What makes you feel nervous?

Goodness Crazygrandma. well done!

I thought we had my aunt's funeral all arranged down to the last dot. I had written my eulogy and that was all I was expecting to do. How wrong I was! We all arrived at the crematorium and the undertakers asked me who was taking the service. I had assumed they took care of that. I found myself whisked in and given a brief set of instructions as to which buttons closed the curtains etc when it came to the committal. Everyone came in and there was I stood at the front officiating at my aunt's funeral! I'm told it was a good funeral; I was too concerned about getting through it and pushing the buttons in the right order to know

If I can do it Grannyactivist off the cuff, then I'm sure that as her chaplain you will be absolutely fine. Good luck

Glad it went well. emotional stress is extremely exhausting.

Same for me annep. About a week before a dentist appointment I start getting anxious and worried. By the time I get to his surgery, I'm in tears. When my name is called to go in, I can barely stand up and I have to force myself to walk in . He knows to ignore my ridiculous behaviour now and just gets on with what he has to do but I feel sorry for him that he has to cope with it. And that adds to my nervousness.

I dont drive but get very nervous on motorways with the lorries although we have never had an accident and OH was a long distant lorry driver,also dont like walking into pubs etc and talking to strangers.

dentist even for checkup. I pace the waiting room, go out for fresh air and when its my turn and they say ×Would you like to come this way? I always day Not really!. complete idiot.

One word...mammograms! That appointment always causes me anxiety. My mother died very young from breast cancer, and I always wonder....

Well done GA, I am sure the family were very appreciative ??

Glad all went well for you GA. Nervous tummy and panic attacks - when I am worried about my children and DGC, husbands hospital visits mainly and driving somewhere new.

Glad it went well OP. I'm the same, Starbird I often feel nervous if I have to drive somewhere unusual. To ease my nerves I set out what I hope will be a quiet route beforehand and it seems to help.

I also knew it would go well because you and the family are friends and they would have been pleased you were doing it.
Nothing worse than an officiate who gets the name wrong and hasn't a clue who they are talking about.

It must have been nerve racking though so well done.

I get scared when driving at night in bad weather and try to avoid it.
A bat flying around my living room while I was ironing was alarming. Two jackdaws came down the chimney while I was in charge of my baby GD. They flew into the room, made for the window and smashed the glass trying to escape.
I grabbed baby and left them to it.

I’m sure the funeral will have gone well for you as you had prepared thoroughly and, having known the deceased, you would speak from the heart.
My most nerve wracking experiences in the past were Ofsted Inspections. When I look back at my lifelong teaching career, those are not amongst my most treasured memories!

I felt the same way Ethelj. As eldest daughter, I was asked to speak at my mother's funeral. I'm an emotional being, and there was no way I could stand up in front of so many family and friends and talk about her. My sister did it very well.
Well done GA, I have enormous admiration of you.

Well done Granny activist it must have been very difficult to officiate when you were close to the deceased. I have always been very afraid of public speaking and although I wrote the address for my mother's funeral I had to ask other close family to deliver it.
I too find as I have got older I worry about more things and seem to get nervous about everything even things that should be enjoyable, because I always imagine the worst.

Thank you GG13. That first statement is so spot on.

Btw - I most definitely WON'T be taking bookings other than from people I'm already Chaplain to.

Well done, grannyactivist.
Yes, I can well believe you were exhausted - emotional stress certainly takes its toll. ?

Hello to all you supportive folks.

The funeral service did go well apart from the verger making a slight mistake with the exit music, which he put on too early and I had to speak over it until he reduced the volume - a matter of seconds really and few people would have noticed.

Once I arrived at the crematorium I went into work mode and thereafter I was fine. It helped that everyone remained engaged throughout and people were looking directly at me as I spoke. Most importantly the family were very pleased with how it went and the daughters' tribute to their mum was a really clear 'word picture' of who she was. People said positive things about the service afterwards and two people asked me if I take bookings so that was encouraging. I was completely exhausted when I got home though - emotional stress is more tiring to me than physical hard work.

Fail to prepare - Prepare to fail.

I was taught this at school.

I get nervous all the time, I worry that I will not be able to find a parking space, I worry that I will get stuck on the M25 desperate for the loo (has happened and will probably happen again).

I get nervous meeting new people and new situations now, where as previously I embraced everything new.

Is this just another 'age thing' if so I am getting quite cross with the aging process.

I think the key to any occasion, happy or sad, is the preparation. Seems that you have done all that needs to be done in advance so perhaps you can relax a bit now. You want to do your best and have done as much as possible in advance. I remember my fathers funeral, the priest kept getting his name wrong...........

In days of yore (thankfully!) it was board meetings that brought on gentle tremors in me. I knew my subject inside out and my department was pretty streamline but there was always someone who managed the difficult 'put you on the spot' question. It took me a while to master the mature art of saying 'I'm sorry, I don't know the answer to that but I will get back to you' instead of a cover-up fumble of words. I would go straight back to my department, find the facts, convey them directly to the questioner and then circulate a copy to all other board members. Didn't ever take all the colly wobbles away but certainly improved things for me. I'm so loving the joy of retirement. Busy but without pressure. Wonderful.

Grannyactivist - will you let us know how it went? And thank you for sharing - we all have things which make us nervous, but don't always feel able to say so.

Going into the unknown. Not knowing what to expect makes me nervous. Yesterday, I went to choose some new glasses. I was so glad I had looked up what the shop had to offer first. By the time I entered the shop I knew what I needed by way of x2 pairs x1 clear glass with blue filter and x1 pair that will change to shades for summer. Both reduced thickness. It gave me more confidence to say.

I am sure you will do great. If the family are pleased with what you have done so far I am sure it will be fine.
Good luck anyway and celebrate the persons life.

These days it seems everything makes me nervous