In total panic

Good heavens Whitewave I don’t spend all day dwelling on ‘my issues’, neither do I spend all day dwelling on ‘political issues’,

annie well it seems something really good has come out of this and the fact that your neighbours have made contact with you.

Perhaps you could build on this by inviting them for coffee etc, and use the time to ignore entirely your issues and instead concentrate on them and their lives etc. You would hopefully have a good hour in your day when you have entirely forgotten yourself.

If this "they" includes me, I would like to point out that I have been through an extremely horrific time in my life.

I don't think any poster here has tried to "villify" anyone. "Villification" was a ridiculous word to use.

I am sorry to intrude on your thread Ab. I am glad that you have had the chain (which I suggested in my early post) put in position. Everyone should have one regardless of age.

Good post eazybee.

If they have experienced such troubling times I would hope very sincerely they would be kinder and more empathetic to those who do share and ask for help.
It is because I have been through very troubling times that I posted.
Please let this lie now.
I seem unwittingly to have turned the thread to one of unpleasantness, the very last thing I wanted.

Good point, eazybee

Thank you Annsixty x

Please don't concern yourself on my account Annie
The important thing is that you feel safe in your own home.
The right of everyone.

Annsixty
vilification by unfeeling people who have lived untroubled lives.
Thank God those of you who criticise have never been there.
Be very careful what you say; you have no means of knowing that.
Some people choose to deal with their problems by sharing them on social media; others choose to keep them private; neither is wrong. That does not mean they have not experienced dysfunctional families, mental illness and frightening situations first hand, and dealt with them.

Thank you all x

I am so sorry my asking for support has caused Annsixty distress ,

For two rather confused posters, I have spoken to my next door but one neighbour a couple of times on the telephone, when I moved here he kindly put a note through my door expressing good wishes for me in my new home and gave
his telephone number. I have never met him but have had
cause to phone him , I don’t know everyone I have spoken to on the telephone.

The man who phoned me yesterday lives directly opposite
me, he sent me a Christmas card from. X and his carers. So I know his Christian name.

AnnSixty as Iam64 says ignore the critics. I am at a loss to see how they could criticise what you said.

Oh Annie I have just seen this. I am so sorry you have been upset. I do hope you are feeling better now. Maybe the silver lining is that you now have more contact with your other neighbours which will one day encourage you to go out.

So happy your son in law that isn’t has fitted your chain and everyone has supported you so well
You must be feeling a whole lot easier and hopefully can forget this unsettling incident Annie
?

Just read through this thread Anniebach, some great support for you as always as well as good advice about safety. I'd avoid this neighbour as much as possible, wouldn't answer the door or get involved in any way. I accept some may see that as harsh but it's based on life and work experience.

Annsixty, please ignore folks you feel are getting at you. I do believe that there are people who would start an argument in a paper bag. Never been sure what that means, its one of my wise grannie's sayings but it seems to hit the spot.

For heaven's sake! How can some posters make a confrontation situation out of another person's distress? Leave it be now. Annie has put solutions in place and is now secure in her home. She doesn't need 3rd degree questioning.

We had a neighbour with MH issues ( bipolar/ psychotic / sectioned several times, arrested, some history of violence and harassment). We got our burglar alarm and cctv at the front door because of this woman who targeted various neighbours she accused of listening to her through the walls or not smiling at her etc, this consisted of sending threatening emails, notes through door, shouting and swearing etc. It was horrible , fortunately she has now moved, but the cctv did make us go feel a bit safer. The police at the time advised us to keep a log of incidents and contact them if/ when she threatened anyone. She did get sectioned a couple of times after neighbours called them. She did have a husband who was her “carer” , but he seemed to ignore her behaviour and was bullied by her as well. I would suggest if the OP feels threatened she should not answer the door to this person - just say “I’m not answering the door please go away”. If she doesn’t go away- call the police. The good thing about the cctv is you can see who is on your doorstep on your phone. Keep a log of incidents. Get as many security systems as you can.

Poor Annie I am so sorry you are having to cope with this.

Drug user or not she clearly has a mental problem and if I were you I'd get someone to put a chain on the door at the very least.
Nor would I open my door to her under any circumstances, not even to tell her to go away.

Lessismore
I had the same thought. The OP doesn't know anyone in the c-d-s.

Just caught up annie, what a day for you. elegran has expressed my point of view beautifully. I hope tomorrow looks brighter knowing you have friends in your cul de sac.

lovely piece GQ just looked it up. Sounds like something good has come out of this annie

Anniebach this cloud could have a silver lining - you have found that you have good neighbours whom you can call on, on the phone but perhaps with Fred in the future.

Annie, I'm sorry to hear you’ve had an unsettling experience.. I just remembered this lovely blessing and thought you might like it. I’m sorry I don't know how to post a link to You Tube, but hopefully you can find it by searching from the details on the photo I've attached.

annsixty, you are not being 'got at'. And you certainly weren't being silly.
Elegran, your post was perfect and let's hope that it has laid to rest any suggestion of dissent where there should be none.

Elegran lovely post and so true.
I hope that brings some peace to Annie

Lessismore maybe the neighbours used the phone book.

Annie I'm so glad to hear you are a bit happier, and have had support from your neighbours.
Also that you are getting a chain on your door to help you feel, and be, safe.
Look after yourself.