hard about this, before answering. I really can't think of any individual behaviours that I think of as 'posh., though i not sure why.

The word just makes me think of it a whole lifestyle:

Posh is living in a large old 'family' home that has seen better days, with threadbare carpets and furniture, speaking with a public school accent, having several smelly old black labradors or spaniels in the house, swearing a lot, being slightly eccentric (what is eccentric could be the next thread!) and not giving a damn what anyone thinks about 'one'.

Actually, I've really liked the few people like that who I've met

I've just realized why I was struggling to come up with individual 'posh' things - it's because I think of them as pretentious rather than posh, though yes, I would say "ooh, aren't you posh!" to a friend who suddenly decides to do some of the many pretentious things already mentioned upthread

Oldandproud, your mention of swearing reminded me of that upper-crusty family once featured on TV - the ‘F**king Fulfords’, was it?

Whe Prince Charles was given some napkin rings as a present he didn’t know what they were. This is because posh people don’t roll up their damask table napkins and put them in a napkin ring. They have clean ones every time.

I thought most of the Royal Family used Mama and Papa. Think the Queen called her mother Mummy.

Am sure when Prince Charles spoke about the DofE after his death he referred to him as ‘his darling Papa’.

And has also spoken of the Queen as ‘his darling Mama’.

Always felt that ‘Mummy’ was used by him to make him sound more ‘one of us’

My DGC call their mother mama or mumma, nothing exceptional about their background.

my parents thought that owning a cheque book was posh, and I did enjoy writing a cheque when I came to own one.
I thought that owning fish knives was posh too, and I still don't have any.
speaking in a certain way was posh too, calling a house a hice.
also for some reason, having oriental wool rugs in the home.

To my mother the word posh was common, though she never used either word.
Like sex, it was never spoken of and we were expected to learn what it was by osmosis.

My family was terribly grand. We had to have our friends vetted and their pedigree thoroughly checked before being allowed to play with them! Can you imagine?
Loads of servants, a nanny…. But that was how life was in the Colonies
Then I went and married a working class bloke, a wonderful man. Didn’t go down too well at first, then they realised what a pearl he was. ?

I have a set of fish knives and forks, never used them.

Then a couple of weeks ago had some girlfriends round for afternoon tea. Didn’t have any little tea knives and forks, so used the fish ones, they are quite small and pretty.

As one of my friends said as she cut up her scone with her fish knife, “Serves the same purpose”.

grandMattie

My family was terribly grand. We had to have our friends vetted and their pedigree thoroughly checked before being allowed to play with them! Can you imagine?
Loads of servants, a nanny…. But that was how life was in the Colonies
Then I went and married a working class bloke, a wonderful man. Didn’t go down too well at first, then they realised what a pearl he was. ?

I do enjoy a love story.

When it comes to posh some of the oldest families are the nicest. When I lived in Cornwall my friend and I used to go round to various venues setting up entertainments for people. A few were very old families in houses going back many centuries. They were always the ones who wanted to be sure that we had everything we needed and were always ready to pitch in with the clearing up and washing up so that their staff weren't faced with the work in the morning.

The ones that you might call New Money were usually keen to make sure that we knew our place.

grandMattie

My family was terribly grand. We had to have our friends vetted and their pedigree thoroughly checked before being allowed to play with them! Can you imagine?
Loads of servants, a nanny…. But that was how life was in the Colonies
Then I went and married a working class bloke, a wonderful man. Didn’t go down too well at first, then they realised what a pearl he was. ?

I'm wondering if my Aunt was their Nanny ?