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Lonely: One Week On!

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Bambam Sun 03-Mar-19 11:44:21

To any who were kind enough to answer my 'Lonely' post last Sunday and PM me with lovely messages and offers of friendship.
Well, I just thank you all....
I read them all through again, Sunday evening and thought, "Come on Bam, get your act together."
I'm writing this, not only to let you know about my week but I'm hoping it may inspire all the others who felt the same last week.
So, on Monday morning I went shopping for the most delicious, healthy food, no stodge, no cakes, no chocolate.
Tuesday morning, hairdressers, where she asked are you having the usual and I said no, I would like a choppy cut and blonde high and low lights.
Have absolutely "bottomed" my house, not in a frantic way but in a relaxed way with my favourite CD 's playing.
Bought myself a new skin serum and a lovely moisturizer and spent time in the shower every day and getting myself ready, with relaxing music playing in the bedroom.
Been to my classes and just got on with it, without worrying if anyone spoke to me, everyone did!
I'm in contact with a lovely GN by PM and we really 'get ' each other.
Contacted my oldest friend in Australia, who I normally ring every few months and when she happily asked how I was, said, "Great!..........Well actually, I've been feeling a bit sad and lonely the last few days," she told me, that she very often felt extremely lonely and this woman is so ' together' it's not true. So we've decided to FaceTime once a week and I've arranged to go over for about a month next year.
I'm going to join more 'things ' and do more things and I'm definately going to the next Meetup Curry Night and Quiz night!
As an aside, while I was in the hairdressers, one of the little juniors, who I was chatting with, said, "Oh, you're so funny Bam, everyone loves it when you come in!"
And you know what, I am funny, and kind, and caring and a nice person.
So I deserve to treat myself as kindly as I treat others.

Bekind Mon 04-Mar-19 13:43:17

What you are doing is SOO inspiring!!! I bet you are going to be helping many women!!!

NannaB53 Mon 04-Mar-19 13:18:41

Well done Bam! A truly inspirational post.

Startingover61 Mon 04-Mar-19 13:15:33

What an inspirational post, Bambam - and just what I needed to read this morning!
We don't always see ourselves as others see us. I've been told I'm confident, 'together', positive, etc. However, I've not always felt like that lately. Am about to move house and it seems to have taken forever, but your post has made me see how capable I've been to have organised everything on my own. Once I've moved, I'm also going to have my hair cut and coloured for a confidence boost, and am going to join things and make new friends. Your post has inspired me to book a trip to a musical I've been wanting to see for ages and which is about to come to my area. Going to do that as soon as I've logged out of here! Thank you! All the best!

Nannapat1 Mon 04-Mar-19 13:14:17

What a wonderfully positive and inspiring post Bambam! So pleased that you've shared this with us.

GabriellaG54 Mon 04-Mar-19 12:57:21

What a lovely turn-around.
I'm so glad that a little encouragement and kindness from GNers has prompted you to make these changes.
I'm sure that you look fabulous with your new hair style and beauty routine and happiness shows in our face when we take time for ourselves.
Well done for achieving so much in a short time, you really did take the bull by the horns and it worked.
flowers

Rosina Mon 04-Mar-19 12:28:31

What a lovely post to read! Good for you Bam - new beginnings. xx

kircubbin2000 Mon 04-Mar-19 12:24:11

Felt like that last week as both my pals are on holiday. Cheered myself up by starting to learn German on Duolinga!

Day6 Mon 04-Mar-19 12:19:01

I can feel the positive vibes in your post Bambam smile. Lovely to read about your week.

You have taken the bull by the horns and made things happen. Attitude is everything! Well done you!

grandtanteJE65 Mon 04-Mar-19 12:07:25

Nothing wrong with your spelling. Glad to hear about your lovely week.

Sheilasue Mon 04-Mar-19 11:56:21

Well done, that’s so positive I am really pleased for you.
Have a great week.

Matriarch Mon 04-Mar-19 11:54:13

I’m delighted to hear all this . There’s a saying “attitude determines altitude “ . You are living proof of this . Just wonderful smile

mumagain Mon 04-Mar-19 11:51:05

This post has really brightened my day . Well done you smile

ReadyMeals Mon 04-Mar-19 11:50:41

Well said! Keep it up smile

MTDancer Mon 04-Mar-19 11:43:07

What a lovely post

Grannyart234 Mon 04-Mar-19 11:42:43

What a positive post so glad you were able to pick your self up. Because you're worth it as a certain ad says x

newgran2019 Mon 04-Mar-19 11:37:14

Yes indeed! Really pleased for you, and keep it up.

PennyWhistle Mon 04-Mar-19 11:33:49

What a truly uplifting post Bam. Thanks for sharing and making our day smile smile x

Esmerelda Mon 04-Mar-19 11:25:58

What a great post, BamBam ... I feel lovely now! ??

CrazyGrandma2 Mon 04-Mar-19 11:24:38

Good for you Bambam. I sometimes have to give myself a good talking too! flowers

Framilode Mon 04-Mar-19 11:24:14

Brilliant Bambam. I am so pleased that you have taken so many positive measures. I am full of admiration.

Brunette10 Mon 04-Mar-19 11:23:36

Wow - what a lovely post from you Bam. I think we all need to do some of what you did last week. You must feel really proud of yourself. Well done. Gives us all inspiration smile

omega1 Mon 04-Mar-19 11:15:40

Lovely. It just goes to show that its our attitude that matters. We are as happy as we make up our minds to be. So lovely to be reminded of all the positive things to do with my own life too.

maryhoffman37 Mon 04-Mar-19 11:14:12

This was lovely to read! Well done for taking positive action.

Niucla97 Mon 04-Mar-19 11:11:16

What a lovely post, thank you for sharing. It just shows that we have to do it ourselves or we could sit in the house for ever waiting. Good luck

Marthjolly1 Mon 04-Mar-19 11:07:03

Oh Bambam. I can't tell you how much your post has brightened me this morning. I am so pleased for you that you are out of the doldrums and you have surely given hope and encouragement to a lot of people. You go girl ….. and may those of us that need to follow your spirit.