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starbird Thu 16-Aug-18 09:19:30

Driving somewhere new does it for me, I have a small car, quite old but regularly serviced, but if something happens at 60 mph you’ve had it (and if you do less on certain roads you become a nuisance to others). I take a ‘scenic’ route wherever possible.

B9exchange Wed 15-Aug-18 16:58:10

DD or DiLs going for baby scans, I'm so aware that things might not be perfect, awaiting the result of one now and fairly terrified.

Grammaretto Wed 15-Aug-18 16:55:59

I hope it went well.

grannyactivist Wed 15-Aug-18 13:12:01

Okay - I'm off to the crematorium now, sweaty palms, butterflies in tummy, dry mouth and all.

harrigran Wed 15-Aug-18 12:57:13

I do not get nervous now, having stared death in the face nothing much can worry me.

rubytut Wed 15-Aug-18 11:50:46

Driving on a motorway or some dual carriage ways. If I am invited somewhere or have an appointment my first thought is the driving route and the day before I cannot sleep. This has been for the last 5 years.

Billybob4491 Wed 15-Aug-18 10:53:24

What makes me nervous? hospital appointments for my husband to see his Consultant always brings me out in a sweat.

Willow500 Wed 15-Aug-18 10:48:36

I'm sure you'll be fine - as you knew the deceased personally this will make your service very special to her family.

It's driving that makes me nervous these days as I do it so rarely - that and the fact that I've now got a much smaller car and engine so don't feel quite so confident in it any more. I have to go to London next week for work by train and plane and must admit I'm a little nervous of that - even though I've travelled on my own quite a bit it's been some time since I last did it. Also meeting new people there which is always a bit scary!

grannyactivist Wed 15-Aug-18 10:36:10

I think you're right about the context kitty. Weddings and baptisms are such happy occasions that I'm sure a bit of humour will override any slip ups, also I do many more of those than I do funerals; the last funeral I took was an internment two years ago. This is being held at a crematorium that I've visited often, but never officiated at before. The daughter sent me a lovely reassuring email a couple of days ago, so I sense she understands how much it matters to me to get it right.

Luckygirl Wed 15-Aug-18 10:32:32

Long journeys - I hate everything about it! Why do I go on holiday? grin

I worked for a brain injury team and the worst case scenarios are engraved on my memory.

lemongrove Wed 15-Aug-18 10:15:45

You are understandably nervous about officiating at a funeral GA ( who wouldn't be?) Good luck with it, hope it goes well.
Had to chair a meeting recently at very short notice ( not huge about 30 people) and it was fine, but was nervous just before doing it.It was more the short notice than anything else, as ifI am prepared, then no problem.
Long drives to unknown places, especially if dark make me nervous, but thankfully don’t happen often.
Giving bad news to somebody also makes me nervous ( of their reaction I guess.)

kittylester Wed 15-Aug-18 08:51:41

Posted too soon!

I gave a friend who is a celebrant and she also worries about funerals. I suppose because everyone else is nervous and it really matters whereas mistakes are part of the fun for other celebrations.

kittylester Wed 15-Aug-18 08:49:02

I'm sure it will all be fine GA but going to funerals makes me nervous even if I have no attachment to the deceased.

Anniebach Wed 15-Aug-18 08:41:32

Housing officer’s house inspections, my bungalow is clean but my tummy churns when she goes into my bedroom , one’s bedroom is so private .

Mapleleaf Wed 15-Aug-18 08:36:14

I'm similar to you, ninathenanna. It's driving to somewhere new, especially if there's an appointment involved, that keeps me awake!

ChaosIncorporated Wed 15-Aug-18 07:06:23

I do hope the service runs smoothly for you grannyactivist

I am always nervous when a client with a red flagged risk assessment arrives for a meeting which I know will upset them. The mask stays in place, and logically I know the panic alarm is in reach and other staff are nearby, but there is always a sweaty palm sensation.
Silly really, as the safeguards are always in place and when incidents have occurred they have never been in those controlled meeting situations.

ninathenana Wed 15-Aug-18 06:49:20

I'm sure you will conduct the service with dignity and sensitivity ga but I can see why you are nervous.
I don't do anything that keeps me awake or gives me sweaty palms but I do get nervous of driving long journeys. Not sure why as with SatNav it's hard to get lost maybe it's fear of all those idiots on the road.

jenpax Wed 15-Aug-18 06:48:48

I often represent clients in tribunals and occasionally county court.I get extremely nervous every time despite having done this for nearly 20 years!
I am generally ok with public speaking which I also have to do fairly often! but I do get anxious if I am delivering training?

grannyactivist Wed 15-Aug-18 06:40:49

I'm privileged to be officiating at a funeral service today and I'm feeling quite nervous. As her Chaplain I knew the deceased well, and at the request of the family I was with her when she died. I very rarely feel nervous when I'm taking other services and I often speak to large audiences, but leading a funeral feels like an enormous responsibility and requires a huge amount of trust from the family as I write the whole service myself. So, I've been awake for a couple of hours now - even though the outline has already been agreed with the family I have it here on the bed with me just checking and double checking everything. I've even got my clothes ready and the service isn't until this afternoon.
So, what nerve-wracking things do you do that gets your palms sweaty and keeps you up at night?