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SueDonim Sat 01-Dec-18 21:46:07

Something similar happened to a friend who was very poorly. I think she and her dh got the wrong end of the stick, though, as she is adamant she was offered euthanasia. She said the doctor told her she could just say when she was ready and they would give her an injection and she'd be gone very quickly.

There was obviously some poor communication there. sad

mcem Sat 01-Dec-18 21:25:15

My elderly aunt was chugging along quite happily in hospital when a crass young doctor asked, right out of the blue, how she felt about DNR.
He then explained very bluntly what he was talking about. She became very distressed as she had been discussing with us whether we'd be able to have a new carpet installed before she returned home!
Couldn't he have broken it to her gently that things weren't going as well as she thought?

Deedaa Sat 01-Dec-18 21:21:25

When DH was in hospital last year an old man was brought in with a serious chest infection. With no warning a doctor walked in and said "Has anyone spoken to you about do not resuscitate?" The look on the poor man's face showed that it had never crossed his mind. Later on a very nice doctor sat on his bed and talked for a long time about the way his condition was deteriorating and whether he should be getting his family more involved in his care. Totally different approach,

M0nica Sat 01-Dec-18 20:39:22

I cannot think of a worse time. How insensitive and crass. I do hope you put in a complaint as soon as you felt well enough.

Emmaline Sat 01-Dec-18 20:35:28

I was taken into hospital last October [2017] with heart failure and I was expected to die. When I was gasping for breath a doctor came to my bedside and asked me if I had heard of DNR and then wanted me to answer yes or no. Feeling really bad I did agree not to have anything else done. However on making a recovery I decided to cancel this.
The fact is that I feel this is an inappropriate way to make any suggestion of such a subject!