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Dearest Ann I wrote a very long message to you on my Kindle and lost it at the very end. Wrote a shorter response before leaving for doc's appointment, and that too got lost in the ether. So... starting afresh...
You have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about. You are one extraordinary lady and have cared for your dear husband through such a distressing time. Now the time is right for both of you to receive the best professional help available to you. Your husband will be well cared for. His needs will be met by people who have chosen to work with residents suffering with dementia. You will be free to visit as often as you wish. The time shared will be stress-free. You will return home refreshed, and you will, in time, bless the tranquility of your home. Us lot are right here for you. Please continue to update us. Please, never be afraid to open your heart to us. You matter. We care.

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Panache Thank you for your much appreciated postings.

Galen and Charleygirl...your diagnosis is correct. Dupuytren's Contracture of the right hand. GP discovered several nodules that I was unaware of. A minor buggeration. In days gone by, a bible was used to bash the nodules to disperse the jelly-like stuff. Titter! GP will keep an eye on things and deal with the lumps with either steroids or whatever when they get bothersome which, at the mo', they are most certainly not.

Came home to a beautiful sunset. Here it is for you all to enjoy...

soop Galen and I are never wrong!!!!

I hope all these messages have convinced you Ann that it would be the right thing for both of you if DH could go for full time care now. You have been a super star - really. As soop says, your time together will be stress free rather than full of worry, as it is now. And, as she also said, we are here for you. And, as nannytopsy said, you should not have to cope over the weekend if your Dh is in such a state.

A little known fact soop, is that if you indeed have Dupuytens Contracture then you must have Viking ancestors. I'm a mine of useless information, me!!

Panache, it is always lovely to read your posts. I'm partial to a little drink of Bellini - how about that for your ensure?

I hope your tooth gets sorted corner, it is one of the worst pains imaginable, isn't it. Though I would like to put in a word for dentists - the one I sleep with is quite nice actually - so long as he isn't snoring!!

Anyway, I'm sorry I've been missing for so long. The wind in Suffolk seemed to blow the Wifi about a lot and since we got back we have had a few buggerations - the biggest buggeration being the resurfacing of the Idiot. I do hope someone has that leg of lamb available and hasn't eaten it!!

Anyway, off to cook up a lethal potion to give to the Idiot.

Ann - please let us know what happens.

. Clever clogs

Off to feed Tabitha. Please note - she has her own wee pantry. I also alternate between two mats each visit. One in the chalet. One airing on the boiler.

kitty Correct. I read that in the blurb. MacSporron says he'll make me a helmet with horns on. Dear of him.

Oh blimey kitty, not what you all need. Pleased to report the leg of lamb remains frozen, I’m sorry you need it. Life and the aching face is making me more than irritable, so happy to help - or hold your coat if you need it .

Hope the doctor has been ann, you deserve all the help available.

Thankyou all for your reassurance and very kind comments.
Only someone who has dealt with dementia will understand the following,
By the time the Dr came at 3pm H was much brighter, he had had tea and toast and looked really well.
He was still as confused as ever and was quite funny with the Dr asking who he was and why he was there and more importantly when was he leaving.
He is on antib's for a UTI and has arthritis in his knees,but not severe.
The Dr did agree that full-time care is the right thing for both of us.
I feel more at ease with my decision today and hope I can enjoy some leisure activities and time to myself.

Ann, I do hope that you are able to take that room for your H. You certainly can't manage him any longer. If you had to haul him around, it would be dangerous for both of you. It's quite scandalous that nobody has taken note of this before the people at the care home this week.
Another magnificent sunset, soop. You must have enough to fill a nice coffee table book. I'd buy it!

Ann my heart goes out to you. I have had experience first hand with this awful disease, first with my dad and then my mum. Your H will be well looked after and you will have time to recharge your batteries. Lots of hugs and for you. Xx

Ann I've come in late today and was initially shocked how quickly things had changed but now your further post explains a lot. In a way it's good the day care saw how difficult you are finding it to cope and regardless how much better he seemed when the GP saw him the news of a vacancy in the care home is very welcome. You have nothing to feel guilty about at all. UTIs are the devil. My dad was taken into A&E one day after the morning carer found him on the floor. By the time I got to the hospital I found him sitting naked by the bed he'd stripped back to the mattress - he was chewing something constantly which I found was a wad of tissues. I was horrified and very upset. 24 hours later he was sitting in bed and back to 'normal' after being on anti biotics

Corner so sorry you're in a lot of pain - have you tried oil of cloves - it helps for a little while.

Kitty sorry to hear the Idiot has resurfaced - would a frozen turkey work as well as the lamb - more festive

Soop are these lumps what we used to call ganglions ? It was always recommended to hit them with a big book to disperse them - I've wondered if it also works on lumpy bumpy body parts

We are once again in the seaside bungalow feeling very chilled out - in fact so chilled Mr W has been snoring for the last hour! He mis read the clock this morning and found himself downstairs at 6.30 rather than 7.30 (his day off time) announcing he'd been trying to walk down the pitch black promenade with Alfie with only the hoover light to see by??!!! Panache your dreams sound much more normal compared to his ?

Have a good night all.

,Ann have just lost a long message to you. Need to see GP but will return as soon as I return. X

Sorry a quick visit tonight as I have trouble with my tinnitus and for some reason looking at the iPad makes it worse ?
Just wanted to say that I know what you are going through ann albeit as sister not wife and I can assure you that you are doing the right thing. This is a bad and sad period to go through but you have not let your DH down. He needs that care home now and so do you. Things will become better, you will feel more at peace and have some well deserved rest. x
Quick hello to panache, soop and everyone else. kitty if you can't find the frozen leg of lamb then I have the bone from a tomahawk steak in the freezer and that should do the trick. Sleep well all

I can add little to what your other friends in the Kitchen have said, Annsixty. I am desperately hoping that you can find respite and peace of mind before your own health are impacted.
Your OH needs this care now and you need to be able to sleep at night without dreading what the morning brings.

Oh Ann please please please do not feel guilty - you have coped so brilliantly and you really do deserve a rest. You can visit as often as you like and I honestly think you’ll enjoy your time with DH so much more.
Beautiful sunset Soop.
I’ve got my thinking cap on for another flavour of Ensure Panache and am so glad you had sweet dreams last night.
The carpet assessor came today and said the carpet couldn’t be cleaned so would be replaced. So we chose one very similar to the old one and it should be here and fitted in a couple of weeks. As DH is over seventy the carpet fitters will move all the furniture and put it back and take the old carpet away. I was surprised at how easy it was to be honest, but I suppose that what we pay for every month - have only ever claimed once before.
I’m so sorry you’re still in such pain Corner, is the end in sight do you think?
I’m havin an early night so am going to bed to read my book - DGD is coming for a sleepover as DD is meeting her new man’s parents for the first time. We haven’t met him and tbh I’m a bit reluctant. I want her to have someone and to be happy but her experiences with men have been so bad and I can’t bear to see her hurt again ... Anyway goodnight everybody and sleep well.

Evening All. So pleased the GP was supportive ann, wishing you a restful night.

Flipping tooth is causing earache and really sore facial bones. Consultant will look at the x-ray tomorrow and decide if that is sufficient information, if more are needed to proceed or if basically I have to wait for the dental hospital. If he can/willdo it December 15 is t-day. It’s not so bad, just irritating.

Sounds a result with the assessor overthehills, we had one replaced just after we moved, awkward person here dropped candle wax on it, no trick would work for removal. The fiitters moved everything, took pity on us oldies and did it all. We emptied units and cupboards then left them to be moved. Hole the new relationship works out, or at least does no harm.

Dear anne so sorry to hear of such trauma but am glad that a room is now available. We always feel we should be able to do more and when we can't we feel guilty which is illogical but human. You have no reason to reproach yourself or feel guilty and deep down you will know that of course and that it is actually your heart crying out for the love of your life.

Has anyone found the solution to twitching limbs which stop you sleeping even when you are so desperately tired but still can't sleep? I haven't been doing too much, as I just can't anyway, so it isn't that. Have even taken a second dose of co-codamol to no effect during the night which is something I rarely do. Have used lavender and cedarwood EOs which make me feel drowsy but still no sleep. Can't sit, stand or lie down so have been pacing and now feeling somewhat desperate. The only good thing is my little cat, Smokie, who seems concerned and is being very sweet poor little thing - must be confusing for him.

Synonymous you must be exhausted! Might this be restless legs? I am wide awake already but that is just lots of thoughts running around. Are milky drinks supposed to encourage sleep?
I hope you can get off before too much longer. ?

Morning kitcheners, I haven’t been ill for a while because I’ve had a bit of tummy troubles that made me feel sorry for myself. Everything was too much effort. It’s a bit better today but I haven’t slept well so I’m tired.i intend to catch up with all your news a bit later in the day. My husband trouble at work looks like it’ll just be a telling off and some retraining. It has made think that maybe he should start thinking about cutting down his hours. I don’t bottle things up, but he does and I think he’d reach his limit just after the fright with our DiL. He’d been very quiet and looked flustered and upset. Then all our relatives arrived and although we had a good time after the party they came to us upset at her deterioration and for many of them came the shocked acceptance of how very ill she is. The builders still haven’t finished grrrrrr so I don’t expect that’s helping his mood. Things at my sons house are pretty stable and DiL is looking a bit better as she’s now reduced the dreaded steroids. My sister bought her some very expensive skin care (including £25 lip moisturiser, yep £25! ) and it seems to have settled her burnt skin. The children’s expectance of how she looks is amazing although they did tell her she looks like Charlie Brown because she has just one piece of hair in the middle of her forehead, their right she does. It’s her acceptance of how she looks that is truly amazing. Army son is still limping and due for another stint at the new forces rehab centre. I’m in a quandary about weather to do some housework or go back to sleep. That’s the problem with waking so early I’m exhausted by the time most people are getting up. Catch up with you all later, I promise I won’t just waffle on when I do.

Synonymous the twitching leg syndrome sounds awful - I can't think of any over the counter meds which would help you sleep but maybe some soft earplugs and a talking book or a 'white noise' recording or soft music?

Morethan I'm pleased your husband's employer has been lenient with him - good workers are hard to find and good employers should do the right thing when something happens due to stress. I hope it's eased both your minds a little. Tummy problems are horrid - hope you're feeling a bit better - this too could be all the worry you have with your DIL. What a lovely thing for your sister to do - I'm sure the skin care has been appreciated.

I've been up since 4.15 - Alfie was running around beeping and obviously bored - he's used to going out at home. We've played with catnip, the laser point and had umpteen snacks as well as using the trays but he's still wandering around with his claws clicking on the wooden floors. I've shut Mr W's bedroom door which of course means he wants to be in there so there's a pillow propped up against it - no doubt he'll fall over it when he gets up.

Last resort I will go and sit with him and read - it's worse than having children!!

Not surprised your tummy has made you stop for a while morethan, so much pressure around. I’m delighted there has been a good outcome for your husband, it sounds as if you could both do with a break for a couple of days. Wishing you all a calm day.

Is it all your limbs or just your legs synonymous? Know nothing about restless leg syndrome other than a friend has it, he watches films as a distraction when his sleep is disturbed and often drifts off to sleep on the sofa. Not much help, sorry. Sounds incredibly frustrating.

Batch cooking today as we’ve 10 days of visitors on the horizon and I’d rather be out with them than stuck in the kitchen trying not to give them food poisoning. Mr C is already anticipating the inevitable muttering when I try to get the results into our tiny freezer. It will be fine, always is, I just struggle to believe it. .

Hope the night brought some rest, ann. Take care everyone.

Good morning Kitcheners and ☕️ and ? or ? to all with miseries.
Re restless legs, synonymous have you tried Magnesium tablets? I take them to reduce leg and foot cramps in bed. Might help?
And morethan if you can get some rest today please do so. You and your family are going through so much - remember that thing about oxygen masks on a plane? Look after yourself if you can.
Hugs to everybody else - I have left some Aldi Stollen bites on the side to remove them (or me) from temptation!

I love these posts------it's like being " at home "with mum.

Thanks all for a jolly good saturday morning catch up,warts and all.
It certainly reflects life.

Just hoping you wake up feeling you are now doing the right thing by your H Ann and realise how much better life will be for him where he can be cared for by carers trained for the specific job....... two per patient.......whilst you dear lady have more than earned a complete rest before starting afresh.
Sending you another virtual hug and much love.

Feeling your pain Corner and I can only hope these judgements about extracting comes through much sooner than later,very miserable indeed if it is now affecting facial bones and earache............enough is more than enough.
Sending you another hug.

Sorry to hear of your tummy bug has caused you extra stress Morethan........whilst thankfully it seems as though your husband is getting away with not much more than a telling off, which hopefully will help calm him down.
Amazing hearing of your DiL and her courage,it certainly gives us all a little uplift.
Having her skin improve will have been a real boost to her too.......
Whilst hope you continue to improve.

Synonymous twitching legs is a condition I share with you and yes something that has come........and then gone........over a number of years.
They really are the limit...just when you fall into bed so very tired,and then these limbs start having fun and games......not at all funny.
Perhaps Maw`s offer of magnesium tablets might help ........and I shall certainly try them myself.
We shall have to exchange notes!

Perhaps Mr W. and his dreams should be compared with mine Willow!!!
Somehow I think we might have many a giggle!

Never heard of Bellini Kitty............so please excuse my lapses! But it might just be the flavour to enhance my “ensures”........I need something new already!

So your turn next I think Overthehills......great news about the carpet and one relieved mind I am sure.

Such a plethora of news this morning and I hope I have covered all those perhaps in need of a little “leg up” whilst believe me I read and enjoy them all, and I must agree with you Ellavannin...........it does seem like a family get together........... and that is why I think I find it so reassuring.

Another bleak November weekend here and I can but wish each one of you that suffer improved days,and for the remaining happy beavers starting their C Prep...... do have a good and productive day.