Gransnet forums

Chat

Seems daft now

(88 Posts)
gmelon Fri 28-Sept-18 11:59:47

In my thirties I was a busy tired mum of three boys.
The laundry was never ending.

My husband would throw his shirts in the washing basket, sleeves rolled up.

So I started washing and ironing them with the sleeves still rolled up, just as he left them.

It used to infuriate me that he'd been asked to unroll them before putting in the basket.

Now it seems very daft.

Can you confess to anything similar?

NotSpaghetti Sat 29-Sept-18 13:02:08

I am the one who forgets tissues and puts single socks in the washer.
I am the one that makes a mess all over the house.
I am the one who uses every pot and pan to cook and who keeps paperwork "handy", just in case...
But I'm also the one who hoovers behind the sofa, occasionally wipes the skirting boards, does all the "high up" dusting, removes empty loo rolls and finishes off the boring ends of jam, marmite and mayonnaise etc without opening a new one.
I think we are both annoying and helpful in equal measure.

justwokeup Sat 29-Sept-18 12:38:15

Oh Dot grin. Another one who irons buttoned-up shirts, if I iron them at all. Otherwise, I find those annoying things - coins in pockets, empty toilet roll holders, leaving doors open etc - only bother me so I might as well sort them out! But I'm a bit of a hoarder, which I know is annoying, so it equals out.

Pudding123 Sat 29-Sept-18 12:33:16

Yes my dh always rolled his socks into a ball ,after getting annoyed every time I hung the washing out and then asking him, politely of course ,not to do this i just hung them up in a ball and then put them on his bed so he could see them and the inner part of the socks still damp he soon got the message...

Craftycat Sat 29-Sept-18 12:22:05

What is it with men & toilet rolls? My DH changes the roll but when it still has about 1/4 of the roll left! He then leaves it behind loo & I put it back on. This goes on until it is nearly empty & I give up & use the last bit off the roll behind loo. He says as it is nearly used up it is better to have a full one.
I've given up arguing.
I refuse to iron shirts with buttons left done up & I have asked he only puts trousers in wash bin one at a time as I HATE ironing trousers & can only cope with one pair at a time.
I was spoilt as ex was happy to iron & I taught both my boys to iron when they were 11. I don't actually dislike ironing as I do it in back bedroom looking out over garden but I'd rather do it little & often than have a marathon session.

Rufus2 Sat 29-Sept-18 12:19:01

Men! Hah! ?
I've said this before, but I'll say it again, at risk of life and limb! sad
Poor hubbies cop it all the time! Whereas, you should be having a go at your MILs for not continuing basic training after their potty stage. I'm Mr. Tidy; just ask my house keeper; she's well-paid and doesn't complain.! grin

Women sometimes make fools of men, but most guys are the do-it-yourself type.

curlilox Sat 29-Sept-18 12:18:25

It infuriates me that my DH puts his dirty clothes in the washing basket, but leaves bits of them hanging outside! grin

sassenach512 Sat 29-Sept-18 12:15:20

It's the tissues left in trouser pockets that drives me up the wall. On occasions I'd forgotten to check and the washing has come out covered in paper snow, despite constant nagging (yes, I'm not ashamed to use that word because he deserved it) he still forgets and I still find myself rummaging in all of his pockets before doing the wash just in case!

Bush Sat 29-Sept-18 11:41:49

My DH leaves his sleeves rolled up and the buttons fastened on his shirts that are in the wash, leaves keys and shoes at the front door, empty glasses/mugs wherever he used them, lid of butter, bread out and unwrapped, leaves envelopes from opened post wherever he opened the post .... need I go on.

Never not want to be running around him ....

Hollycat Sat 29-Sept-18 11:41:47

I remember being furious with my daughter about the state of her room. "You tidy it up NOW! and if, when I check it there's anything on the floor, it will go STRAIGHT IN THE BIN!! After an hour or so she called down that it was done. "Right, I'm coming up, and if there's ANYTHING on the floor it will go in the bin". I opened the door to an immaculate room, but there, on the floor,right in the middle, she had laid out her school uniform!

Bellanonna Sat 29-Sept-18 11:39:12

What a vindictive lot we are ??

Situpstraight1 Sat 29-Sept-18 11:34:14

I always packed DHs gym bag, twice he rang me from the gym to say that I’d forgotten to put his sport socks in the bag.

The following week I attached 6 pairs of lacy undies to his socks with safety pins, when he pulled out his socks in front of his mates out they all came.

He now packs his own bag

Bellanonna Sat 29-Sept-18 11:28:44

Oh Granjan that’s so sad ?

DotMH1901 Sat 29-Sept-18 11:22:49

When we first got married we lived for a year with my in-laws and my lovely m-i-l did the washing. When we moved to our own home my husband used to complain that I didn't starch his shirts like his Mum used to do. We never starched my Dad's shirts as he said it was itchy! I bought a box of Robin Starch, made it up in a bucket and dunked everything of his in the wash in it. Underpants, socks, ties, shirts, trousers - they all got soaked in the starch and then ironed. I hung them up in his wardrobe (they practically hung themselves up they were so stiff). He never mentioned starching his shirts again. smile

Granjan06 Sat 29-Sept-18 11:21:09

One day your DH may not be there and you may then wish like me and many others that his socks were still being left on the floor, toilet inners not thrown away and many other trivial little things..... yes, it can be frustrating but so missed!!! Yesterday we would have celebrated our 22nd Wedding anniversary (2nd marriage for both of us) I have now been a widow for as long as we were married and still miss all his annoying little habits.

narrowboatnan Sat 29-Sept-18 11:20:50

With me it’s the shopping. We both go to the supermarket, come home, lug everything out of the car and into the kitchen then he goes and sits down in his armchair leaving muggings here to sort the bags out and put everything away. I have moaned, but get told “I’ll do it in a minute, after I’ve had a sit down” but I can’t just leave it - the frozen stuff needs to go in the freezer. Men! Hah! ?

GabriellaG Sat 29-Sept-18 11:20:11

My sons do their own laundry and better than their wives, I might add. From the ages of 16, all mine have done their own laundry (not bedlinen)
My ex had his done for him whilst working abroad and at home it was sent to a valeting/laundry service.
I would never pick up my family's clothes and that was made clear from the start, that's why none have ever been relegated to the floor or chairs. No soggy bath-towels either. I ran a tight ship. Setting out a few rules at the start means that everything runs smoothly. grin

mabon1 Sat 29-Sept-18 11:19:26

Main bathroom? How many do you have?

moobox Sat 29-Sept-18 10:59:04

When I complain about coins ruining the washing machine, it seems it was supposed to be my job to go through the pockets of trousers in the basket

moobox Sat 29-Sept-18 10:57:39

What future is there when you read this thread and just about every one of the comments rings true, lol!

missdeke Sat 29-Sept-18 10:56:33

Anything that my kids were asked to put away and didn't got put at the bottom of the stairs, anything still there the next morning (they all went that way to bed!) was put in the bin. They soon learnt that if they wanted to keep something it had to be put away!!!

JanaNana Sat 29-Sept-18 10:23:37

I used to feel the same in the past when I found all the sweaty socks thrown into the laundry basket all in a tight ball. By the time it came for the washing to be done they had all dried into a nasty smelling lump, and had to virtually be prised apart before washing. I told them (husband and son) if they wanted fresh socks every day they needed to stop rolling them into a ball, but put them in the basket properly. This worked for a week or two, then went back as before, so I started to put the smelly socks to one side in another container. When they got down to virtually the last clean pairs and were looking for the rest of their socks I reminded them of the conversation we had had previously. They finally got the message when I said they could buy themselves replacements or wash them themselves.

caocao Sat 29-Sept-18 10:22:35

Pants! My husband "rolls" them down his legs to take them off. For years I would then have to unroll them to wash them. Finally got fed up and started washing and returning them to his drawer rolled up. He finally got the message and for the most part they are now unrolled before they go in the laundry basket.
Socks used to be a variety of inside out/bunched up but since buying those clips to pair them up for washing they are now always unrolled and right way out, neatly clipped together before entering the basket. Don't know why he couldn't have managed that for the previous 27 years pre clips!

elfies Sat 29-Sept-18 10:19:48

shirt sleeves rolled up , buttons fastened and inside out ...every day for forty years . Now he's retired its tee shirts and fleeces instead

Gizmogranny Sat 29-Sept-18 10:08:25

My ex used to undress and leave his dirty clothes piled up on the floor next to his side of the bed. At first I used to pick them up and wash them but eventually got fed up and started kicking them all under the bed. One day he asked me where all his clothes were and I said look under the bed. After that he never left dirty laundry at the side of the bed - it went straight into the laundry basket.

ajanela Sat 29-Sept-18 10:07:05

I would not know where to start with the things my husband does that annoy me and I annoy him as I am untidy when working in the kitchen, whilst he is very tidy.

Shirts still buttoned, wash and iron then like that. If it is winter and he wears a jumper over his shirt, just iron the collar. Rolled up socks, chuck them in as they are.