My first, we wanted to live together until parental wrath meant we got married, we’d been together three years, marriage lasted 8, I left him. Second was his insistence, no grand gesture, we’d been together 6 months, lasted 9 years, two children, he left, minimal contact with children after. Third, MrJ, bought me an eternity ring for Christmas, we married the following year, we had been together 8 years, he’d never been married, no children, so became a stepdad. 14th Wedding Anniversary will be November this year, the best 22 years ever.