My lovely grand-daughter

What Dolcelatte says is true. You don't want her to feel guilty because then she will stop telling you what she is doing. I help my single parent daughter but I would never criticise her spending.

Going against the flow, but I don't think £400 is a lot to be honest, when you factor in books for her course, which are often very expensive, travel costs, personal toiletries etc and socialising. I imagine that she is spending a lot of time out and about and meeting new friends, which is what students generally do if they can afford it.

I have two daughters at university and pay them each a monthly allowance of £600, but they have to buy their own food out of that as they are not in 'lodgings'. They both manage fine but they do not live in any way extravagantly, hardly drink etc.

I would be inclined to have a face to face conversation, ask her how she is settling in, what she is doing etc, and she is likely to tell you of any problems, if you have a close relationship, which it sounds as though you do. If you suggest that she is spending too much, she is likely to clam up and feel uncomfortable and potentially guilty when she is spending money on going out or doing normal things that students do. You are giving her a wonderful gift and you say that you can afford it, so let her just enjoy it. If it's her first time away from home it may take her a little while to learn to budget, but she will get there in the end!

When my daughter went to uni we worked out what she would beed for toiletries etc and based what we gave her on that. She was in halls too. (paid for by government at that time). I see no problem discussing how she is managing. It seems a lot of money but you won't know until you ask.

£400 a month spending is a lot of money ! More than I have ?
when you sat down and worked out with her parents before she went what brought you up to £100 a week as she’s paying no rent or utilities did she have an allowance of £100 a week when she was living at home as her situation really is no different she is not paying board and lodgings and obviously doesn’t travel to uni as she’s in halls
She will probably be spending most of it on socialising
I suppose I was lucky I had no money to spare after bringing my children up unaided so my children all worked their own way through Uni and happily got their degrees They left home with no allowances. They never asked for any money and were totally self sufficient, obviously times have changed

If this were my grand-daughter, who is 25 and currently working overseas, I certainly would be able to ask her.

I'd say how worried I was because there are some odd people at uni and was one of them bullying her for money?

It depends how she sees you nananina and I'm assuming she has a high regards for you, so if you think you can speak to her, do so.

I'd prefer to do it in person rather than by phone but then recently my beloved girl has been confiding in me via FB messages as she's half a world away.

Some would say it's up to her parents to question her spending but I know my granddaughter tells me things she wouldn't dream of confiding to her parents.
I do hope it's something and nothing: a more expensive call for equipment or replacement of stolen items (so much is pinched at uni). Please let us know how it goes.

I meant her parents were giving her £200 from both of them not each!