Own money/pension pot

I’m not sure wives are liable for their husband’s debts. A friend only discovered her OHs massive credit card bill (his card and not a joint one) after he had died. She wasn’t liable and the £30,000 was simply written off.

You ask how we would react. I would be furious and would have to seriously consider my future. His attitude is uncaring of your feelings and it’s clear he isn’t considering getting help for his addiction so things will only get worse. Do get advice.
Trust so easily lost is very hard to regain. I am sorry.

Thank you everyone for participating I’m going to get all my pensions together and make appt with fa today and secure them to my daughter I think and then try another conversation to see if he’ll admit spending habits and go from there. Much appreciate everyone

YoungNannie

Thank you everyone for participating I’m going to get all my pensions together and make appt with fa today and secure them to my daughter I think and then try another conversation to see if he’ll admit spending habits and go from there. Much appreciate everyone

I think that is the best and wisest thing to do. good luck and I hope he gets some help, if needed.

My husband liked a flutter when I meet him so it wasnt a problem just his sort of hobby I suppose. He always paid for everything even though I was working full time my money was mine. He got letters which I never opened which were credit cards.
About 4 years ago he came in from work and said he had to speak to me and said he had got into a load of debt and had to have a loan to sort it out. He said I had to put my name to the loan as well as his. I was really upset but of course I signed .
I said if he ever did that again I would leave him.
I think it shocked him how much he had to lend that he has never gambled again. I know he has stopped because he is now saving money and in a way I am proud of him for stopping as he has gambled since his teens, he is now in his late 50s. What I want to say is like all addictions it only stops if you want it too. I wish you luck YoungNannie.

Firstly i have been in your shoes finding husband with a gambling addiction. Don't underestimate it that is what it is.
£1100 in one day has he got a problem yes you both have .

Get your money seperated or you will lose your share.

Online gambling is like crack cocaine.

I found out exhusband had gambled the lot while my son was in hospital he was 'relieved' when i found out. I had to start again in my 40s. He won't stop. I can't tell you enough to seperate your money. Or lose it.