Would you have a disco at your wake.

lyndylou
me too.and rosalita(was pretty much what happened and husband would sing it to me)

I'd like my funeral to be a time of happy memories - no dirgy hymns but joyful songs of the family's choosing - ones they think I'd like. I want a basket coffin and a cremation with my ashes scattered somewhere in a place where I've had happy times - no grave as such. And I'd like everyone to have a good party. If they wish to do something particularly special I'd like 2 doves to be released

I want my children to spend as little as possible on the cremation then come back to the house with friends and relatives and blast out Born To Run and Thunder Road. Then they can do what ever they like, I just like the idea of Bruce serenading my soul into the afterlife. Not that I believe in souls or afterlife really, I just find the idea vaguely comforting.

Both hubby and I want to be burried in a natural burial ground (everything is biodegradable). There are shrouds now that are secure enough to carry with 8 tie handles. We’ll go for those, you can put them on a stand and do your own thing. There will be a buffet brought by those attending, Springstein, Queen and other favourites playing on a speaker, flowers from our garden and our dogs, if we still have dogs then.

I have planned mine no flowers bring a bottle for party afterwards

Yes I would ;0) !! .... I want my children to have a break from all the grief .... I also want the mana mana song from the muppets ;9) .....

My husband’s auntie lived to be a hundred and at her cremation service there were lots of stories about her long life. We were all in tears,until the final piece of music which was ‘Wish me luck as you wave me goodbye’ ! We all left with smiles on our faces.

I would like people to celebrate my life. But just have a quiet drinkand some nice food with family and friends, so they can chat and enjoy meeting up.

pollyperkins my granny used to tell amazing stories about Irish wakes where people played tricks on each other all while the corpse was laid out on the table in the centre of the room.They were including him/her in their fun before he left for good.Some of the "tricks" included a mourner having the corpses hand put in his pocket while he prayed ...he had owed the dear departed money and hadn't paid it back before the death.They didn't see anything wrong with having a laugh and neither did the debtor once he got over the shock .

To be honest -no way!! I hate discos at the best of times and I think it would be totally inappropriate. I've never been to a funeral where that happens. It's usually a meal or a buffet where people can get together and chat, perhaps with some photos of the deceased and maybe a book to write memories in.

Hm.sadly we'l be gone so cant complain!?but in irish wakes yes they do get rowdy a bit ive heard.however would like to strike a midway between 'happy as larry'& morose!you could always write how you want your funeral in your will i suppose?

Same as us Teetime, as little fuss and expense as possible.

For those who have mentioned leaving their bodies to anatomical research, please be aware that, for whatever reasons, they do not accept every single body offered so you will need a plan b. If they do accept they then undertake to present the body for burial/ cremation within 2 years at their expense. These were the rules when i retired in 2011 but i cannot 100% vouch that things have not changed since then.

Leaving my body to forensic science. They leave it to decompose naturally on the earth, not in it, not in a box or any other covering. There are fields and woods owned by the government where this takes place, so that police monitor stages of decomposition in varying ways to help solve murders where the body is not found for days weeks years etc.
How my children deal with this won't be my concern.

Been to a few funerals here in this Country, they are very sombre affairs, dreary music, flowers all over the altar, only to wilt next day once left on the grave, a donation would have been better.Here they do funerals like "state funerals" very formal, no nonsense, definately not lively music. I would like a celebration of my life, no dreary hymns, nice hymns, then after I would like everyone to enjoy themselves have music you can talk over, not disco music,eat and drink and have a good chat.
Has anyone noticed at a funeral, well here anyway, the person who is deceased is talked about as though they were an angel on earth.
I amglad I wont be around to see what happens, as long as they take my ashes back to the UK, otherwise I will haunt everyone!

One of my best friends, had a huge screen with pictures of her scrolling through. Her nephew got his guitar out and we were dancing away, it was very fitting because that’s how she lives her life dancing the nigh away. Whether she planned that I don’t know, best funeral I have been to. It was a celebration of her life not her death. Personally I don’t want a funeral

We held the wake for my DH 6 weeks ago. We called it a Celebration of his life and after a very simple service at the Crematorium (1 hymn, Country and Western music) no processions no brass handles(as he instructed) we went to his favourite hotel by the sea, There were my children and his children (2nd time around, we were!) lots of friends and neighbours and we had displays of photographs of him throughout his life. It was heart warming to have everyone around me and I hope to depart in a similar way!

No gloom or doom for me - not how I've lived my life so why should a small fact like being dead change anything? I'm having a quick crem - no one there. Then 6 months or
so after a celebration/service of my life. Everyone to wear party or bright clothes. Picture of me looking gorgeous and young carried into 'another one bites the dust' by my DGC lots of video recollections, Elgar, gospel choir, lots of stories from friends, family (videos no tears lots of funny ones and no eulogies please). Ending up with a party after fab food, 12 midnight fireworks display - my ashes in a rocket shot up leaving a written trail 'Goodbye darlings!!!' Freddie Mercury blasting out Mr Fahrenheit lyrics include
'Tonight I'm gonna have myself a real good time
I feel alive and the world I'll turn it inside out - yeah
And floating around in ecstasy
So don't stop me now don't stop me
'Cause I'm having a good time having a good time
I'm a shooting star leaping through the sky
Like a tiger defying the laws of gravity
I'm a racing car passing by like Lady Godiva
I'm gonna go go go
There's no stopping me
I'm burnin' through the sky yeah
Two hundred degrees
That's why they call me Mister Fahrenheit
I'm trav'ling at the speed of light
I wanna make a supersonic man out of you'
Tasteless, different but will cheer up my beloved sons and my grandkids who call me Fun Nanny. Can't wait - oops perhaps I can for a while....LOL

Nanasam Sorry, what does AC stand for?

At mine I hope there’ll be some weeping and wailing, not too much, and then a lot of happy reminiscing over a cream tea. .

I think I'm going to donate myself to a teaching hospital. I had wanted to donate myself to the mad scientist Gunter Von Hagens (plastination pioneer) but I think that's too much for my dd to cope with!.
So if I'm not there for a funeral (cremation) then I'd really like anyone who gives a hoot to party! Lots of loud rock music, maybe even a live band ?.

My husband's service, who passed away recently, was eclectic and perfect. He is Welsh so it was an eclectic mix of Welsh (we don't live in Wales. I took him out of the valleys) secular and Christian.

We belong to an independent contemporary church so the pastor who is young anyway is happy to accommodate what you want.

It was Welsh music to go in and at the finish, with 2 secular songs and 1 Christian contemporary song. The eulogy by our eldest. Prayers and tribute by a dear Welsh Christian friend in our church. A short biblical reading by a Christian friend and a short talk on the biblical reading with Christian committal.

Afterwards it was back to our church for buffet and chats. My DiL mom bought our Grandson who is 10 months old (7 months at the time) to the gathering after which lightened it up a bit.

Me I want similar without the Welsh stuff as I am not Welsh. It will be secular and Christian contemporary music for me too and similar afterwards to my husband

Secular will be our wedding song I walked down the aisle to David too. Your beautiful the Christian song and Forever young by Bob Dylan.

I love quirky and different. I wouldn't want a disco. As I don't drink alcohol the gathering afterwards will be held, like my husband's, in our church

I've told my kids not to linger at the cemetery crying, and to go to a nice pub and have a good old knees up like I used to love to do in my younger days.
My sisters partner organised her funeral and we were greeted at the chapel with "Bat out of hell" full volume, and no hymns. I'm not religious but it didn't feel right. I felt cheated.

As I won't be there to argue then they can do what they want.

'Celebrate' my life? Don't think so. Just hope that if and when anyone thinks of me it's with a gentle smile and a thought somewhere along the lines 'She was very okay'

We had my mums wakein our back garden on a beautiful sunny day. It was lovely, close family and a friend or two. At the end when my dad was leaving with my sister he said thanks that was lovely I enjoyed it so much and we will have to do it again.!