A bridge too far ...?

Poppyred or anyone else who wants to see Tena for men advert.

ITV HUb, Endeavour, Cartouche, first advert break.
( I've not been looking specially, just happened to be watching it now and remembered this thread!)

Surely free bleeding is unhygienic and I don't like my laundry to look dirty before I put it back on. That goes for food stains, grass stains, etc. Nothing to do with being squeamish about blood (although it smells horrible when left for any length of time) but just basic hygiene. Oh, and it doesn't matter where the blood comes from, it just makes your clothes look dirty.

I also think it wrong to mess up other people's things but shopping for sanitary items doesn't bother me at all and I don't care two hoots where it lands in my shopping bag. Why should normal human functions be so secretive? OK I accept doors on toilet cubicles for example but shopping for menstrual products? I don't get the problem

It would be very selfish to stain someone else's sofa! I would not pee or poop in my pants why would I bleed everywhere?
If I have a nosebleed I would not ignore it and allow blood to mess up others' belongings!
There is no shame in menstruation and I hate all that nonsense in some cultures of keeping women out of circulation during the time they menstruate. I know thst many women suffer because of menstruation & lack of tampon/ towels/ cloths etc. but that is not a reason for women who do have access to sanitary towels etc abandon them in some sort of misguided sisterhood!

It never bothers me to be seen with Tena pads in my grocery bag, or to watch their advertisements on the television.

At least the ads have made incontinence more "normal" to people. I remember trying to talk my elderly mother into using Tena pads for her (very obvious) incontinence, but she'd never heard of them and didn't want to use them under any circumstances. Perhaps if they'd been more visible / normal to her , she could have accepted them instead of putting hand towels on her chairs to catch the leaks.

If a "person " bleeds, that person is a woman .no matter what they style or identity themselves.

I'm surprised people aren't wearing them superman style, over their trousers.

Oh, you can buy underwear that printed with "Not this week" and so on ...

Hello grannybeek.
Well, that makes for interesting reading.
I'm at a loss to know what to say about what I read..
None so queer as folk!

Revolting!

No, no and again ,no.

My first post in Chat, and I’m afraid I have to lower the tone! If we hate(d) having our tampons on show, what about this - the Free Bleeding movement. helloclue.com/articles/culture/whats-all-fuss-about-free-bleeding-why-does-it-matter

I also grew up with the 'keep them hidden and don't talk about it' approach, but I admire the more relaxed approach of the younger generation. I never felt able to mention anything period-related (or remotely sexual) to my mother, and still don't - even though, nowadays, I am happy to have such chats with my DiLs.

I remember a conversation back in the early eighties with a couple of friends: the considerably older husband said that he was perfectly happy to go to the shop and buy sanitary towels for his wife, as it was quite obvious that they were not for him. Calling in at the wool shop to collect some wool for her, however, was a total no-no

Oldbatty, your post was hilarious.

Poppyred Yes, Tennamen advert on TV, I’ve seen it a couple of times in the last week or so. I still can’t bring myself to go into a shop to buy Tennaladies, just in case, wish I could, It’s the age we’ve been brought up in. I still get embarrassed with the sanitary wear ads on TV, so does my DH,

I don't need tampons or pads now and fortunately haven't reached the Tena stage, though I did need panty liners not long ago after an infection. Looking back I have never felt embarrassment about buying them or been careful about who sees them. As for toilet rolls I cannot see what the problem is ... I normally buy 9 packs so you can hardly miss them.

Surely all these things are a normal part of life (and shopping). As for farting - children (and a lot of men) always find it funny, but again it is natural and often involuntary. I once had an aerobics teacher who would say, 'Well that's better out than in!' when there was the inevitable fart. It made us all laugh including the farter. There was never any embarrassment.

Oh please! Sanitary towels, tampons, Tena pads, farting - yes it happens, and I have to accompany my husband to the loo because he can't cope on his own and I also choose his menu carefully because he has difficulty swallowing, but we have our dignity!

I think the application of makeup is a private matter too (wouldn't be seen out 'undressed').

daisyboots where do you live?

Acceptance is one thing blatant openness is another i think discretion is far better what was wrong with a bit of feminine mystique? those tena ads are stupid that woman in the carnival flaffing about in a tiny costume yes right if you were that worried about wetting yourself and therefore having to wear a pad and yes i have used them as i have a bladder issue you would hardly be wearing such a tiny little costume at least keep the ads real if you have to show them

One of my DDs lives in a flat with just the one bathroom for a family of 5. DGD found she had started her period in the loo, and then found that her big brother was in the shower! No panic there - he was lovely to her and I am sure will make a good husband one day.

They were here one day and DGD was a bit miserable and her brother just said "Oh she is having her period" and was caring towards her. Such a healthy approach.

I can't be doing with all this coyness that we were all brought up with.

MissAdventure

You could use them as decorations though.
Just for the Christmas period!

mawbroon we had to ask for toilet paper at primary school and state how we needed! ? Then carry it outside to the toilet.

late-teenage .. sorry did not mean to make it sound as if they had died..

I remember being in the supermarket with my 2 late teenage daughters and realising we had a trolley full of tampons, wine and chocolate!

It is a balance between making normal bodily functions (or breakdowns!) seem something to be ashamed of and not flaunting items that may worry other people.

I think being more open is a far healthier approach and never worries ( and neither do DDs ) about packs of tampons/towels being on show in the family bathroom. I was always OK to have the packets in the trolley/basket. I am not embarrassed or ashamed of needing any items to keep me healthy or hygienic but I wouldn't use them as alternative Christmas decs or wave them about just to make a point either!