“Wives create their husbands”

With 42 years of experience behind us I would say it was less of 'training' him and more of finding a middle ground.

We are in a place where arguments are fairly pointless - disagreements few. And that I think is because we have learned the art of compromise.

So if any 'training' has been done - its on both sides.

It's the other way round in our house. My friend says there are "put downers" and "picker uppers". I'm definitely the first one!!

If this thread was posted by a man discussing how to "train" a wife I can only imagine the hysterical reactions.

Not sure if this is supposed to be a fun thread or not.
Although I’m happy to have mine, see thread above, I do wish I could have reprogrammed him to close outside doors.
Winters coming up and it will be a huge irritation again. Heating on and he just pops out, sometimes for quite a long pop!

I've done a proper job on DH- going to golf today while he does the housework!

wouldn't have wanted to change mine,I loved him for who he was/is not what I could change him into.Our minister friend says he knows the brides with the aisle .altar ,hymn (I'll alter him) attitude as soon as he meets them .They get to the church door and say those words as they walk towards their groom.Not the best way to start married life is it.

Well done for lasting 54 years. You got past the 52 year itch.

Mine is in the same category as yours Grey after forty-four years but, heigh ho, I don’t think I’d swop him.
As for mothers training their sons mine only starting leaving the seat up when he got a home of his own - I guess he’s in his rebellious phase!

I’m not sure that I’ve trained mine. He still seems to have a mind of his own. Maybe we’ve trained each other.
Compared with all the other husbands I know (other women’s !) I’m glad I’ve got mine, we seem to suit.
I’m sure my friends would say the same about theirs.

After 40 years mine still thinks he was born in a barn rather than a semi in Edinburgh. Never closes a cupboard door or turns a light off. I gave up nagging years ago!

polyester57and Eloethen- I actually agree with you - I just said it made me smile !

He has his toothpaste, I have mine.
Never the twain shall meet.

- I'm almost past caring!

I wish

Although after 50+ years he does put the toilet lid down. Sometimes.

52 year itch? I had better go and be a bit nicer to him

Early days yet Fennel

lemongrove I agree with you. As far my dear husband is concerned.
He is who he is, I am who I am. But TG we are compatible.
After 44 years.

lemongrove

Oh, they always have the imagination but maybe not the energy.

Varian ?. I doubt he has either the energy or the imagination.

Anyone who buys cream carpet for their hall deserves all they get, IMO. ?

I agree polyester we have to find compromises and learn to live together harmoniously.

I'm a bit worried about you *Greyduster". I have a friend whose husband left her for a younger woman after 52 years of marriage. So I hope your OH is not tempted by the 52 year itch.

We were married in 1966 (round here folk always say - that was the year that England won the Worlds Cup), so I am keeping a close eye on my OH in case he strays.

My DH has stayed resoloutely himself throughout our very long marriage.
I suspect it’s neither the wives or the mothers, just their own characters.

I think is infantilising men to speak of them in such a way. Making the same sort of comments about men "training" their wives would, in my view quite rightly, be totally unacceptable.

It is silly anyway to make such generalisations, even though probably tongue in cheek. Every person is different and every relationship reflects those differences - unlike Niall Williams' parents, it was my Dad who got cross with my Mum for squeezing the toothpaste in the middle and not putting the top back on.

I have given up with mine too, and as you say MOnica he has to put up with me !!!