How did the war influence our parents and how they brough us up

My dad loved the army. He had a terrible upbringing and joined in 1939 at just 19. He said it was the first time in his life that he had a pair of boots and the first time he was not hungry. Despite his upbringing he was a loving father, very involved in caring for my brother and myself

Mother was very different. Quite hard and manipulative. She was 16 when the war started. She said it gave them freedom that they had not enjoyed before. She never settled to being a housewife. She worked full time from when we were toddlers. She had quite a vicious tongue. My Nan lived with us and between the two of them, my Dad never stood a chance. Nothing he did was ever right, yet he was such a caring person. He worked shifts and cooked and cleaned . Sadly he died very young.

My dad was evacuated and exchanged one awful home for another. It has massively affected him . So sad.
Mother " could have been a teacher" if the War hadn't stopped her. Not sure about that one!!

ps I was 3 when WW2 started, so remember quite a lot about it.

My Dad served in the RNVR during WW", like other men he didn't say much about it.
But he had a strong aversion to showing anger or violence which maybe was a result of his experiences. He was by nature a quiet and sensitive man. We weren't allowed to quarrel or fight when he was around, he got upset.
As for my Mum, I could write a book! It was very hard for her, she was early 20s when it started.
My Gran mostly brought me up. No complaints.

My father never spoke about his war-time experiences to me, although he did to my brothers and later on to DH. He had been in both world wars, not just WW2, although he was just a boy in WW1 in the RN.
My mother was very good at making money go a long way and at 'make do and mend'. She preserved and bottled fruit and vegetables which Dad had grown and we were always well fed even in the years of rationing post-war. She didn't work during the war, having small children, and post-war only part-time.

I don't know if war-time experiences influenced their psyches and parenting style, although they were probably more lenient with me (post-war baby) than my siblings (pre-war babies). At least, that's what my siblings said . They always seemed fairly easy-going; mum disciplined if necessary (never any smacking) and dad would back her up if needed. 'Do what your mother says'.

Certainly my MIL had more Victorian attitudes than either of my DP even though she was younger than both of them.

Much depends where they lived.

My mum worked, had babies and survived through some of the worst bombing in the country. She had 2 children and always worked once we were in school. I do remember her saying she would keep the house clean but not spend her life polishing, because she'd seen too much highly polished furniture hanging out the side of half-bombed houses, while the woman who had polished it was probably lying dead in the rubble.
So it certainly sorted her priorities

Mine was evacuated to strict Presbyterian grandparents in the country. I think this was her happiest time. She never had a good relationship with her own mother (but I did!)

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