We are both in our 60's but my husband has a 16 yr old daughter from a previous relationship. They have a fairly new relationship of 3 years. She visits us every 4 weeks for a weekend. They are generally speaking, happy visits. However, her personal hygiene is poor. In all her visits I can only count 6 times that she has showered and even fewer times that she has brushed her teeth. We have tried leaving her own specially bought products on her bed, new shower gel, toothbrushes, pretty towels etc. But she goes home and they are untouched. We have hinted through conversation ' oh isn't a shower refreshing? Etc etc. I used to take her a cup of tea in the mornings and suggest a shower before we head off out for the day, but she out-foxes me and gets dressed while still in bed !!!! Even when I know she's having her period there's still no attempt to bathe or shower. My husband is embarrassed and has admitted that her mother may not be a great role model in this area. Our relationship with mum is tentative so we don't feel we could raise the subject without verbal consequences. Any suggestions team Gran ??
