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Oops- I’ve put my foot in it!

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sluttygran Thu 09-Aug-18 13:27:09

Today is my 70th birthday, and at the weekend my dear children have organised a nice tea for me at a posh local hotel. It’s supposed to be a secret, but DGD age 4 has let the cat out of the bag - but that’s our little secret!
Last weekend I was treated to dinner and opera by gentleman friend, so it’s fair to say that I am an extremely lucky and very spoiled Nanna.
My darling daughter planned to take me and her brood our for lunch today, and grateful as I was, I pleaded a headache as I longed for a little stillness and peace.
I wish I had gritted my teeth and gone along with her plans, as I fear I have upset her. She is so kind and I love her dearly.
I really appreciate all the effort that’s been made to give me a special time for a landmark birthday, but I am not the party animal I used to be.
My grandchildren are the highlight of my existence, but I babysit a great deal because of daughter’s work commitments, and most of my days are spent in a welter of nappies, spilled drinks and quite a lot of pasta and vegetables in every nook and cranny! I found myself longing for a day of doing absolutely nothing except relaxing and pottering.
Unfortunately I now feel very selfish and mean for putting off the invitation, and don’t know how to make amends.
Have other Gransnetters had similar situations, or will I have upset the legion of poor grandmothers who have far too little contact with their beloved grand babies?

glammanana Fri 10-Aug-18 13:56:47

Enjoy your birthday sluttygran and do not feel guilty about having a day on your own at all,I enjoy my own company every now and then and can spend a day not answering the phone or using internet, just chilling and relaxing does you the world of good.
Look forward to the week-end when I'm sure you will be really spoilt again by your family.

sluttygran Fri 10-Aug-18 14:18:59

Thank you all for your understanding comments. I’m feeling much better after a restful day and am looking forward to my party tomorrow.
My daughter understood that I was exhausted, and we are having tea at my house today, with my son who is also visiting.
I shall let you know how my ‘surprise’ party goes! wine

Melanieeastanglia Fri 10-Aug-18 18:23:18

Just ring her and say you're sorry if you upset her but you were feeling really ill that day and may have been a bit sharp. Say you'd love to go to lunch with her another day and you're very grateful for her generosity.

I am sure she'll accept this. I certainly hope so.

annodomini Fri 10-Aug-18 19:18:12

Happy birthday sluttygran, as of yesterday. Your 'surprise' party will be great fun and I hope there are some parts of it that really will surprise you.
I'm sure your daughter knows you will enough by now to understand and forgive you for needing a bit of time to yourself, so do make that phone call and tell her you meant no offence.

Bluegal Fri 10-Aug-18 19:50:36

sluttygran - another who doesn't think you are unreasonable. I love all my kids/grandkids but sometimes I need my own space too.....if only to recharge the batteries! Nothing wrong with that.

Sounds like you have a lovely, loving family and happy birthday from me and hope you enjoy your party