Christmas Day without family!

A few years ago we decided to have a cold Xmas ( I am from Aust )
So the three of us went to London and son went to his girlfriend's , now wife , flat after having had breakfast with us on Christmas morn.
Nope ...as hot and muggy as it is...Xmas day at home is nice
This first year of having a grandchild and will probable be spent at his place
Not sure about Xmas decs if just for husband and I

I can't remember the last time we had Christmas with the family 30 or 40 years ago?

I am like Sara, if at home we go out for a walk or bike ride, eat what we fancy and dod what we want. We phone the the family and wish them all well and thats it. Sometimes we might share a Christmas da meal with like minded friends. but no fuss.
Spent 1 years going abroad for Christmas and that I enjoyed

OP, I don't think either the Greek or Turkish sea would be exactly warm at Christmas!

I've heard of plenty of people who'd really love a quiet Christmas Day on their own, eating and doing whatever they feel like - only to have various friends/relatives saying in shocked tones, 'You can't possibly be all on your own at Christmas!' - and pressuring them with invitations. Which then have to be very politely fended off.

DD was born at the beginning of December and my mother assured me that we wouldn't want to come out with a new baby on Christmas Day. Can't remember what we ate, presumably turkey and of course there wasn't much to be seen on TV in those days. By tea time we were so fed up we rang and begged to be allowed to come over for tea and christmas cake!

Oh yes, and one year when I volunteered at the local homeless centre, waitressing. That was good, too.

I've had a couple of nice Christmases.

1, I went abroad. Just me and the old bloke. Not a posh hotel, just Spain, BUT it was sunny and nice. I sunbathed in warm sun on Christmas Day, with a good book by a quiet pool. Bliss.

2, Again, just me and the old bloke. At my house this time, because on xmas eve I'd had an op. He brought the food. It was quiet and nice.

3, Me, daughter and Chinese friends, when I was working in China. Nice. Low key. Cats.

That's about it really. I don't mean to be ungrateful. All the family xmases in the past AND last year with my grandson's first xmas. But I don't like the season and the less I have to do with it the better.

Downtoearth had a good suggestion, help at a local centre or other voluntary organisation then have some treats lined up for yourself later. A new book, DVD, music, and your favourite tipple then relax and enjoy. Nothing better.

Thingmajig

A word of warning, we decided to go away one Christmas, headed off, hoping for a lovely restful time.

After a couple of days, started feeling in the wrong place, and drove home on Christmas Eve morning!

Sometimes, you’ve just got to be at home!

My sister feels the same as you, and has five children and lots of grandchildren, so when she still had some living at home she ordered in a takeaway from the local Indian restaurant, as they don't celebrate Christmas and are glad of the custom. With so many children, getting a takeaway was a real treat and everyone loved it.

All of them have left now, and take it in turns to host at their own homes, but they remember the curry Christmases fondly.

We’ve gone away for the last ten years or so, and love the Spanish way of celebrating. Sadly, the Bodach has Alzheimer’s, so I’m not risking an airyplane! I’m thinking of Paris on Eurostar, but we’ll need to wait and see.

Absolutely! I had an nightmare of a Christmas last year due to being sick, having the aged mother to stay, cooking dinner 24th and 25th and nobody actually helping out at all. So this year I really want to go away and have a nice quiet time. A wee cottage sounds perfect!
The husband however doesn't want to miss seeing the grandkids get their presents etc. We live in the same town and see them several times every week.
I'm wondering should I just go ahead and book somewhere and go alone if it comes to it?

Yes, I understand inthewrongroom but your daughter still lives with you and no doubt enjoys Mum being there and the house all Christmassy.You could do a different menu, something easy that you all like?
When they go out put your feet up and read if nothing on tv, or play your favourite music?
I make Christmas happen ( for want of a better phrase) for some extended family on the day, they love it and come every year , even though I would like a quiet time too.But in the end, they are family and it is Christmas.When they leave I curl up with a book and a large Baileys.

After 44 years of cooking for everyone else I’d love a simple Christmas. I doubt it’ll happen. Your right it’s the shopping, making beds and the cleaning that exhaust me.

Yes, I get you. I like the build up to Christmas, I love decorating the house and the trees, I don’t even really spending a small fortune on presents.

But I don’t like the actual day! We have been up to fifteen before, all that endless cooking on our temperamental old Aga, endless towels and bedding, a ton of wrapping paper, not a seconds time to myself all day, playing games, reading stories, assembling toys, all with a big smile!

So for the last few years we’ve done it differently, Christmas Day is just us, go to the coast for a walk, eat what we like, anyone and everyone are welcome on Boxing Day, but we love having Christmas to ourselves.

Have volunteered at local community centre,for those alone through choice or circumstance.
Resident GD,will volunteer with me if not working as a carer on the day.

Have very small family,all with nuclear families/ in laws, and as a newly single person, from a long term relationship, can see that I would be the cause of " what shall we do about...."

E if she has no other plans, and I will quietly celebrate later in the day

Our children cannot believe me when I say that we would be happy to spend a quiet day rather than cope with the hoohah of them travelling to us and me providing beds and meals for what feels like several days. I am too bossy to relinquish control of my kitchen (and it would take weeks before I could find everything again!), but do find it all too strenuous now that we have teenage grandchildren who would, understandably, prefer to be with their friends and contemporaries.

Am I being difficult?