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How private should a pm be?

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kittylester Sun 04-Nov-18 08:33:02

Earlier in the week gilly mentioned that she had a nasty pm and, over the years, I have had a few passive aggressive ones too. I doubt we are the only ones.

My inclination is to 'call out' the sender on the threads - would that be wrong?

To my mind these are bullying messages and we should stand up to bullies but what does anyone else think?

Who does a pm belong to? The sender or the recipient?

GillT57 Mon 05-Nov-18 13:52:23

Sorry Gilly my mistake! grin

petra Mon 05-Nov-18 13:14:10

I find a dashcam handy in those conditions merlotgran

merlotgran Mon 05-Nov-18 13:06:37

It's coming up to that time of the year when our driving ability in the snow may be called into question.

Be warned! grin

gillybob Mon 05-Nov-18 13:04:08

I suspect "she" is very thick skinned and won't give a monkeys toot petra

Just to clarify, I wasn't reported GillT57 I was just sent a rather nasty PM.

petra Mon 05-Nov-18 12:36:52

gilly
I wonder what she thought of these posts. She was active on here yesterday ( not this thread)

Madgran77 Mon 05-Nov-18 12:36:38

Lucky you Annie!!! grin

Anniebach Mon 05-Nov-18 10:22:42

I did have one from ‘Tom’ ?

harrigran Mon 05-Nov-18 10:15:04

I never had a PM from a Tom, Dick or Harry but did have a couple from Blue John, I got the impression he thought we could meet up for a good time as he lived only a few miles from me ?

GillT57 Mon 05-Nov-18 10:09:47

I have only had a few PMs and they have all, without exception, been kind, helpful and supportive. I am however, intrigued about who reported you Gilly, I remember the 'bloody' episode, was rather funny to be honest, but I am now going to spend the rest of the day trying to work out who it was......

Nonnie Mon 05-Nov-18 09:44:41

No, don't say who it is. I seem to be one of the few who don't know and I prefer to leave it that way thanks.

Bellanonna Mon 05-Nov-18 09:38:51

Good advice Cari

CariGransnet (GNHQ) Mon 05-Nov-18 09:27:05

Nasty PMs are not good - if you do receive one and are not sure how to deal with it, let us know ([email protected])

If it's a journalist getting in touch via PM (not allowed!) always let us know grin - ditto spammy stuff etc

Bellanonna Mon 05-Nov-18 09:07:01

They might take that as a reward, though, BlueBelle (the last bit)

BlueBelle Mon 05-Nov-18 08:59:12

Oh I am sorry Kitty I was really joking about not being in the ‘know’ ??I wasn’t expecting anyone to break confidences Sorry if you felt put in a bad position I m just a nosy old so and so
Anyway no one should ever send nasty pm s I ve never had one but if I did I d report it and get rid of it block the sender And send them off to sit in the corner with Tom

kittylester Mon 05-Nov-18 06:43:44

It's not my information to tell Bluebelle.

BlueBelle Mon 05-Nov-18 04:52:30

Kittylester I m so curious now.
Stop drip feeding us none knowers? I’m not in the club ?

???

PageTurner Mon 05-Nov-18 02:25:35

Oh yeah, petra, I figured out who all of you are talking about. ?
I agree, she never has anything pleasant to say..
I won't "name and shame" though. She may just have a tough life.
However, that doesn't give her the right to be nasty. Blocking is best, I think.

Apricity Mon 05-Nov-18 00:30:35

Marydoll, you do have to be careful what you wish for! ?

Marydoll Sun 04-Nov-18 23:48:47

I complained about getting no PM from Tom, now I have received a number of emails, inviting me to join dating sites.? confused

Jalima1108 Sun 04-Nov-18 22:55:57

Yes, I have checked, thank you.
Sorry, I was watching something boring on the tv, well actually I fell asleep in front of the tv.

Madgran77 Sun 04-Nov-18 22:02:02

I have received a couple unpleasant PMs ...but then as I have also managed to inadvertently put myself in the firing line on a couple of threads recently, I expect it is par for the course!
Never heard from Tom though! I feel quite neglected!

Charleygirl5 Sun 04-Nov-18 21:42:00

I hate to tell her I was told last week I can still drive! I am not racing around the M25, I no longer drive in dusk and dark and nowadays I drive locally for convenience, not that it was any of her business!

Bellanonna Sun 04-Nov-18 21:37:39

It was really cheeky, Cg!

Charleygirl5 Sun 04-Nov-18 21:29:49

Bellanonna she obviously knew more than my ophthalmic consultant re my Macular Degeneration and whether I could drive or not.

petra Sun 04-Nov-18 21:20:53

jalima
Have you looked in your in box?
gilly I hope you've blocked her.