Moving in with my mum

I m sorry I don’t think 3 months is long enough to see if it will work or not I think it should be much longer and also things will change you may get another partner your mum may need more help than you can manage There are so many permutations
I d give yourself at least 6 months but better still go year by year
Giving away your dog may be a big mistake already you ve made a big sacrifice to ‘fit in’ Take care in this one I would stick my head out and say for every successful story there will be a dozen unsuccessful

Thanks all I prefer this site to mums not more mature and positive answers xx

Who is Bill and why are you paying for his food?

I think she means she’s paying some Bills, food etc, Phobes

Not far from 70- and as much as I absolutely love my daughters- NO I would not like to share my home with them for a long period of time. One of them returned after Uni for about a year- and we had a great time. and one of them returned from Spain after a terrible, confidence bashing, manipulative and then violent realtionship - and again- it was great to be here for her. We had a great few months - but I am so glad she went on her way- become independent and now, in a great relationship and happy.

Bonne chance - but I would give it a few months and then re-assess- and see it both both pov and honestly.

Are you now 70 * SANDY2020* or is that your mum?

If my 70 year old daughter moved in with me when I was 94, that would be a different situation from having a 56 year old daughter moving in with me when I was 70

I think the mum is 70 varian ?

70 is the new 50

Lol I'm 50

Phoebes I was going to ask the same question!!

I’m surprised no one else has!

I’m 80. I love both my daughters to bits, and got on fine with them, but don’t want them to live with me. I like to be free to do what I want when I want.
When I had my hip replacement the daughter who lives near me kept popping in, and fussing around me. “Let me do that. Be careful. Are you ok? Do you need anything?” I was grateful for her help, but felt smothered by the attention. I was glad when things got back to normal again.
I’m glad that you got out of your bad relationship, and your Mum will be glad to take you in until you sort yourself out, but she may not want, or need you as a permanent resident. Talk things over with her, and be prepared for a change of heart from either of you. Finding accommodation nearby may be a better option, and perhaps you could then reclaim your dog, which I’m sure you must miss.

50 and 70. That is very young to be making decisions like this. However bruised you may feel now, it is still possible that you will meet someone else and have a happy relationship and you mother will probably be healthy and well for another decade or more before she needs any kind of health.

When I was nearly 70, DD was 40 and DH was working abroad for a couple of months, DD moved in for three months while between houses. It was great, we had fun, but I was very happy to see her move out and back to her own home.

Play it by ear. 70 isnt particularly old - she might meet someone or you might and that could affect living arrangements.

Sandy2020, I'm just so pleased that you have managed to escape an abusive relationship. Any challenges you face by living with your mum will undoubtedly pale into insignificance. Good luck and get on with your new life. x