I would like to give an award for patience and stamina to my DiL to eldest son. She works at two jobs, from 8.00am to 11.00pm every single day, just taking two days a fortnight off to fly back to DS and two young GDs who have moved to Spain because DS hates this country. She works those hours to support the family as DS doesn't work, he has never found a job to stick at for more than a month, and not at all in Spain. In fact in a rare text message he said that he was not going to set foot in this country again, which means we won't see them unless he grants permission for us to visit, which hasn't been forthcoming so far. It really does hurt.
Rather than have her sleeping in a hostel, which we found she was doing, we give her a bed for the night three nights a week, but she is usually back too late and off too early for us to see her. The rest of her time she spends working in Ireland, because the pay is better, but the same incredible hours. I don't know how she keeps going!
Also to youngest son who after a really terrifying arrival of baby GS earlier this year, and despite his arthritis, has the patience of a saint coping with a very demanding baby to take the pressure off his wife who has ME.