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janeainsworth Wed 02-Oct-19 18:08:02

I find it hard to strike a balance between taking an interest in their lives and not appearing interfering.

gonegirl I can’t believe you never worry or at least feel concerned about your AC. Are you saying there are absolutely no circumstances in which you’d worry about them?
Surely the problem is, we have to let them go and lead independent lives, but in doing so we become less able to help & support & that in itself becomes a source of anxiety!

love0c Wed 02-Oct-19 18:03:13

Gonegirl - no need to say sorry, not to me anyway! I am going to take your advice where one of mine is concerned. Succinct!! love it!

DanniRae Wed 02-Oct-19 18:00:58

Someone once said that "I am only as happy as my unhappiest child" - and that's how I feel.

MiniMoon Wed 02-Oct-19 17:57:34

No. I brought them up to be the best people they can be.
They moved out and started their own lives.
Their problems are there own, I don't try to fix things for them, it interfere in their affairs.

Gonegirl Wed 02-Oct-19 17:11:53

Sorry blush

True though.

Gonegirl Wed 02-Oct-19 17:11:26

No. I let the little shits get on with it.

Pollyj Wed 02-Oct-19 17:03:58

Anyone else still feel so connected/anxious about their adult children? Things aren’t great for mine, but every tiny problem sends my anxiety soaring and my need to ‘fix’ and ‘solve’ drives me mad. What do I fear? I’m not sure, but the worst (might throw themselves off a roof is one). I just want them to be happy.. It’s as if unless everything is perfect for them, I am anxious and worried to the extend I find it hard to sleep and so on. I won’t be here forever, nor should it still be my job to solve everything. I somehow feel responsible! Anyone else?