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Would you have a disco at your wake.

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Baggs Sat 09-Jun-18 09:35:35

How would you like your loved ones celebrate your life.

In whatever way they choose. Since I won't be there any wishes of mine (not that there are any) can go by the board.

Besides, I trust my loved ones to do me justice, if that's what it's about. I have their love and respect now so presumably it will survive my death.

Teetime Sat 09-Jun-18 08:30:10

We are leaving instructions for Cremation only no service, no wake, no party nothing.

Panache Sat 09-Jun-18 08:17:24

Am not thinking that far ahead, whilst of course, I shall not be attending the "wake or party" anyway!!!!

However I would like the simple fact I tried making the most of life uppermost .....whilst my motto "If I can help somebody......" perhaps having others thinking in a similar way.
Certainly a disco would NOT feature in it (I hope!!)

Greyduster Sat 09-Jun-18 08:15:38

I was talking to my Sister in Law recently about a funeral she had been to the day before. She said “They were dancing when I left! Never seen that before!” Neither have I. Not sure I would like it at mine, although with the likely one man and next door’s dog in attendance, it probably wouldn’t work anyway grin!

Luckylegs9 Sat 09-Jun-18 07:41:34

I hope someone turns up, if they do I would want them to celebrate my life and their part in it and eat, drink and be happy.

cornergran Sat 09-Jun-18 07:18:37

My father requested a ‘party’ atmosphere at his funeral and wake. We respected his wishes, it represented him, our adult sons we’re fine with it, but I hated it. Our family is geographically spread, it was very hard to have a conversation, there was no opportunity for quiet reflection. We’re all,different in life and it seems reasonable that the way our life is celebrated will also be different.

Billybob4491 Sat 09-Jun-18 07:05:11

How would I like my loved ones to celebrate my life - certainly not by drinking and dancing!

MawBroon Sat 09-Jun-18 06:39:31

Not my type of thing at all, I like to be able to talk to people and while of course that wouldn’t happen at my own , now that thecweddings have “dried up” , funerals are the principal opportunity for the extended family to catch up.
I hope mine would feature nice food and drink and some (fond?) recollections.

Willow500 Sat 09-Jun-18 05:36:13

Sounds like a great idea as long as the music wasn't too loud - the wake is always a lovely get together where family and friends reminisce about the dear departed so they'd need to be able to hear each other.

notanan2 Fri 08-Jun-18 23:00:12

it's got nothing to do with me, I won't be there.
If it's what my loved ones feel they need then I see no problem with it

Nanawind Fri 08-Jun-18 22:47:02

No Irish connections good old fashioned South Yorkshire family.

lemongrove Fri 08-Jun-18 22:32:09

This sounds like an Irish wake Nanawind grin
Sure, you can’t beat a good wake!

Well, I won’t be around to dictate what happens, but I would prefer them to all go and have a lovely meal in an Italian restaurant, with wine flowing of course.

Nanawind Fri 08-Jun-18 22:11:24

Have been to the funeral and wake of an old friend 12 noon start. After the buffet the music started and everyone started drinking and dancing, we left about an hour ago as couldn't drink anymore and it's still going strong it's a party atmosphere. He was always the life and soul of the party so I'm sure he'd of loved this.

How would you like your loved ones celebrate your life.