Wellness

It was me. (who told people not to be so bloody smug)

The original post would make anyone angry.

I’ve only just seen your thread gabriella and just wanted to say I’m flattered to be thought of as in the same class as MOnica whose posts I always read with interest.
I’m 70 this year and apart from taking thyroxine I’m lucky to be in good health and very grateful too.

Difficult to rise above cancer surely
But many do and are thankful (but never smug).

It was not me who introduced the word smug to the thread Monica, I merely quoted a proverb.

It sounds smug. That's all.

Callistemon, all those others saying that posters on this thread are being smugplease can you explain to me why admitting that you have goodhealth is being smug? No one has gloried in it, simply stated a fact.

Should we instead lie in our teeth claim that we have all kinds of terrible diseases, that we are terminally ill or whatever. Why is someone who has health problems so morally superior to someone who doesnt't?

All of us are talking about how we are today, as would be the case for anyone from 0 - 120. Nobody knows what will happen tomorrow. Children, teenagers, young old and middle age do not know what may hit them tomorrow. In the meanwhile I am truly thankful for what I have today.

The smug ones are the those who think themselves so morally superior that they can describe other people as smug.

Perhaps it would be better not to turn this thread into a witch hunt against the original poster.

I decided not to post on here Tuppnce

I will just say, though, that pride (and smugness) often comes before a fall.

Is there anyone out there with no illnesses, issues or disabling problems and not on any meds?
It can be quite dispiriting to read so many threads which almost always contain health issues even when it's not the subject matter

Oh dear, how very dare Gransnet members share, open their hearts or ask for advice or sympathy when they or those dear to them have health issues? Don’t they realise that some other members find it “dispiriting” to read?
Of course reading posts is not compulsory or have the rules changed?
TBH my flabber was well and truly gasted at the selfishness, sheer insensitivity and “I’m all right grans, s*d you” tenor of this OP.
No word of sympathy, no commiseration, no attempt to be cheerful, just snowflake moans that it is “dispiriting”
I can see why members with serious health issues were hurt and offended by it, not what you want to hear when your morale is at rock bottom and there may be nobody else you can share with.
I hope OP has had serious second thoughts about her nasty spiteful attitude and in addition to “apologising for a poorly worded post” regrets her poorly worded and unthinking sentiments.

Lucky so far, touch wood - but I'm very much aware that much of it's down to luck/genes. My mother came from a large and long-lived family - apart from dementia, which hit in their early 80s and is my greatest fear.

My MiL and FiL both did all the right things - never overweight, ate healthily, hardly drank, never smoked, took plenty of exercise, etc. - but one still died of cancer at 68 and the other developed dementia in his late 70s.

I apologise to Dragonfly for taking her intention to leave GN far too lightly. I had no idea what she was suffering.

So sorry Dragonfly, and the very best to you.

My mum - The woman is approaching 100 - She lived alone up until last autumn when she switched to assisted living, not a nursing home, because she can still manage relatively well - She doesn't take any medications, never did - She had a growth removed from her thyroid at some point before I was born - Suffers from allergies - Fatigue - Never took anything for them - She looked tired even when she was a child, had old eyes - She went through a period / phase of taking supplements - But aside from that she roughed it out - Colds, flu = tea, soup - Not compress, cool cloth, witch hazel - Our medicine cabinet was practically empty -

Gonegirl
I've PM'd dragonfly with apologies for a badly worded post.

Coming up to 73. Not on any medication. Very fit and active.
I put it down to indulging in anything I wanted to or was curious about ( and never going to the gym

Is this thread drifting off into la-la-land?

That was quoting a previous post.

^if we try our best to be the best physically, mentally and emotionally then we might have a fighting chance against life’s slings and arrows."

Ha!

Then I am sorry Coroline

Oh Anniebach of course not cancer - my mam died of a brain tumour at 34 when I was 14 so I would never suggest that merely thinking pleasant thoughts would ever be enough.....!

I think that what I meant was that if we try our best to be the best physically, mentally and emotionally then we might have a fighting chance against life’s slings and arrows.

at 64 of course not but i have a meditation practice of over 25 years so am very good at not noticing or worrying or dwelling on things i cannot change and appreciating their potential as a teacher of positive things - pain is simply an experience which you can focus on ad resist and tighten against or you can relax into ti and enjoy even slightly - when my collapsed discs in my spine really get going the release of endorphines give quite a pleasant high - then my chiropractor pulls it all out again for me and I am pain free for a while longer though the arthritis is just a warm burning sensation which fades very easily into the background - I'm really not showing off - I am genuinely promoting mindfulness as a way of loving life with all its complexities of age, - I would never want to go back anyway

Difficult to rise above cancer surely

Hope no one thinks I’m smug about any part of my life - like most on here I’m grateful for the good and tolerate the bad as par for the course, no one has it great all the time.

Like many, my husband went through what he thought of as a bad patch at 45, then realised at 50 that old age/poor genes had hit and this was going to continue regardless of his efforts.

I have been so lucky so far but can say that I’m now doing everything possible to minimise the risks of poor health. So many of my friends drink too much on a daily basis, eat too much rubbish/processed food, take no beneficial exercise at all and are so passive regarding their health that I despair at times.

We all have crap in our lives but our job is to rise above it X

GrannyGravy

Good grief that’s my wardrobe choices too. Same height and weight!!! Spooky!

I hope anyone who is struggling with any problems posts to ask for help/support/a moan/advice as that’s what gransnet is for surely?

Surely anyone can post about anything.

Except of course the dreaded Brexit!

I take asthma medications to keep me going.

I do not consider myself to be "ill" as it has been a lifelong condition. Normally extremely active, go to the gym 3-4 times a week.

(I am 5'2", blonde, 12 on top 8/10 on the bottom. My go to winter attire is skinny jeans and tops or knee length dresses and thick tights. - Summer is normally maxi dresses or white jeans/cut-offs and tops)

(Oh yes I am 62 in the summer)