Argument with DD’s neighbour

Oh boy Gilly, the more I read , the more I pray I don't become like that in old age!!

Egalanteen21* Why? Do you like to drive into the back of cars of people visiting your neighbour?

It's really good news that the foul mouthed chap doesn't own the parking bay gillybob, and also such a relief for your poor daughter that she probably may never set eyes on him again.

I honestly couldn't understand those on here who said that you should have asked permission before you parked briefly to unload. Most people would have had no problem with that surely?

As for those who said you should take round flowers and chocolates to the awful couple - well honestly...…..

JenniferEccles I agree. It is one thing if it is a continual problem, as I had, when it does get annoying, but basic give and take is just common courtesy.

Often the people waving the fists end up not really wanting to fight. The most dangerous are the simmering quiet types.

Oh I think he was absolutely ready to fight ReadyMeals ! He even rolled up his sleeves. His face was about an inch away from my DH's (its a good job he is cool headed) and using very threatening language. It almost makes me laugh thinking how anyone could get so worked up over something so damned trivial.

There is no way on this earth I would have taken flowers, or chocolates (even licked ones) round to this pair of nut jobs JenniferEccles . They strike me as just looking for a fight and yesterday we provided the perfect excuse.

Looking forward to getting the garden finished and then they can rant and rave somewhere else. Sadly I think there might be more to come before we are finished as we can only do a bit at a time and we have topsoil, sand and paving to be delivered yet.

I think you were in the wrong. You just pulled up in someone else's bay whithout a by your leave. How incredibly rude. And then do you apologise? Do you offer to move? No, you say you will only be there a short period of time and it's your only way in - so hard luck they will have to put up with it. Again what a cheek. No wonder they got uptight.

Why on earth didn't you apologise instead of thinking you could do what you liked? An apology and a request to use the bay is the right and polite bay to behave. If they say no, they have every right to and you have to accept it. Your unreasonable behaviour caused their response.

We are going abroad on Sunday and i have been light headed a couple of times last week and this morning I have fallen over.Should we still go ?I am not on any medication and there isn't an obvious explanation

I feel sorry for you Gillybob that posters like 25Avalon have not read that you have contacted the management and are still accusing you of being in the wrong.
All this stress is not good for you or your daughter.

Sorry but if you had parked in my bay without asking first I would be annoyed too.

I wouldn't have been as bad as you say they were but I would have challenged you.

It is only good manners at the end of the day.

I dont see why OP should have asked
They werent camping the night they were dropping of some items and would have finished within the hour when the neighbour came through OP Explained why they were there
What about neighbours being neighbourly we are so selfish .Nasty people nasty freaking bullies

Thank you for your kind words Bijou

Just another thing to add to my ever growing list of worries. Typical that we are trying to do a good thing for my DD and her baby and it all turns nasty for no reason whatsoever. It has really spoilt things for her and us too.

Seems so stupid worrying even though I know we have nothing to apologise for.

Anyway I'm off to pick up the 4 grandchildren for an overnight and tomorrows childcare. Not that I feel up to it today because I don't.

With you all the way gilly, no way would I exchange pleasantries with these neanderthals.
People who tell you to pop round and take gifts are seriously deluded, would not work, trust me.

Are you having a bad day? ?

I'm glad you phoned the management company and know exactly what the facts are regarding this parking space gillybob.
This type of confrontation does make you feel rather sick and upset, though, but now you know where you stand and, if there is any more trouble from that woman, you should log it and inform the management company straight away. I wonder if they know that she has 'a lodger'?

I hope that your DD is not too nervous and can hold her head up and ignore these bullies.

Enjoy the grandchildren's company tonight! They will take your mind off it.

25Avalon there are posts upthread that explain that this parking space does not belong to this abusive couple.

I'm surprised your DD doesn't have anything written down about access or that the Management couldn't provide something. This sort of thing was bound to have happened at some time with the arrangement she has.
With any luck the unoccupied property will be lived in soon and they might have a vehicle to park there. That will really upset the nasty neighbours and provide your DD with some entertainment!

What a good job you checked with the management company gilly. Thinking of the helpful young man I wonder if the management company have a simple list of which bay is attached to which property - as they are leased no residents ‘own’ them. If they do I then wonder if they would consider distributing it to all residents ‘for information’. It won’t stop Mr Aggressive if that’s his usual way of navigating the world but it might help your daughter relax a bit. Can I echo other thoughts here? Have a care for your safety, he sounds as if he acts first and thinks later. Good luck with the rest of the garden, it sounds quite a project.

Is this a house they own or, if rented, private or housing association? I would certainly approach the management company of there is one and get the deeds out and read them in detail if they own it.

The wall of next door's house is also the party wall between our two properties and our deeds say they can have reasonable access to our garden to maintain it. They usually ask for access for a day every year, to clean gutters, paint windows or wall or, on one occasion, to repoint the wall.

I would have thought the neighbours could quickly see that they were unloading only. Or at least have accepted the explanation when it was given.

Nasty people.

So glad you got it sorted with the management Gillybob. Anymore threats, speak to the police.

Wrong thread Ginger79 - or, are you having us on?
To answer your question......see your GP

Gilly now that you know they were in the wrong just let it lie. If they protest again just tell them calmly that you know the space is not theirs and you have permission to be there. It is not worth rising to people like that. I am sorry your DD is upset but it will pass. Under no circumstances should you apologise as some have suggested - you did nothing wrong.
You have right on your side.

Suggest you stand firm. It’s public highway and so you will have a right of use as long as you are not blocking him in. When and if he starts just call the police and tell them you are being threatened by an aggressive person and you feel frightened. Also suggest you get your daughter to talk to police as well about her fears. I had a similar silly old b.......r living next door to me who didn’t like anyone, including an ambulance when it was needed, parked outside his house. I got fed up with him one day and called the police. They were excellent and warned him about his behaviour. It worked.

Barmeyoldbat Glad someone else knows what it is like when someone thinks they own the property in front of their house, especially if they are relative small terraces. You were lucky with the police. If my neighbour was warned, it didn't show.
It is disgusting when people complain about ambulances. It is hard to understand how their mind works.

Own the road that should be, not property.