In total panic

I was about to ask about your dogs, Annie because I couldn't remember whether you still had two or just the one. I thought you re-homed the younger one but I must have been mistaken.

Barking dogs are the best deterrent. Even if they are really friendly, your neighbour doesn't need to know that.

Who takes the dogs out annie?

Annie, we are all here for you and most of understand how upsetting this for you and something you really don't need. You now how some idea how you will approach this difficult situation, the council are coming very quickly to fit the chain and everyone is aware of what you are going through, just remember you have someone very special watching over you. Hope all goes well with the X-ray.

Elegran I think programming the key safe with a number special to both Anniebach and her daughter is a good idea and hopefully a step forward.
Your daughter will just know the number Anniebach and I'm sure she would want you to feel safe and secure in your home.

I agree Lessismore - in wanting to support anniebach there is no need to be so over the top about the neighbour who, as I understand it, has only come to her door once in two and a half years. That’s not to say that anniebach’s feelings are not totally understandable in her particular context but it’s quite simple to give advice and support to her without having to say such dreadful things ( one of which I see has been deleted) about someone who appears to have problems of her own.

Barmby the council never acts quickly , they know the person and will fit the key box tomorrow, that certainly is speedy for the council.

Annie, Annie, I should have said for the Council they are speedy. Sorry.

Ok - what i’m about to say will have most of the nanny state up in arms but I have very personal experience of this - addicts (be they drug or alcohol dependent) are the most selfish of people until they decide to give up their addiction. They will use any means at their disposal to get their hands on whatever it is they’re addicted to. This woman is trying to make you a victim, probably so that through guilt you end up giving her money to feed her habit. You’re going to have to summon up all your courage and tell her to right off! Be very clear that you will not tolerate her cr*p and take the advice regarding security that other people have posted. She sees you as a possible victim - show her you’re not!!

Lock the door, treat this as routine and not as a far tactic. People have problems when they do not feel in control - all types of people, strong people, weak people etc. It is a natural part of our psyche. By locking the door you have control and that does not mean you have changed your whole life its just a simple act of locking the door, like putting the kettle on. Always keep negative people out of your life, you owe them nothing. There is nothing wrong in being selfish in the context of keeping yourself as happy as possible, in control of your day to day life.

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I've just caught up with this, Ab. So sorry to hear you've been distressed, but pleased that you're taking steps to resolve this troublesome issue, and also that other neighbours seem to have rallied round. That's all good.

As Elegran has said, those we love always have access to our hearts.

Wishing you well

Jools is right. This woman doesn’t realise how strong you are on the inside, she only sees someone who needs a buggy to get around so must be vulnerable and can be taken advantage of. I suspect she also sees your dogs as fluffy little things which won’t hurt a fly. But they too have teeth!

Things have fallen into place. The person didn’t know who lived next door to her until she had a new visitor two weeks ago, the visitor was the person who came to my door with the neighbour.no one in the Cul de sac speaks to my neighbour. She has been advised! not to contact me again.

Panic over. Have ordered the intercom , the blessing is we have a by election 1st August and I won’t have to hobble to the front door when canvassers call.

Thank you all for your kindness and advice.

Who walks the dogs?

Totally now. (person, neighbour, who lives where) But never mind.

Respect for organising a door chain, keybox and intercom, all in the space of three days. Well done.

Annie, hope you’re feeling a little better this morning now things have fallen into place ???

Yes annie you really were lucky to get it all done in such a short time.

I’m like gone and am confused over your neighbours, still hopefully you can make some friends now.

Bit of a storm in a tea cup if you think about it. Never mind.

When do you go for your xrays?

whitewave it was not a storm in a tea cup , that’s your opinion , doesn’t make it true.

Lucky to get it all done in a short time ? No , grateful that action by others ,who knew more than knew I how necessary it was to act quickly .

I had the x rays on Wednesday

annie I’m sorry that you are so defensive over my well meant remarks.

It isn’t my opinion, but if you stop and think about it, it wasn’t such a total thing to panic about as you thought. That’s what I’m trying to say.

I still think you were very lucky to get everything done in such a short space of time, other poor folk wait for ever.

Good about your xrays. Did you cope ok with going out?

I'd guess this woman has mental health issues - whether brought on by substance abuse or other ways, which might explain why there are police or paramedics at her property several times. Have you asked your other neighbour why they don't have anything to do with this woman?, Might explain a lot and help you to understand why she is like she is.
I would certainly lock my door and perhaps ask a relative to fit a Ring doorbell that has a CCTV camera included - you can see who is at the door via your mobile phone so you can either talk to them or at least decide if you want to go to the door.
Is there any reason why your daughter can't have a key to your door ? Simple to get a copy and may be the easiest thing to do.
Is there any reason why your daughte

I was not lucky, I was not told when I accepted the tenancy that four people had refused it because they had read in the local paper something I had not read and I had no knowledge of.

I coped with going for the x rays with good support but now
have to decide could I travel further for an MRI scan if the consultant dismisses my request for an ultrasound scan .
Thank you for asking

Your comments were kind & thoughtful Whitewave.

jaylucy my daughter is dead .

I now know the facts about the woman , things which have puzzled me for two years have been explained. The residents have no contact with her, and she is not to try to make contact with the residents. It’s a very small,quiet Cul de sac , residents aged between 60 and 89. Some are physically disabled .

Well that is brilliant annie you are volunteering to go out further for a MRI scan. You must feel very pleased with yourself.

Anniebach at least you now know that the other neighbours are aware of what she is like. When you say she is not to try to make contact with the residents does that mean she is subject to a restraining order for her behaviour towards some of your neighbours too?
At least you are aware now and so are your neighbours.

I hope you can manage to go for your MRI scan.