I'm on a rollercoaster

Goodness me, purplepoppies, what a rollercoaster of a time you are having just now. No wonder your emotions are all over the place. There’s been lots of good advice already given here which I can’t add to other than to say give yourself time and also don’t be afraid to sometimes say you don’t feel fine. Sending you and best wishes.

PURPLE POPPIES. ...Congrats on the birth of your ñew little one. -ENJOY....

Ŕe the loss of your friend ... Sending virtual hugs.


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So good to hear your dd is fine now and you will be able to enjoy your dgd Losing a dear friend is very painful but keep thinking of those happy memories. She will always be in your heart. Good to hear you have supportive friends. Wishing you a very happy summer.

Such a lot of fear, grief and joy...You must be in turmoil. Wish I could give you a hug.

I fully understand what it is to be on a rollercoaster of emotion, and I feel for you. Over the last two years I have had some of my happiest times and some of my saddest. My emotions are all over the place and I have cried more tears than I like to think about. I send you hugs Purplepoppies. I love a hug more than anything.

So glad your daughter is on the mend and very sorry about your special friend. Take care of yourself shock is a nasty thing

If you feel you need to talk it all out with someone who will listen, without giving advice, who is impartial and there for you 24 hours a day, you can always call Samaritans, on 116 123. It is free to call. They are there even when nobody else is around.

With so much in the way of shock, sadness and joy it would be unusual if you didn't feel completely battered. I hope you do see your GP for something to lift you over this time, and please do have a good sob for all the grief, joy and worry - it does let off steam and make you feel better. Tears really do have a purpose. Bless you.

Purplepoppies - too much emotion for you all at once and the threat of losing your daughter has taken its toll - see your GP and request counselling on the NHS - this will give you a space just for you with a trained professional who will listen - you will feel better - self-care is really important - make the move - good luck

for you & raise a glass of or & toast both the happy memories of your dear friend & beautiful DGC, also your DD's speedy recovery. Allow yourself to grieve, it's ok to cry if that's what you need to do.

Two very emotional occasions Purple poppies. Please take a little time to yourself to manage these

Congratulations oon the safe arrival dgd and glad to hear you daughter ok . Don't pretend to be ok if you feel like crying or talking about your friend do people will understand ??

grief is the price they say for love. You've been through a frightening time and then a loss which has shown you how fragile and precious life is and how much we should never take it for granted. No wonder you feel like a butterfly in a hurricane. But I dealt with the loss of my beloved parents by re-reading over and over again this wonderful poem www.poemhunter.com/poem/death-is-nothing-at-all/ I do say their name and laugh and remember - and one day I'll walk through a door into that same room and find find family and friends who have gone before waiting to wlecome me, as I willl my loved ones when it is their time. Sending much love and hope friendships here although we may never meet in person do sustain you.

Bless you .. you have been through a wonderful event tinged with trauma and ending with sadness of the passing of a dear friend ... look after yourself and take time to grieve your friend ... you are allowed to enjoy your new granddaughter ... I am sure your dear friend would want this for you ... if you feel the need to talk to somebody because of the turmoil you have experienced their are professional counsellors .. it’s not for everybody but counselling always helps me .. I had many bereavements in an 18 months period and counselling helped me so
Much ... congratulations on the birth of your darling Grandaughter .. a true blessing for your all ?

I think it's all been said so and (((hugs))) from me.

What a rollercoaster of emotions you have been through ! Cry as much as you need to, it so helps letting go of sorrow and will help you stay strong and focus on the positive things in your life ??☀️

Congratulations on the new dgd . I'm glad for your that your daughter out of danger. My mother said when I apologised not being able to get to her mother,s funeral and explained I was pregnant and very sick and had not wanted to worry her while her mother was fading fast" a new life for an old". Grandmother was in her 90s so it wasn't unkind and made me feel I hadn't been thoughtless.

Purplepoppies congratulations on the new baby and that your DD is recovering. These are the things to hold on to so that you can keep smiling. Always sad to lose a dear friend and I hope you will allow yourself to grieve properly. Bottling things up and putting on a brave face are more harmful than many of us realise so do 'break the sound barrier' and talk about your loss as it will do you good to release some of the emotions which are putting you in a spin. You may well find that in your friendship group you are all really feeling the loss and talking about your friend will help you all. Sharing happy memories of her is a good thing to do and will help you all to smile when you think of her.

Purplepoppies I had quite a similar experience, witnessing my DD's emergency C section go horribly wrong. Thankfully it all ended ok, mainly down to the fact the head consultant was on call but, it could quite easily have ended in a different way.
I think the sheer relief numbs any real feelings and it actually wasn't until I was back at work that something triggered my memory and I ended up having a total meltdown.
I still undergo counselling 5 years after, which helps tremendously.
I'm sure all my friends and family would think I would be the last person to succumb to PTSD but I've accepted the fact this is what it is and deal with it accordingly.
Sending warm hugs and congratulations on the birth of your DGD

This is such good news. Sometimes after a traumatic birth Mother can suffer from PTSS. This can occur any time and take the mum quite by surprise as they are unaware how much birth trauma can affect them. My DiL had it two years after the birth. Fortunately by son is in the medical profession and was quickly able to recognise the signs and get her therapy.

Obviously you won’t say anything to your DD, but if she does become unwell, for unexplainable reasons, it may be worth investigating this.

Of course it is not all mothers, but we were in a much better place to help my DiL by knowing the full facts.

Such a sad and happy time for you PP my OH and I are going to the funeral of his best friend of 50yrs+ today and it will be a very sad day for him,we are also overjoyed at the birth of our 2nd GGC (little boy) 2 weeks ago and the birth of a DGD from our DS & DIL at the beginning of the week so today we are a family of very mixed emotions.
Take care of yourself and keep posting and let us know how your DD is recovering.

I knew you would all be wonderfully supportive and have kind words of support and encouragement. It means so much. Thank you ❤

Sorry for your loss. Congratulations on your new DGC and glad your daughter is okay.

It is so strange isn't it when this happens. My mother died 2 days after I watched my DD give birth to a little girl - I did not know what to feel.

She is now about to be 13 and is asking for "rat accessories" for her birthday!!!!

Panache - a new baby! - how wonderful. A new life.

My dear Purple poppies, you are certainly having a very rough ride at this moment in time.My heart simply goes out to you.
Yet the strange and beautiful happening in your life (as I have witnessed time and time again) is as you loose a dearly beloved, there is a new birth.
I know that does not mean one has made way for the other,but it gives your grieving heart something pleasant to focus on, and it gives back a message of hope.

Whilst of course, almost losing your own beautiful daughter would have torn you to shreds.
Such elements of raw pain in a very short space of time hurts so deeply.

In a short space of time your emotions have had a real roller coaster to deal with and I am sure you are completely spent deep inside.

However speaking out,sharing your pain,your grief.............not forgetting your joy too.............it is most cathartic and I hope and trust it has served you well.

Assuring you of all our understanding and knowing each one of us are also supporting you along with your family and friends hopefully will be a real consolation.

I am quite happy to talk with you privately if you think it might help some more.

I am another with this silly grin and forced smile far too often,but I am............at long last.........learning the value to speak up,speak out,tell it as it is.
Furthermore I feel better afterwards.

So wishing you continued blessings with the full recovery of your daughter and much pleasure with the new little babe.............whilst of course grieving will take its own time.

Thinking of you dear Purplepoppies..........[flowers} and some [ sunshine] needed in your life for sure.