In total panic

I hope Anniebach finds comfort in your post, Elegran

Only just seen this thread. What a bonus Annie, you’ve gained four new friends!! The stout chain should do the job and be just as good as any lock, so you can be safe now.

I too was thinking along similar lines as Elegran, no locks can keep your daughter from you now. She’s with you always.

Sleep tight. xx

Beautifully expressed Elegran ?

annsixty don't feel got at, I can't see anything wrong with your post, and I'm sure most people wouldn't, I don't know what got up gonegirl's nose.

How do your neighbours know your number?

Lovely sensible post Elegran.

Annie I hope that some light is coming through the dark tunnel.

May be a promising outcome that would not have otherwise occurred

Annie I know that you promised your daughter that you would never lock your door, so that she would always be able to reach you, but have you thought? Now, she can reach you at any moment without going through any door, whether it is open or locked, day or night. You can ensure your own safety without their being a barrier between you, because the lock would have been between your physical selves, not your hearts. Love laughs at locksmiths, and your love for her is still there.

That sounds promising, Anniebach. Maybe this cloud has had a silver lining after all.

An update. I have received three telephone calls from neighbours giving me their Mobile numbers and one from a person who is very disabled to tell me he is awake for many hours through the night and can see my bungalow clearly , he lives directly across the Cul de Sac . I so hope when I can go out on Fred again I can visit him

Only just seen this. What a thing to happen after all you have been/are going through. Pleased to hear son in law who isn’t is sorting out chain. Some good ideas on here england from Callistemon.
Hope you are feeling less anxious now. And that X-ray goes well.

I understand all too well why you link the unlocked door with your daughter Annie Im pleased you now have the chain as I think it’s important for you to be safe. I’m so sorry this lady has upset you she does sound very odd. I hope the X-ray went well and hopefully you are still having some therapy help for your anxiety. Pm me if you feel it will help you . God Bless x

ps and I hope that your x-ray proved that nothing is too much amiss.

I've only just seen this thread and am sorry to hear this too, Anniebach
There are some good suggestions on here, although I can quite understand why you feel unable to lock your door but I thought perhaps the key safe is a really good idea. However, I'm glad to see that your SIL who isn't has fitted a strong chain and that your younger daughter has come to help too.

Have you got blinds? The vertical ones can be adjusted so that you can see out but someone may have difficulty looking in.

The other thought was - is this a chance to get to know some of your other, nicer, neighbours? It seems that they are all very wary of this woman. Even just a chat on the phone with them could be reassuring.

You have all been so kind,

Annsixty knows my darling daughter was ill for ten years as do others here who helped me through the darkest of times .
I owe so many here so much .

On a light note, I have nothing of value to steal apart from my iPad and MacBook ?

Anniebach we do understand how this woman’s pestering has upset you and possibly made you feel a prisoner under siege. It is easy for those of us not in your position to blithely say Ignore her, etc but just as noisy or unpleasant neighbours can invade what should be our privacy and our safe space this woman has clearly rattled you. If she is unhinged or on drugs is neither here nor there, it is the effect it is having on you.
But I do seriously urge you to take a few measures partly for your own safety and partly to regain the “ownership” of your home.
The key safe and locking the door make good sense, as does the safety chain. Even if she is a harmless (?) busybody she will eventually get the message. You do not need to hide away inside and please take no notice of any comments which go to show how some people do not understand what you are going through
And, Annsixty I have no idea why anybody thinks you are silly,

I really feel " got at"
I don't know why my post was criticised.
I will stay in the kitchen in future.
At least I am understood in there.

And I agree with annsixty.
annie I am sure a nice sturdy chain will do the business. Hopefully, this woman will be put off calling round with such lies again.

I also agree with alot of what GabriellaG54s has posted

I'm so sorry to read of this experience and completely understand why this has troubled you.
Sending kindest thoughts to you

Safety comes first Annie,
As a caring person yourself I’m sure you would not want your family worrying about you, I expect they would be horrified at the thought of you not locking your door under the present circumstances.

Ok BlueBelle , have it your own way. You are right and I am wrong. Better? I'm not bothered. I'd give the same safety advice to anyone regardless of their circumstances or back story.
You obviously tailor it to fit the 'recipient'
I don't like being told how to comment to another poster. I'm sure the OP has enough about her to whip me herself.
Finis.

A frightening and upsetting experience for you Annieflowers]. It's awful that anyone could use the tragic loss of your DD in this way. Thank goodness you now have a strong security chain fitted.

We keep our front door locked at all times, even when we're both in and if one of us is out we make sure the key isn't in the lock so the other one can open the door.

If you do the same then your daughter will always be able to unlock the door with her own key. The chain will prevent her from entering but she'll be able to call out to you.

It's so important that you feel safe and secure in your own home so do what ever it takes to ensure you do. I hope the x ray went OK and that you'll feel settled enough for a good night's sleep.

I will withdraw then , all I want to do is what you are all doing, helping.
I truly thought others who shall be nameless had already tried to turn the thread into criticising.
Silly me.

It seems you want to turn this thread into a row. Not a good idea in my opinion. It's about helping Annie.

Sorry Gonegirl would you explain that post please.